Xiaoli has just moved to a new home, every time she goes out, it is basically a fixed time point, and she will basically meet a middle-aged woman with a small child in the opposite neighbor. But what made Xiaoli feel strange was that. If the middle-aged woman is a grandmother, she feels that she is not so old, and if she is a mother, she also feels a little older.
So much so that Xiaoli has always been curious about the relationship between them. Later, when I became acquainted, I learned that the child was indeed the child's mother. It turned out that the two couples had an eldest daughter who was 19 years old and was out of college, so they rarely saw each other. This little girl was her sister.
Over the years, the two-child, three-child policy has followed. Many middle-aged couples began to stir, in the previous era, not only was the policy not allowed to have a second child, but also the two couples also had to work to make money, and they had no energy to have a second child. In fact, the couple has always wanted a child. In fact, if the husband and wife are over 40 years old and fight for the second child, the boss will be very embarrassed in the future, and he will also suffer a lot.
For Dabao, adding new family members is also a problem. Especially every time outsiders see it, some people will even talk about their children without a cover. Those who don't know are not guilty, but every time Dabao hears such words, he will want to find a hole in the ground and feel very embarrassed. Although I have become an adult, after all, I am still a student, but I am said to be said, and I feel like a bad girl or a bad teenager.
In this way, Dabao will not like Xiaobao, and at the same time, Xiaobao is still young, and his parents may take more care of him. In this way, the treasure that was previously enjoyed exclusively will inevitably have a psychological imbalance. In this way, xiaobao will look unpleasant, and dabao with small hearts and eyes will even bully Xiaobao when there is no one in the family. In this case, the family relationship is not harmonious, and the husband and wife will also be exhausted.
Now in medicine, women over the age of 35 are called advanced maternal age, and many female friends are not convinced, obviously this age is not counted, and what is judged to be advanced age. Of course, this advanced age is for the reproductive age, not the entire life stage.
In fact, after the age of 35, the female body is undoubtedly going downhill. Even if you pay attention to maintenance and the like, it only makes the female friend look young on the outside, and the overall physical fitness is still slowly declining. In the past, when I was a great aunt, there was no case of dysmenorrhea at all, and after 35 years of age, I felt that when I came to menstruation, the whole person had back pain, and sometimes it was difficult to take medicine to control. It can be seen that a 40-year-old baby is indeed a bit difficult for himself.
In addition, taking care of Xiaobao is not an easy task. In the past, when I was born with Dabao, the old people in the family were not very old, and they could basically help take care of it. The elderly also have experience, taking care of children is also handy, and they are simply a handle. Dabao grew up easily, and now that the old man is also old, he really can't help himself take care of Xiaobao.
When I was born with Dabao in the past, that is, in my twenties, at that time, although it was also very hard to stay up late with my baby, I could stay up as long as I slept a little during the day. Now that I am older, staying up late with a baby is simply torture. If you want to go to work, you can't take care of it.
Many middle-aged couples regret having a second child, and another important reason is that the economic cost is too high. In the past, when dabao was born, the living conditions were not so good, and the material was not so exquisite. Now the times are different, and the standards for carrying a baby are different.
Twenty years ago, there was basically no concept of confinement and confinement center, and for confinement, it was basically the elderly in the family. Now the monthly sister-in-law is more than 10,000 a month, and the confinement center is even more outrageous, with tens of thousands of living for 42 days. Although this cost is very high, it can only be paid hard, because there is really no one at home to take care of the confinement.
Now milk powder, diapers are not wet these costs, the cost can not be considered less. I used to breastfeed, but now that I'm older, I don't have enough breast milk and I can't breastfeed, so it's a necessary expense. It was not easy to survive until Xiaobao was old, and Dabao began to go to college again, and the cost was not cheap, and such a family income was just enough to spend.
Of course, not every middle-aged couple is not suitable for having a second child, and the situation of each family is different. However, if you are sure that you want to have a second treasure, you should first consult with Dabao, because he is also a member of the family and cannot be too repulsive to having a younger brother or sister. And to say, even with the second treasure, the love for the great treasure will not be reduced. After Dabao accepts the second treasure in his heart, he will be very good to the second treasure in the future, and one more person will take care of the baby.
The economic foundation is also very important, some couples are very hard at a young age, and have been in the middle of the company, especially women, who may want to return to the family when they are tired of struggling in the workplace. In the past, Dabao was taken care of by the elderly, rarely participated in his growth, and now it is also considered to be economically rich, so if you want to make up for your previous regrets, it is not impossible to have a second child.