In fact, when a woman does not love you, her instinctive reaction is the same as that of a man, and it will be very obvious. Many times, whether it is a man or a woman, thinking that what they encounter is true love, they can stay together for a lifetime.
In fact, sometimes what we think is very different from the ending.
It's not that the people we meet will be able to go to the end together. Sometimes life is such a joke, we think we have met the only one in this life. But he only accompanied us for a ride.
I remember Miyazaki saying in Spirited Away: "People never know who has inadvertently said goodbye to you, and they really won't see you again." ”
In the relationship, two couples who still talked and laughed the day before, may break down the feelings of the two people the next day. There are many things in life that are caught off guard. It's always sweet at the beginning, but bitter at the end.
Love is a very selfish thing, both parties want to take the initiative in the relationship, so when a relationship breaks down, whether it is a man or a woman, his instinctive reaction will be obvious.
Generally speaking, there are probably two signs that if they appear, he has started to dislike you.
01, in the feelings, I don't care at first
In fact, we should know at any time that when the other party starts to care about you in a relationship, he has begun to plan to leave, but he has not completely let go.
Therefore, when the other party feels that they want to let go of you, they will show that they do not care about you and will be absent-minded about you. I won't listen to you with all my heart.
It's like watching a video where the video starts with a couple arguing, the girl turns away, the boy comes to a friend and says, "What I can't stand is the joke he often says." ”
"If you like it, change it."
The boy felt very wronged, because he didn't know that what he said was true that time, and what he said was false that time, but no matter what, he also wanted to be cared for.
Oh, yes! We must know that all feelings, no matter at any time, can not have a way to push away, to express the care for the other half. In this way, it can only make the relationship between two people more and more distant.
Because no feelings are based on showing that they don't care about maintenance, feelings are the cherishing of each other's efforts, when the other party is full of happiness to find you, but you show that you don't care, you say how the other party will think.
Therefore, when the other party begins to show up that you don't care about anything about you, and don't care, you have to pay attention at this time, which is the precursor to your emotional problems.
02, in the feelings, if you are separated
In psychology, there is such an effect called the "Chiconi effect", which means that the average person is very easy to forget the things that have been completed and have results, but always remembers the interrupted, unfinished, and unfulfilled things.
And if this effect is applied to feelings, that is, when we are disappointed in the relationship or have an answer in our hearts, we can quickly be relieved.
Therefore, when in a relationship, the other party suddenly appears to start to leave you, so many and a half show that the other party is preparing to leave you. He just hasn't completely let go of his mind yet, and when he does, he'll pull out quickly.
This is also why some couples can handle it very decisively after breaking up, because he is not on a whim, but waits until he completely lets go of it before telling you.
If you look back at the previous scenes of your relationship, you will find that suddenly from a certain period of time, he was not so enthusiastic about you and did not care about your affairs.
Especially when your feelings are already very stable, you already have your own set of ways to get along, he begins to leave you, this time shows that there is a problem with your feelings, and the other party has begun to want to leave you.
In short, each of us is serious about feelings, and we all hope that the people we meet will be able to go on for a lifetime, but feelings are sometimes uncertain.
So we must learn to cherish, especially when your feelings appear above two traces, at this time you have to think about whether your feelings are problematic, so that you can solve the problem in time.
After all, it is not so easy to meet a loved one, so when you can be together, you must cherish and grasp it well, don't wait until you lose it and then regret it, at that time what you are doing is useless.
Finally, I also hope that the people we love can be the right people, the people who can go all the way, rather than the people who accompany us for a while.
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