We all say that there is no good or bad personality. Traits like introversion and honesty are not useless. However, it is undeniable that introverted and honest children are easily excluded, and they will not tell their parents when they are wronged, and there are always things that they silently bear.
As a parent, of course, I don't want to see this happen to my own children. But what if your child is too honest?
Then we must first find out, why is the child so honest? Is it because of stupidity? Or is it because you're too timid?
No, the reason why children are honest is because parents usually only let children obey and obey, everything must be done according to the parents' wishes, over time, children are used to being arranged, "obedience and doing" is safe for them, so slowly, children become honest people.
In addition, there are some children, because parents usually rarely teach them what to do when they encounter problems, how to deal with them, and lack the ability to respond to problems, so children behave more honestly.
In short, to sum it up in one sentence: the reason why children are honest is not because they are stupid, but because parents can't teach.
So for honest children, how should they be guided? On this issue, the neighbor Aunt Deng is a very good example of education.
Aunt Deng is a kindergarten director, but she has just retired. Aunt Deng's grandson is famous for his honesty, whispering, usually strangers are present, this child is always cowering, his eyes always dare not look at others, and he is often excluded by other children, and he does not dare to resist when he is robbed of a toy.
The child's parents are busy at work, so usually rarely manage the child, Aunt Deng is now retired, just have time to help with the child; and under the supervision of Aunt Deng, the child slowly changed the honest image, and no longer bullied by others, in just 1 year, the child has become a person who makes people "unaffordable".
What method did Aunt Deng use, and the child's change would be so great? Aunt Deng said that it all depends on 5 sentences to cultivate children into people with wisdom and dare not be bullied by others.
Which five sentences?
Be sure to speak loudly and look the other person in the eye.
The first step to solve the child's honesty is to start with talking, Aunt Deng will let the child get up in the morning every day to read ancient poems aloud, asking for the louder the better, and even encouraging the child to roar out, and adding some body movements.
This can cultivate children's interest in learning, and second, it is hoped that in this way, children's emotions and states can be mobilized, so that children can maintain passion and change the way they speak.
Don't be afraid to socialize, and don't be afraid to be rejected.
Honest children are always afraid of being rejected, and sometimes they see others playing there and want to play, but they are worried that others will not play with them.
Aunt Deng often said to the child, no one can make everyone like themselves, if others say not to play with you, you should respond loudly to each other, do not follow, I play with others.
If you don't like what others ask you to do, boldly refuse.
It does take courage to say no to others, especially for requests from friends and classmates. But if you don't know how to refuse, then you will be very tired, and others will trouble you again and again.
So it is very important to teach children to refuse from an early age.
Aunt Deng often simulates various scenes with children, such as Aunt Deng playing a small partner, borrowing his favorite toys from her grandson, watching her grandson's reaction, if she hesitates, she will tell her grandson that if she does not like to lend it to others to play, she can directly refuse, it does not matter.
Or you can let the other party exchange things for things, and if the other party's things don't like, you have to refuse.
Don't care too much about what others think of you, others don't like you is their business, just be yourself.
Children who are too honest will always care about other people's opinions, and always worry that they will be said by others if they can't do well, so if they want children to change their mentality, they must let their children talk to their hearts more.
Always tell your children that everyone has the right to choose what they like to do, and if others don't like you, always say bad things about you in private, ignore them, because they are not your friends, and don't waste your time for people who are not friends.
If you are wronged outside, you must tell your parents and parents at the first time.
Honest children are not very good at expressing themselves, dare not say that they have been bullied, and everything will be hidden in their hearts, because they are worried that they will make anyone unhappy when they say it, so they simply do not say it.
For honest children, parents always have to stand behind the child, be the child's strong backing, once found that the child is bullied, parents should be the first time to help the child deal with this problem, let the child know that he is valued, then no matter what happens in the future, he is willing to tell the parents.
I have to say that Aunt Deng is worthy of being the old kindergarten director, educating children does have a set, she usually always says these five sentences to children, and from time to time will create opportunities to exercise children, and children have slowly changed from an honest personality to a person with ideas and can express their wishes.
Although honesty is not a disadvantage, but too honest will be very tired; if your children are also very honest, then usually have to tell the child the above five sentences, so that the child dares to express himself.