As a teacher, checking students' homework is a routine job, some children complete their homework very seriously, the homework book is also clean and tidy, the handwriting is neat and neat, and it looks pleasant. However, there are also some students who do homework to perfunctorily, only care about the progress, completely regardless of the quality of completion, the handwriting is sloppy like a "ghost drawing rune", seeing such homework, you can't help but raise your blood pressure, can't help but lose your temper.
To a certain extent, the quality of students' homework completion also reflects their learning attitude, and once the sloppy personality is cultivated, it is not an overnight thing to correct it. I remember when I was a child, every day after writing homework, I had to let my mother pass the goal first, if the handwriting was not neat and the writing was messy, it would not only be torn off and redone, but also eat a meal of "bamboo plate fried meat". Therefore, I have developed the habit of doing things seriously since I was a child, and this habit has benefited me a lot to this day.
At present, we do not advocate "stick education", and it is required to focus on appreciation education, praise and encouragement for children, less criticism and accusation, and even more can not "stir-fry meat on bamboo boards" without moving. But I always think that only appreciation, praise education is incomplete, and it will not have good results. For children, if the reasoning does not make sense and they are repeatedly taught, there must still be some means of punishment when it is time to punish, of course, including limited corporal punishment.
A few days ago, a mother posted on the Internet that her child was beaten before and after the homework effect comparison, triggered the attention and heated discussion of netizens, most parents in the message area have expressed support for the child's limited punishment, appropriate "beating" it, indeed can make the child long memory, otherwise the child grinds and rubs, absent-minded. Sometimes it's easy to do with the problem and don't want to use their brains, and as a result, after a beating, they move faster, their heads are bright, and their handwriting is correct.
Judging from the comparison of the homework effect before and after the mother's child was beaten, the difference is not generally large, and the homework written before the beating is more casual, the handwriting is sloppy, obviously there is no intention, it is to complete the task in a hurry. Such a quality of homework, my mother felt unacceptable, based on the previous many times of preaching did not work, so this time she took an unconventional approach.
After cleaning up, the effect was also immediate: the typography was horizontal and vertical, and the handwriting was neat. This kind of homework looks pleasing to the eye and much more comfortable. Such a "beating" effect made this mother a little surprised, it turned out that her child was not unable to write a good hand, but it was too casual before. Netizens looked at the homework of this day and place, and also shouted: This is also too "beating" effect!
The problem encountered by this mother is also a common annoyance of many parents, the child is not serious about doing homework, the handwriting is sloppy, the general preaching has no effect, and it is really a bit unbearable to do it, and can only sulk on its own. Educating children does not have a universal method, or focus on "teaching according to aptitude", some children are very sensible, very obedient, do not need parents to do it at all, they can complete the homework very well, some children are relatively small, a few words of criticism on the tears, parents can not bear to beat them, criticism will have an effect.
However, there are also children who do not die in the Yellow River, ordinary preaching, criticism has no effect on them, the superficial promise is actually still my own way, and the words said by parents are like the wind in the ears. At this time, I am afraid that I will have to take a little heavier disciplinary measures, such as spanking, spanking the palm of my hand, so that the child will have a sense of awe and rules.
Of course, as children grow up day by day, this kind of corporal punishment education method can not be used, because they slowly understand the truth, but also have self-esteem, at this time can only move with affection, understand the reason. When children reach the rebellious period, the education method of scolding is likely to be counterproductive.
Education has a law, but there is no fixed law, suitable for their children is the best education method, do not blindly imitate, or focus on teaching according to their aptitude.
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