When children and parents lose their temper, are parents particularly angry and anxious?
Starting from today, parents should remember that when your child loses his temper, you don't have to be anxious to get angry, but you have to be happy!
Why?
Because it proves that the child's emotions are not suppressed at this time, the children who really have big problems are often children whose emotions are suppressed.
So what should I do at this time?
Parents should remember that the four wrong ways to deal with children's tantrums cannot be used.
Let's start with four unusable ways to deal with it:
First, it is useless to be reasonable, there are emotions, and nothing can be heard.
Second, cold treatment is useless, and the child is more sad and angry, because she thinks you are ruthless and unjust.
Third, it is useless to compromise with the child, and arrogance also harms him.
Fourth, you are more temperamental and useless than he is. The immediate problem seems to be solved, but by adolescence, his temper will become bigger and stronger.
So what to do? Remember the four-step method:
First, the child has lost his temper, you first calm down and tell yourself that this is a good opportunity to educate the child.
Second, accept the child's emotions, let her vent, cry, or make trouble, this emotion, ah, he will always slowly calm down.
Third, slowly calmed down, this trick is the most powerful, from the heart to ask the child, baby is better? Of course, it would be better if you could hold the child, maybe, the child will not accept it at all, but your sincerity makes the child feel that this is enough.
The last step, when the emotions have calmed down, can discuss the matter, the small things can be said on the spot, and the big things will be said later.
However, there is a point to pay attention to, the issue of principle, we must let the child know that there are emotions that are allowed to vent, but the principle and the bottom line we will adhere to.
The child is anxious, you are not in a hurry, accept the emotional number first, the attitude is gentle, the tone is stable, adhere to the bottom line, and practice more.