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As a parent, there is no one who does not want your child to be better than himself. If their own baby is praised by others as "a look at the future will have a chance", parents will laugh and blossom in their hearts while being modest.
Of course, after that, parents will also play drums in their hearts, whether the child has a chance in the end, can you still see it? How did you see that? Wouldn't it be a lie to compliment people?
If "having a job" is defined as being able to be more successful than the average person in the secular world, children need to have some characteristics if they want to have a job. People often say that "three years old looks big, seven years old look old", these qualities, in the child's childhood can also see one or two.
Whether the child will appear in the future, it can be seen from his performance that he is inseparable from eight or nine. And these clues are not made up, but have a certain scientific basis.
As a parent, you can not only compare whether there is such a clue in your own baby, but also apply it to those successful people around you, even yourself, to see if others and themselves who have achieved certain results or want to achieve results have these qualities.
These important qualities can be simply summarized into three groups of words: "active observation", "active thinking" and "active action".
You can observe the people around you, as long as they are people who have certain achievements in their own fields, these three habits are standard and interlinked.
Children with these qualities, the main performance in life is: very good at thinking of ways.
I have observed two children playing together. They saw the children around them digging sand, but they didn't have the tools. One of the children ran straight to their parents and asked them for a small shovel. His parents said that they cried and made trouble without him, and they had to go to the store to buy it for themselves.
The other looked around silently for a long time, finding a stick and a flat stone. After experimenting, he found that the stone was still better to use, so he took the stone as an excavation tool and played with it.
Comparing the performance of the two children, the second child is obviously more likely to think of ways than the first child.
Will find a way, will solve the problem. To be successful, you need to be able to solve problems.
Of course, children are constantly growing, if children do not have these qualities, how to cultivate?
In life, you can put "empty. rain. The umbrella "becomes a way of thinking that children can use."
This is a common way of thinking used by McKinsey consultants when working.
"Emptiness" refers to the immediate reality. Look up at the sky before going out, if you see the sky is full of dark clouds, you will have a prejudgment in your heart;
The "rain" pointer makes a judgment on this fact. Dark clouds and it may rain;
"Umbrella" refers to countermeasures. In order not to be drenched in rain, you must take an umbrella in advance before going out.
Parents can slowly infiltrate this mindset in conversation. Remind the child to pay attention to observation and analysis, in a pile of information, what is the really useful information, and guide the child to think about what he can do with this information.
Let's take a very simple example. Children are always grinding and rubbing in school, and if parents just urge "Hurry up, otherwise you should be late!" ”
Children do not have this concept.
If the parent gives the child a timeline, tell him that "we need to go to school at eight o'clock, and it takes time to walk from home to school, usually 10 minutes, indicating that we are going out at 7:50", and then push forward "What are we going to do before going out?" Yes, to eat and wash, wash 10 minutes, eat half an hour, indicating that we have to get up at 7:10 at the latest. ”
With a timeline in mind, the child has a concept of the alarm clock set, will no longer shout in the morning and not get up, and will adjust the progress according to the time displayed by the clock when eating and washing.
This is the "umbrella" of "grasping how much time it takes to grasp each link" for the "rain" of "may be late".
Senior nursery, psychological counselor. Understand the parenting and psychology, but also pay attention to the self-growth and family management of baoma, and strive to be the intimate person of mothers.
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