Nurture neighborly dreams
Netizen question: My son is seven years old this year, I don't know what's wrong, I said I was going to commit suicide when I was unhappy, I have said it many times, what to do?
Reply: Family education should reward children's growth and progress behavior, avoid giving "children who can cry more milk", such as giving "sweet dates" to children who are active in growing up and progressing, and never compromise on the behavior of crying or hurting their own bodies to force parents to relax discipline. Because praising the behavior of growth and progress is the best spiritual nourishment for children.
Life is endowed with a combination of natural substances with the ability to reproduce + growth cycle + a small part of the self-healing function that damages itself. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms degrade plants or animal remains... Non-living materials support plants - > plants support animals - > microorganisms to make nutrients for plants to form a stable natural substance orderly circulation "ecological food chain".
Humans, the community-based fetal mammals with the highest IQ in the natural life system, are also the animal groups with the slowest growth and development and the strongest comprehensive growth plasticity in the natural life system. The use of natural non-living matter processing tools, domestication of sowing plants, taming captive animals, summarizing and assembling the wisdom of a comprehensive survival civilization... But what is the meaning of life? So far, human social civilization has no relatively unified answer!
Some people feel that the meaning of life lies in creating more public service value for peers, some people feel that the meaning of life lies in creating more private consumption wealth, and some people feel that the meaning of life lies in health and longevity... Indeed, as the community-based viviparous mammal with the highest IQ in the natural life system, everyone must rely on the help of their companions to achieve a happy life, and everyone must provide help to their peers in exchange for the value of integrated human social production. Of course, as an important part of natural material life, everyone must ensure their personal physical and mental health in order to enjoy the gastronomic gifts given by the natural material world.
Man, the most precious thing is life, life for everyone and only once. A modern person who is physically and mentally healthy can theoretically enjoy all the services of a good life on earth, such as sunlight, water, food, daily consumer goods, and the companionship of human companions all over the world. But no one has the ability to take full control of their own destiny, including whose children they are, whose parents they are, who they work with, when they get sick, when they get up, when they go through the grind of life's journey, and so on. So why not have more and more children who cherish their lives?
The act of praising growth and progress is the best spiritual nourishment for children
First, it is damaged by the non-authentic social entertainment
Human beings are the community-based fetal mammals with the highest IQ in the natural life system, and inductive summarization, abstract divergence, and reconstruction and creation are the three core magic weapons of human high intelligence. As a result, modern humans have used non-living substances to create a large number of assisted living aids, including housing, clothing, furniture, transportation, and information transmission & storage tools.
Animal oracle bones, cloth, bamboo, and paper are all basic tools for transmitting and storing information in the history of human social civilization. However, all physical information transmission & storage carriers have the disadvantage of insufficient immersive sensory experience. Therefore, human society information transmission & storage carriers have been slowly moving forward on the road of innovation.
Capture and explore the safe use of electrical energy technology, weak current can be used to store the wisdom of human social civilization, when human beings began to use virtual signal transmission & storage of human social civilization results, human social civilization achievements transmission & storage immersive sensory experience deficiencies have been greatly improved, such as long-distance voice calls can sense each other's mood, video can view each other's voice and smile. Of course, virtual telecommunications transmission & storage of human social civilization achievements have also brought a huge by-product - virtual online games.
Guan Gong & Qin Qiong realize air battles, virtual game characters can automatically return blood to repair, virtual game characters can come back to life... When the virtual network world is deeply integrated with the real human social life, the virtualized human social entertainment has opened a "barbaric" growth mode. Therefore, after being exposed to a large number of non-authentic social entertainment, children's basic cognition of the meaning of life has been deviated, and even some children feel that they can be resurrected many times like online virtual characters.
Second, there is a lack of comprehensive perception of life and death
Grain sowing in spring and autumn harvest, killing chickens + killing pigs + slaughtering sheep + slaughtering cattle, giving birth to children + old people dying... In the real social life of human beings, they originally had a rich real perception of the cycle of life and death. However, since towns have become the core "base" of modern human settlements, human beings' true perceptions of the cycle of life and death have become farther and farther apart, such as urban people hardly growing grain + vegetables and fruits, urban chickens + pigs + sheep slaughtering + cattle must enter specially designated places, urban children born in hospitals + old people die in hospitals. Therefore, children living in towns and cities have almost no complete comprehensive perception of the birth of life and the loss of life.
Little prince, little princess, when the town completely implements eugenics, death is considered unlucky. After urbanization, human beings have embarked on the road of deliberately avoiding death in the comprehensive growth education of children. Therefore, from an early age, children are taught to love plants + animal life, but they cannot truly experience sowing life and loving life; there are more and more modern highly educated and knowledgeable young people who eat pork every day but have never seen a pig run, eat white rice but do not know how to distinguish between wheat and grass seedlings, eat fruits with their hands but do not know where they grow, and recite "Compassion for Farmers" every day but have never done farm work.
As the saying goes, "Difficulties are like springs, if you are strong, it is weak, and if you are weak, it is strong." The same is true for education to assist children to learn and grow, what you are afraid of, the child will use this as a threat to "seek welfare" for themselves after knowing. After the birth of a fewer children, the relative status of each child in the family has increased by a large margin, and the only child carries all the hopes of the family to achieve a happy life in the future. Therefore, as a small number of urban families with excellent children, every parent does not dare to easily "joke" about the safety of their children's lives, and this is also used by many children as a tool for their own "welfare". Therefore, family education should reward children's growth and progress behavior, avoid giving "children who can cry more milk", such as giving "sweet dates" to children who are active in growing up and progressing, and never compromise on the behavior of crying or hurting their own bodies to force parents to relax their discipline. Because praising the behavior of growth and progress is the best spiritual nourishment for children.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.