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In life, the more sensible people are often not seen by others, but those who can expose their emotions and know how to make demands can be cherished.
People who are too sensible usually do not have a good ending, you are in the attitude of not wanting to cause trouble to others, to interact with others, but in some people's minds, it is that you feel that you are a bully, and over time you will naturally ignore your ideas.
It is said that children who cry have sugar to eat, in fact, this is applicable at any time, we will find that those who can cry, they are always more likely to attract the attention of others, but also more able to occupy a favorable advantage, even if they do not pay attention, but as long as a cry seems to be able to easily turn the situation around.
Therefore, women should skillfully use their gender advantages, and appropriately use the advantages of "spoiling" and "crying" to ask for men's love, which will achieve unexpected results.
Women really can't be too sensible in love, we will find that there are many women who are slow to get the ideal love, always disappointed and hurt, is because they are too sensible, always try their best to consider men, give up their own interests, to complete each other, not willing to ask him at all, just blindly want to get each other's kindness through their own efforts. But the end result is often scarred.
If you want to make men love you more, don't pretend to be gentle and generous, you have to ask men.
Make demands on men during the pursuit period and increase his sunk costs
In fact, most of us are prone to make a mistake, that is, to mistakenly control the timeline in love and mistakenly adjust our state in love.
During the love pursuit period, we are all trying our best to show our best side to each other, and after establishing a love relationship, we gradually expose our shortcomings and deficiencies, become more and more vicious, and finally push each other farther and farther away.
So many people feel that the other party has changed after entering love, but in fact, it is not that he has changed, but you have not really understood the other party from the beginning, and the looks you see are what he is happy to show you, and they are all shown by him after being disguised, which is not a complete him at all.
At the beginning, we were all more reserved, did not dare to make demands on each other, always pretended to be generous and sensible, did not dare to expose the shortcomings of our own personality, and did not dare to trouble each other, and always felt that the relationship was not in place.
But in fact, when a man pursues you, it is often the most patient time, but also when he is most willing to pay, at this time you should ask more, not only can be satisfied, but also can test whether the other party is sincere to you.
If a man is not willing to give when he pursues you, then it is clear that the man is not worth relying on at all, and there is no need to waste time on him.
And asking a man during the pursuit period can increase his sunk costs, and the more a person pays in a certain place, the more he will increase his degree of cherishing, and he is more reluctant to leave. The more he gives to you, the more he tends to love you.
First small and then large, clever use of the "climbing threshold effect"
In psychology, there is a principle called the "climbing threshold effect", which means that when the individual first accepts a small request, in order to maintain the consistency of the image, he may accept a major and more undesirable requirement, which is called the threshold effect, also known as the inch forward effect.
Women in love, to learn to moderately inch forward, you do not have to be too sensible, sometimes appropriately unreasonable to make trouble, learn to inch in, can make men feel that you are not good, do not dare to ignore you easily.
Many women are too easy to take each other too seriously, put each other in the first place in everything, overthink each other's feelings, and often ignore themselves, because they value him too much, dare not provoke him to be angry, dare not show impatience, carefully love, and in the end let him get inching forward, and pay less attention to you.
Human nature is like this, the favored are often fearless, in the relationship who is favored on the side, who occupies the initiative. Men often enjoy the feeling of being needed by women, and it is easier for you to stimulate his desire for protection and let him give you more pampering.
When making requirements, we must remember the principle of first small and then large, first make a little request, so that he can easily do it for you, and then slowly increase the weight, in such a inch, let the man willingly pay more for you.
Don't ask for more than a man can, it will make him repulsive
Moderate requirements for men will make men have a desire to protect and be willing to pay more for you, but remember not to go too far, and the requirements should be reasonable and moderate.
If you make a request that a man can't do, or is beyond his ability, not only won't make him pity you, but it will even make him resentful.
There are some women who fall in love just to enjoy the feeling of being loved, they will treat the man as their own cash machine, their bodyguards are chauffeurs, they treat men like servants, they are called to the fullest, and they will deliberately send him in front of friends to prove their status in his mind.
They always live in the comparison with others, frequently comparing their boyfriends with other people's boyfriends, once they see what romantic things others have done, or what kind of things they bought for girls, they will take the initiative to ask for it, so that men can also satisfy themselves and are not willing to be compared with others.
When a person lives in such a state completely, he is a little unsure of his place, completely bound by desire, and lacks self-knowledge. Seeing that others have a new bag, you also want, seeing others buy expensive jewelry, you also ask for it with men, so that you, in the minds of men, are marked with a material label, even if you love again, you will be warm and cool, want to escape.
When asking for it, you must also learn to pay for him
Love has always been a matter of two people, and only by paying each other can the ship of love sail to the other shore.
If either party has selfish intentions, always eager to be paid, and not willing to pay the other party, if always blindly take, never did anything to the other party, this love from the beginning is unbalanced, it is difficult to maintain.
Although women should be the one who is taken care of to a certain extent, do not ignore the emotional needs of men in love, they also desire to be loved, pampered, given, and understood.
When making demands with them, we must also remember to pay more for them, listen to their hearts more, pay more attention to their living conditions, be more considerate of their efforts and hard work, and learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes and consider, rather than just greedy demands.
Women should not be too sensible, but do not be too unreasonable, mention when it is time to ask, when it is time to be gentle and considerate, it is also necessary to expose the gentle side, and when it is time to pay, it is also necessary to remember to pay more for men, so that men will love you addicted.