What kind of woman can make a man worry about it for a lifetime?
Is it pretty? Is it sexy?
Not really.
These are all external conditions, beautiful people will get tired of looking at them for a long time, and sexy people will become faltering or have extra flesh over time.
Those who can make men reach addiction must be some things that stay inside, these things cannot be taken away by time, but will be renewed with time.
Psychology has found that women who make men addicted for a lifetime have 4 special features.
In the depths of the soul of the mind, there is the existence of the self
There is a head sheep in a flock, and this head sheep plays a leading role, and what it does, the rest of the sheep follow.
This is the herd effect in psychology, which is what we often call the herd effect.
Many times, it takes time and effort to think about a problem independently, and it is not necessarily the right way to come up with it.
And by following the rhythm of the group, we save this step of thinking and will also reduce the risk.
But when we lack the ability to think independently, it means we become mediocre.
Because no matter what we do, we just follow the rhythm of others, and we never think for ourselves how to do those things.
You know, those women who can be "remembered" by men for a lifetime must have the ability to think independently.
Their spiritual world is very rich, so it will also exude different charms.
Emotionally, don't drag the mud with the water
I watched an interview with Liu Jialing before, and the host asked her - "Which age do you think is the happiest and happiest day for you?" ”
In this regard, Liu Jialing replied in this way, she said: "It is now, it is the present moment." ”
Many times, the secret of our happiness is to take our eyes out of the past, focus on the present, look at the future, and say goodbye to the feelings that have been lost.
Just like Sheng Minglan's feelings for Qi Heng in the TV series "Do You Know It or Not", when she knows that the two people are impossible, she is no longer immersed in the past and refuses to come out.
She tried to move forward, and when Qi Heng came to her, she also turned a blind eye.
Before, Sheng Minglan liked Qi Heng very much, and for him, she could even give up everything, but when she knew that the two people could only go here, she would no longer have unrealistic dreams.
She allowed herself to look back once in a while, but she never allowed herself to go back.
The courage to take it like this, put it down, and not drag mud and water is the opposite-sex attraction that Sheng Minglan herself has.
In life, not once and for all
Life geometry, how much fine gold can be refined by stubborn iron?
Some people pass the years and grow old in an instant; some people enjoy the years and can still remain young for a lifetime.
Everyone likes a comfortable life, doing nothing a day, playing mobile phones, eating, drinking and sleeping is their whole life.
However, such comfort is like a boiled frog in warm water, which will gradually consume a person's fighting spirit in the passage of time, and when something changes occur, there is no strength, helplessness, and can only be slaughtered.
Women with high emotional intelligence have always known how to plan ahead, and they understand that in a relationship, if it is once and for all, then the gap between them will become wider and wider.
At that time, men are getting higher and higher in the relationship between the sexes because they keep moving forward, while they themselves are in a disadvantageous position due to long periods of stagnation.
In this way, women will naturally not be cared for by men, and how can they be addicted to men for a lifetime?
Therefore, women must have a sense of crisis, a sense of urgency to race against the clock, and constantly improve themselves.
As Yang Lan once said: "Women must constantly improve their sense of self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love in order to lay a solid foundation in the construction of gender relations." ”
Materially, there is no insatiable greed
Desire is a double-edged sword, and proper desire can be the driving force for us to move forward, but if the scale of desire is too much, it will become a shackle that binds us.
There are too many women who have become members of the "exquisite poor", the so-called "exquisite poor", that is, a person's material desire is to do everything possible to get close to the best, but the actual material basis is a mess
Some people earn five thousand a month, but they have to spend three thousand to chase the stars;
Some people earn three thousand a month, but they have to buy a bag of ten thousand yuan with flowers, on the grounds that face is the most important and they cannot treat themselves badly.
Such a woman is bound by material desires, but the spiritual world is pitifully scarce.
Such a woman will make herself lack connotation because she does not know how to spend money.
Therefore, we must learn to reduce our material desires.
As Thoreau once said, "When you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; loneliness will not be lonely, poverty will not be poor, nor will it be weak." ”