When we were young, when it came to love, we always thought that as long as we liked each other, it was enough.
As long as you like, you can overcome all difficulties, as long as you like, you will be able to be together all the time.
Most couples, when they first got together, generally have such thoughts. Not only will they think like this, but each other's ideas are always particularly firm, and they can't tolerate any doubts.
For those other voices in the outside world, they will always automatically choose to block, especially believe in themselves, but also especially believe in each other.
Come to think of it, at that time, each other really believed in this feeling, but even if they believed it, with the passage of time, many things would only gradually change, and each other's ideas would only slowly become no longer the same.
One day, we will really find that the original like is not so much magic, even if you like it, it may still be separated, there is no way to go on.
Loving and being loved, liking is very important, but only liking is far from enough.
To get along without getting tired, more compatible.
Liking a person, having a feeling of liking for a person, it often doesn't take long at all, it can be just a moment.
Real life, it can't be just that short, it's going to be many hours, it's going to be many days.
When one day, we are with the person we like, it seems that everything seems to be complete, but the real life, that is just the beginning, the moment of testing each other, but only gradually opened.
In getting along with each other, unconsciously we will really gradually realize that in addition to some of the more attractive places in the other person's body, there will also be many places that we do not like at all.
Even said that although I like it, I may not be very comfortable together, but I often feel very tired.
For example, the difference in living habits is too big, each other feel uncomfortable, there is no way to change each other, for example, the three views are not very similar, can not understand each other, feel that the other party is quite unreasonable.
If two people just like it, but in many ways the difference is particularly large, once each other often feel not very comfortable, feel particularly tired, then this relationship, in fact, it is difficult to continue.
Only when they do get along with each other very happily, and they all feel that it is very good to be with each other, will each other be able to naturally continue the relationship and be willing to continue to be with each other.
Be able to communicate well and resolve problems.
Too many lovers, they don't like themselves very much, but because of a quarrel, a misunderstanding, there is no future.
Between the opposite sex, the souls that are compatible with each other are also impossible to be 100%, there will be a lot of contradictions, and from time to time there will be some quarrels, and they will feel disappointed with each other.
Whenever a problem occurs, if each other can't talk well at all, just choose the cold war, just choose to gamble, just simply refuse to communicate, then it is very easy, each other will no longer care about anyone, directly there is no future.
If you don't know how to communicate, it is useless to love each other, it will only be easy to disagree, and it is easy to leave a knot in the heart.
On the contrary, when each other like each other very much, they are also willing to restrain their temper for each other, and whenever there is any problem, they are willing to put down their bodies, be a little gentler, listen to each other well, and resolve the problem in time, and the feelings will naturally not go astray.
Born as a human being, everyone has a temper, and a violent temper, that is really not conducive to each other's feelings.
You know, no matter how much you like it, a few disagreements, a few arguments, a few pains, it is enough to make each other's hearts and minds all disintegrate, and then start to feel that the other person is not the right person.
Can be a good appease each other, let the other party clean up the negative emotions in time, then no matter how many contradictions, in fact, will not leave a shadow, each other will only know each other's ideas more and more, know how to get along with each other.
There must be a material basis and mutual support.
There are always people who think that as long as they like each other, then even if there is no money, it does not matter.
As long as there are feelings, then even if they are very embarrassed together, they can be very happy.
We think we can tolerate poverty and be with one person, but in fact, too many men and women can do it at first, but slowly they can't do it.
One person can be poor, a little bit worse, but two people, that really can't be. You can't help but blame the other party, you will feel that the other party is dragging you down, and you will often be unwilling to live a lifetime.
It is really, poor couples Pepsi lament, poverty that will consume all the emotions, so that like become useless.
In this world, there are not many people who are really rich, most people are just ordinary people, but we can be a little more ordinary, not so rich, but in terms of material, we also need to have a certain foundation.
You don't have to be very rich, but at least you have to be able to guarantee each other's three meals a day, to be able to raise a family, to be responsible for yourself, to be responsible for the people you like, to be responsible for the parents of both sides, and to be responsible for each other's children.
Can not always worry about the mortgage, for the next month's living expenses, for the child's milk powder money, and can work together to make good money together, together for tomorrow, this feeling will be more reliable.
Like whom, we can just listen to our own hearts and follow our own feelings.
But after liking it, we must not be blind, or we must first get to know each other well.
See clearly what kind of person the other person is, and what kind of state they are in when they get along with each other.
Because like, sometimes it really doesn't have much accuracy, it's just an illusion, we like a certain aspect of someone, but for the real appearance of that person, we may not be able to accept it, and we may not still feel like it.
Even if you still like it, you still need to be able to get along well and manage it with your heart, so that you will have a future.
If you just like it, it's easy, but it's never hard to get along.
Don't know how to get along, no matter how much you like, you will only be scattered, know how to get along, don't like it so much, and you can still get along.
Text/Tan Meng
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