What are the most important factors influencing a child's development?
Education, money, health, parents?
Harvard tracks the lives of 700 people and finds that what ultimately determines our inner happiness is our relationship with those around us.
Close relationships, social support and care are fundamental needs for human beings.
But quality is far more important than quantity in relationships.
The harm caused by a "toxic" relationship can take us a long time to heal.
How can a child have a good, healthy friendship, parents may be able to read a book to bring influential help to the child.
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There is no shortage of picture books about friendship, such as the classic Frog and Toad Together, the well-known Elephant and Piggie.
However, it is only to say how much fun the two friends have fun together, and there is no specific mention of the running-in between friends.
At this time, we have to mention The Bink & Gollie produced by Kate DiCamillo.
Kate DiCamillo's name may not be familiar to everyone, but when it comes to her work, everyone is sure that "oh oh oh, it's her".
Mercy Watson series
Winn-Dixie
The Tale of Despereaux
Flora & Ulysses
The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane
In 2011, her Book and Gollie, co-authored with Alison McGhee and illustrator Tony Fucile, received the Dr. Seuss Medal from the ALA and was named "Best Book for Beginners."
The book has 81 pages and 3 chapters, but it's not a children's novel like Rod Dahl's.
To be precise, it is more like a high-level picture book, because the vocabulary and language used in it are more advanced than most picture books.
But because Tony's illustrations are just right, even young children can understand the story.
(The words used in the book are exquisite, I must put the original text for everyone to feel)
Bink and Gollie's characters
When it comes to friendship story picture books, people are definitely in the first place.
Two people can become friends not only because they share common hobbies, but also because they know how to deal with each other's differences.
Don't you need a New Pair of Socks? In one chapter, the town's grocery store is doing a sock sale.
Bink looked at a pair of long, colorful striped socks.
Gollie is disgusted, this color matching, this design is also too hot eyes.
Poke loves it too much, he has to take it with him to play with pulleys, and he desperately tucks his short legs into his stockings.
After some tossing and turning, Bink was hungry, so she went to Gollie to make pancakes to eat.
Gollie said it best: "Perhaps a compromise is in order, Bink." "I guess all I can do is 'compromise.'
The meaning of Order's order dish, Order Food, is suddenly associated with Bink asking Gollie to make pancakes, and cleverly plays a word game.
Bink asked, "Compromise"?
Gollie就说了”Use your gray matter, Bink, you remove your outrageous socks, and I will make pancakes.”
Gray matter is not quite understandable, but combined with the context of the whole paragraph, "use your gray matter..." to make bold guesses, "think with your brain".
Then we look up gray matter, and there's really this usage.
Gollie got Bink to compromise and exchanged them for pancakes by taking off his nasty stockings.
Bink felt that Gollie's proposal "doesn't give me a way to live at all"
Gollie felt that Bink was just unwilling to compromise.
But we all know that compromise really means that everyone takes a step back.
So how does the author speak out of the truth without reason?
The two men made a phone call, and after the call Gollie looked at his pancakes and Bink looked at his socks.
In the next scene, Gollie walks out with half a pancake in his hand, and Bink takes off one of his socks and says, "It's a compromise bonanza!" This is the wealth of compromise! (Check bonanza, there are also surprises)
I don't like that, the protagonist group does not have any shortcomings, always a positive image, it is boring to watch.
The shortcomings and struggles that Gollie and Bink exhibit are exactly what every child experiences.
Because the process of learning to make friends is the process of children gradually coming out of their own world and interacting with others.
Then it is normal to not be able to understand each other's thoughts at the beginning, and it is also normal to have your own "small selfishness".
But that doesn't stop us from making a mutually satisfying complication for a precious friendship.
The authors really put a lot of thought into designing Bink and Gollie, so that children can enter their own situation and find a good solution for themselves in the process of reading, even for a long time after reading, when they encounter the same problem.
Bink and Gollie's approach
I think the authors are a little bit more powerful, to see the big picture.
To this day, many works still talk about the uniqueness of each person.
When children grow up, they will slowly find that they have "no advantage", how is I different from others?
This is a question that may be difficult for many adults to answer.
So how do we, Bing and Gollie, deal with it?
There are two little stories that have captured my heart.
Bink is more loving and Gollie is taller.
Each time Gollie would help with a "pleasant" face.
Bink was so distressed that he saw the newspaper saying: Why should you be shorter than your friends?
Bink stood up excitedly: I can't think of a reason.
Immediately bought a heightening instrument and went home to tinker with it, used it hopefully, and then CRASH! fell.
After this incident, Bink found nah, some things were predestined, not tossed.
With the principle of not wasting, Bink processed the instrument "art", and then the power of art made Bink feel that he had grown taller. (This section is really funny, self-deceptive kid)
The picture of the two children lying on the bed at the end also answers the question raised at the beginning:
- Why are you shorter than your friend?
- Why should I be bothered by such a thing?
After hard work, accepting what you can't change is a great psychological and emotional adjustment skill.
The second story is about Gollie.
One day, Bink and Gollie saw a talent audition scene.
Gollie signed up, and Bink waited excitedly offstage.
Gollie took the stage, and Bink excitedly told the referee, This is my good friend!
But Gollie was too nervous to play well and came down.
Bink chased him out, and Gollie came to a farm.
The inspired Bink set up a simple stage for Gollie so that Gollie could make up for the regrets he had just had.
A sincere relationship can really heal people's hearts, and the support and appreciation of those around them can make people gain strength.
But such a paragraph is very dry, even a little sensational.
The authors show it with a simple picture, and combined with the power of the story, they can already express the value of friendship.
No amount of truth can compare to an impressive and unforgettable story.
In the process of children learning to build friendships with others, with the company of Bink and Gollie, children will meet better friends and establish a healthy, lifelong friendship.
At last
Kate's Lead bink and Gollie are the few things I can boast about being able to read flowers in a set of books.
Whether you're an interest reader for leisure and extensive reading, or as a hard-hitting existence of intensive reading pages, you can get something.
Counting what happened to them in the past, it was very accurate.
So Gollie said that it was a matter of the future, and Mrs. Planelli said that she had seen two good friends in the crystal ball.
One tall, one short.
Bink turned around and ran, saying "That's all the future I need to know."
The reading level of the book is here: