Previous data showed that the average childbearing age of mainland women has been delayed to 29.13 years old. With the increasingly equal social status of men and women, women's performance in the workplace is no less than that of men, which also makes more young women who advocate themselves lack enthusiasm for childbearing.
However, at the same time, there are also some "brave" post-95 women who have advanced to "bao mama" early and caught the early train of the best childbearing age.
Chen Li is a post-95, graduated from a prestigious university, she returned to the family early, and now she is the mother of a 2-year-old child. In the eyes of friends, Chen Li is a typical "early marriage and early childbearing", in the first year of college, Chen Li married her boyfriend who had been in love for many years, and in the first year after marriage, she was successfully promoted to Bao Ma. According to Chen Li's own words, "Compared with my friends around me, my life seems to have been pressed on the express button!" ”
Although Chen Li is said to be the "other" among friends, she is willing to be her hot mother. "Because I got married and had a baby early, my in-laws have not yet retired, so since the baby was born, I have hired a nanny." Without the old man's intervention with the baby, there is a lot less mother-in-law contradiction, and the nanny with the baby is very reliable, which makes me really relaxed. ”
"There is nothing wrong with taking advantage of the young and having a baby early, and when the child is in kindergarten, I am only 27 years old!" And with the children in recent years I have not been left behind to study, the exam certificates have also been tested, and it is not difficult to find a job again. The work of the baby is not wrong, and if you are young, you have to do something in advance! ”
Although chen li is inevitably envious when she sees her classmates working in a large factory, she thinks of her two years as a full-time mother, and she feels that her life value is not inferior to that of women in the workplace. "Growing up with children is a very fortunate thing."
When post-95 women become mothers, what are their obvious characteristics in raising babies?
Post-95 mothers are more "assertive" when they bring babies, they have a certain ability to distinguish between the experience of the elderly with babies, compared to experience, they are more inclined to scientific parenting. At the same time, this young group of mothers has a very strong learning ability, more learning thinking in parenting, and a high acceptance of the concept of "Internet parenting".
Post-95 mothers pay more attention to self-feeling in the daily life with their babies, and have requirements for the quality of life of parenting. Statistics show that 80% of young mothers believe that their mother's life feelings are as important as their children's feelings. It can be seen that the post-95 mother pays more attention to the "self", and in the matter of taking the baby, they know how to do a good job of benign payment.
Post-95 mothers are more "indifferent" in the balance of family and career, which makes them rarely self-entangled and more "dashing" in the face of choices. In contrast, post-95 mothers are more positive and optimistic about a series of impact assessments after returning to the family.
As a young mother, how to deal with the matter of parenting "with ease"?
From the perspective of eugenics, 23-29 years old is the best age for women to have children, women who give birth early are less at lower risk of childbearing, and the maternal body recovers faster after childbirth. After the age of 30, the risk of pregnancy borne by women increases year by year, and after the age of 35, the probability of pregnancy complications in women is significantly increased, and the possibility of fetal malformations is also higher.
First: dominate in parenting, but will not be "hard" by one person
The dominant position of mothers in parenting cannot be replaced, even if there are old people to help with the baby, mothers should also adhere to their parenting philosophy. Because for children, it is not as safe as the company of their mothers to feel safe.
However, although Bao Mom dominates in parenting, this does not mean that they have to carry everything themselves, cooperate with their families, especially encourage Bao Dad to participate in childcare, so as to ensure the harmony and stability of life with their babies.
Second: Do not give up on self-improvement, and do a good job of time planning
Bao Mom should also insist on learning in the days with her baby and not give up the ability to improve herself. Even if there is no plan to return to the workplace in the future, mothers should not let themselves easily derail from society.
Do a good job of time planning when taking the baby, which can not only improve the efficiency of housework, but also allow the mother to have more time of her own. Know how to properly separate personal life from child care, so that the mother will not lose herself because of excessive investment.
Third: Keep a calm mind, less self-doubt and blind comparison
Everyone's life value and life trajectory will be different, so young mothers must maintain a peaceful attitude after making the decision to have children early, and do not consume the happiness of life because of unnecessary comparison. At the same time, mothers should also know how to recognize themselves, do not easily have self-doubt, and the value of life cannot be easily compared.
For the post-95 mothers, they have chosen a different life path from their peers around them, which may make them feel a little lonely, but it has to be said that as young mothers, they have more trial and error costs. In fact, no matter when the baby is born, the mother who can insist on herself and not give up self-improvement will always shine.
Pillow Parenting Message:
Bringing up children is not an easy task, and if you want to have more initiative in this matter, women should plan early. Age is one of the factors that women consider childbearing, but in comparison, mature mentality and reliable child-rearing life planning are the basic guarantee for bringing a good baby.
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