Everyone says that girls are like Dad, Daddy's little cotton jacket. And the boy is like a mother, a little lover of the mother. However, some people have found that girls are older and are still very close to their fathers, but boys grow up with their mothers, so what is the reason?
In fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, they will maintain a certain relationship with their parents when they grow up. To solve this problem, we must first start with a person's emotions and independence.
The reason why a child is so close to his parents from an early age and has seemingly unbreakable emotions is because children are too young, and they are inseparable from their parents' companionship and care for themselves, whether from their inner or material needs. When you are thirsty, you will ask your parents for water to drink, and when you are hungry, you will ask your parents for food to eat. When you are wronged, you will also go to your parents for psychological comfort.
But as children continue to grow, their wings are full, whether they are thirsty, hungry or aggrieved, they can obtain it through their own efforts, so the relationship between them and their parents is not as close as before. Compared to boys, girls may still need their fathers to care about and encourage themselves.
So from time to time they will continue to maintain an intimate relationship with their father, or with their mother, but the existence of boys as a force body, they will appear much worse than girls in this regard.
Some little boys, they have not been raised by their parents, so as adults, the relationship they have with their parents is even weaker. When some children are young, their mothers discipline children more strictly, and their parent-child relationship with their mothers will be relatively tense. Speaking of which, some mothers are not convinced, and they will ask, so how do I educate my son? How to accompany my son? He was able to connect with me so well when he grew up!
If, as parents, we want to maintain a good parent-child relationship with the boys who grow up, then please remember two words firmly in the process of raising children: respect and trust. Only on the basis of these two can your child grow up smoothly without any rebellious emotions that want to break free from adult control. Of course, in the process of parenting, these two words are very important, and the premise is that the mother should fulfill the duties of a mother as much as possible in the child's infancy, and only in this way can the parent-child relationship between the child and the child be established.
In addition, your companionship is also a sense of inner security for the child. And those children who have not had their mothers to take care of them since childhood, it is difficult for them to form full self-confidence in the day after tomorrow, which will be even more lacking in social rules and some abilities and skills in interacting with people.
Whose children are entering adolescence? The mother is about to gradually let go, and at this time, the respect, understanding and trust we mentioned above have become the key words for raising children. So, when the child grows up, when the mother should let go, don't worry about whether the child's relationship with you is intimate or distant.
As long as the child can have the ability to face the society, then we as mothers will give the child a safe backer, let the child fight enough outside, tired, and have a reliable harbor at any time. That's the only thing we mothers can do for our sons.
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