"Why are you bothering me?" Why do you care about me! "My 13-year-old son shelled me hysterically.
Because I came home on Friday to finish my homework, after 11 o'clock in the evening, I got up to find that the lights in his room were still on, pushed open the door to see, he was playing with his mobile phone, I told him to stop and go to bed, Saturday and Sunday for two consecutive days. This is blatantly playing with the mobile phone, and after discovering it, his answer is "engage in learning".
At school on Monday, the teacher posted a list of people in the class group who did not do homework with him. When I saw his name, I immediately realized that children not only indulged in games, but also learned to lie.
Thinking back to the days off, the child was lazily lying in bed, I made a meal, repeatedly asked him to eat, and he dragged his feet, looking very reluctant.
If you think about it more closely, it seems that personal hygiene has also been omitted. Thinking of his addiction to the Internet and games, remembering his depression, lack of energy, physical weakness and other symptoms, the more he thought about it, the more angry he became, and in a fit of anger, he found the mobile phone and resolutely decided to soak the mobile phone in water. When the child comes home from school and finds that the mobile phone cannot be used, there is a front roar.
"Because I'm a mom, I have an obligation and a responsibility to take care of you."
The child was furious and slammed the door shut.
I was maddened by his obsessive attitude, and even so, I had to take care of his emotions, try to suppress the anger in my heart, and answer him very gently.
Called my husband, he came to reprimand again, I don't know who he is reprimanding, anyway, the person who listened is me, the person who is unhappy is also me, so I didn't wait for him to finish, I hung up.
Friends comforted me that during the rebellious period of children, as long as the stop loss is stopped in time, playing mobile phones is not a big deal.
Hanging up my friend's phone, I waited quietly at home.
When the child was young, the noise at night made me anxious, and woke up his father who was sleeping soundly in bed, hoping that he could help coax the child and reduce the pressure on me by the child's noise. In less than half an hour, his father would hand it to me and say, "The child is hungry and wants to feed, who told you to have milk, and if I have milk, I will make him laugh!" ”
In the words of the child's father, I can feel how great the father's love is, and my mother seems so narrow and selfish. In the dead of night, this "fatherly love" is manifested in the thunderous snoring, while the "narrow and selfish" mother spends all night coaxing the child. Because I'm a mom, because I have milk!
After that, the child's diet and nutrition, learning and education have naturally become the business of my mother. Of course, the child has also become an important pendant for the mother, and this pendant has been hung for several years.
A strip of cloth more than two meters long, from the child's armpits, hangs on his shoulders, and then binds from his waist to the child's stomach, which can be hung on the chest or on the back, but it is more convenient to work on the back.
At the age of two, we rented three hot and cold houses in front of the school to do business. A man doing housework, with children hanging from his body, doing business.
I remember once, I took the third elder out to run an errand, and my husband called my mother-in-law to help, and my mother-in-law was only in her fifties at that time. When Lao Yuan saw me walking home, she came over and said, "I'm exhausted!" Then she stopped beside me and counted how much work she had done that day, how tired she was, how difficult it was! I said very politely, "Thanks, hard work!" ”
When my husband came out to clone his mother, I said, "I took a child and did a bunch of work." You mother and son are tired of doing this work? ”
"Aren't you tired?" I didn't rest..."
He also wanted to count them for me. I interrupted him: "The two of you have not done my usual work alone, and you are tired and tired every day, and I am not tired when I work every day?" ”
I said this, but also think that men can understand my difficulty, who knows he replied: "Because you are a mother!" ”
My husband replied with such a sentence and choked me!
Because I am a mother, the most tired, the most bitter, the most angry have to endure, silently endure.
I also remember the second primary school teacher said to me: "Xiaohong, don't give up the education of your son, don't look at him usually in class and don't listen to the lectures very seriously, as long as you listen to the lectures with a little snack, he can make the topic!" ”
From elementary school to junior high school, from junior high school to high school, he stayed at school with the attitude of being a monk for a day and hitting the clock for a day. I lifted him up step by step in the form of debt, and I didn't give up for more than ten years.
The same is true of the third, because I am a mother, and I cannot give up the education of my children!
Author Peng Xiaohong.
【About the Author】
Peng Xiaohong, pen name Dream, net name Huanxin, Hunan Ningxiang people, love words, like to trim life, into the tranquility and elegance of words, looking for that tranquility.