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Author | Jiang Guo
Source | Mizuki Digest (ID: mweishijie)
The women in "Dream of the Red Chamber" are like the hundred flowers blooming in the Grand View Garden, all of them are outstanding and beautiful.
Some people like the gentleness of Baochao, some people worship the majesty of Fengjie, and some people love Daiyu's talent.
In fact, these women who live so wonderfully have their own characteristics. If we can learn one or two, it will be enough to use it for a lifetime.
1
Xue Baochao
A woman with high emotional intelligence, smooth sailing
Xue Baochao is an emotional intelligence textbook, and he can live like a fish anywhere.
When she first entered Jia Province, she quickly mingled with everyone, even the little girl liked to play with her; some specialties were sent from home, she did not show thickness and thinness, and even Aunt Zhao praised her for her knowledge; Xiangyun had no money to do the east, she quietly helped behind her, and a crab feast made everyone have fun. Jia Mu praised Bao Chao: from the four girls in our family, all of them are not as good as Bao Yatou.
The book "Emotional Intelligence" says: People with high IQ and high emotional intelligence are proud of the spring breeze; people with low IQ and high emotional intelligence are helped by nobles.
Women with high emotional intelligence have a bottom line in their hearts, treat people with measure, know how to think for others, and can go smoothly and smoothly wherever they go.
2
Wang Xifeng
Only rich women have confidence
Wang Xifeng was born in the Jinling royal family on the rich side, and after marrying, he took charge of the financial power of the Rongguo Government, and he had a lot of wealth in the family.
Grandma Liu came to the door for help, she casually took out twenty-two pieces of silver, and she was so happy that Grandma Liu read the Buddha; the sisters had no money to run a poetry club, and they all wanted to ask her for help for help at the first time; even when she quarreled with her husband Jia Lian, she could say with confidence: "Sweep the cracks in the ground of our royal family, it will be enough for you to live a lifetime!" Hearing this, Jia Lian had no choice but to obediently submit to it.
Yishu once said: What I want most is love, a lot of love, if there is no love, money is also good.
Money is a woman's greatest confidence, both ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign. You asked me how I could live this life well, and I advised you to make more money.
3
Jia Tanchun
An ambitious woman who dominates herself
Tanchun once put down a bold statement: I am a man, I can go out, I will leave early, set up a career, then I have a reason!
Her birth mother, Aunt Zhao, was shallow and despicable, so she was determined to go out, study hard, and choose good and friends; when Sister Feng fell ill, she took over the power of the housekeeper without hesitation, enforced the law impartially, and was just and righteous; when she inspected the Grand View Garden, she was the first to foresee the decline of the family, stepped forward, and rebuked diao nu.
Exploring the lofty ambitions of spring has made her walk out of the quagmire of her original family and become a "rose" that everyone respects and loves.
Roman Rolland once said: People without ambition, like a kite with a broken line, will only shake in the air and will eventually lose their future. This is especially true for women. A woman without ambition can be at the mercy of others for a lifetime; a woman with ambition can control her own destiny.
4
Shi Xiangyun
A woman who loves to laugh, the popularity is good
Xiang Yun's parents died, and he sent people to the fence, and he could not be the master at home at all. But she has developed an optimistic and cheerful personality, and she will bring happiness wherever she goes.
She was straight-talking, and when she saw Baoyu, she shouted "love brother", like Baochao, she said, "None of these sisters is better than Sister Bao", and when she saw Xing Xiuyan pawning clothes, she was uneven. When the mouth is hungry, he pulls baoyu to roast venison, and when he is drunk, he sleeps with peony medicine, and he does not forget to carry out the liquor order in his mouth, which makes everyone laugh.
Xiangyun's smiling personality also made her love and help from everyone. Jia Mu took her to the Grand View Garden every three to five minutes to play, and Bao Chao helped her to relieve the siege of the East, and even the raiders, Xiangling and others had a good friendship with her.
Tagore: When you smile, the world loves him. A smile is a woman's best business card, if you give the world a smiley face, the world will definitely return you a period of warmth.
5
Grandma Liu
A generous woman will be blessed
Grandma Liu was originally a village woman, and after coming to the Jia Mansion of Zhumen Embroidery Household, she unexpectedly became the object of everyone's ridicule.
Grandma Liu knew that she was being teased, but she simply calculated it and acted out a play with Feng Jie and Mandarin Duck, making Jia Fu lean forward and backward. One of her sentences, "Old Liu Lao Liu, eats a lot like a cow, eats an old sow without looking up!" It became a self-black golden sentence, and even the cold Dai Yu couldn't help but laugh and sigh.
Afterwards, Mandarin Duck apologized to her, but she said: Let's coax the old lady to open her heart, what is the annoyance! Grandma Liu's heart was generous, so that she received the generosity of Jia Fu and completely changed her family's destiny.
As the saying goes, the amount of great blessing is also great, and the opportunity is also deep. Generous women, open-minded, frank, do not like to be calculating, and only seek to be ashamed of their work. If your heart is as wide as the sea, the blessing will come.
6
Jammu
A woman without a sense of age, without fear of aging
Although Jia Mu is an old man with silver hair, she lives her life like a young man.
She is deeply hidden, well versed in the way of management, and supports Sister Feng's housekeeper, and she retreats to the second line herself and raises herself.
She has elegant taste and is full of interest in life, just like a ashes-level literary young woman. She likes to listen to the play, and also says that "it is better to listen to the sound of water"; likes to appreciate the moon, and also says "such a good month, you must not smell the flute"; like flowers, she personally picked a big red chrysanthemum flower on her head; like to play, and on snowy days, she also ran out to enjoy the snow with her grandchildren.
Samuel Shiyun: Youth is not youth, but state of mind; youth is not peach face, dan lips, soft knees, but the deep spring of life is gushing.
The face will eventually grow old, but the heart can always be young. Only women who forget their age can continue to live with enthusiasm; only women with a young mentality can never be afraid of aging.
7
Lin Daiyu
Only a sincere woman can get true love
Dai Yubing is clean and talented, only better than Xie Daoyun, looking like a sick Xi shi, but this is not the reason why people love her the most.
She treats people sincerely and with deep affection, and once she believes that the other party is a confidant, she will not hesitate to dig out her heart and lungs. In front of Baoyu, she is always willful, careful, and loves to cry, because she regards Baoyu as the person she loves the most, and she reveals her true feelings without scruples.
A piece of Daiyu's sincerity was obtained from Baoyu's first lifelong infatuation. Hearing that she was going back to Suzhou, Baoyu was directly frightened and half dead. After Daiyu's death, Baoyu also saw through the red dust and soon became a monk.
People always say that true love is hard to find, but in fact, what is difficult to find is not true love, but whether you are willing to give your true heart.
When love is tied together with money, power, origin, and appearance, we are always prone to lose our hearts, and naturally we cannot find true love.
Why should love be long or short, the moment of sincerity is eternal. If you want to get unswerving love to the death, please show your unreserved sincerity.
The women in "Dream of the Red Chamber" are all so radiant and otherworldly.
From them, we can see our own shadow and experience the truth of being a human being.
Instead of envying their extraordinary experiences, it is better to learn from their talents and let yourself live such a wonderful life.
Read the dream of the Red Chamber for a lifetime, and wish to learn the Twelve Nobles of Jinling. May every woman in the world benefit from it and become the best version of herself.
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