The child's body often hides the dignity of a family, how much the parents have paid in the child's education, and the child's words and deeds are clear.
Every bear child is habitual by parents, and every good child is carefully cultivated by parents.
Don't expect your child to be born excellent, every child's excellence is soaked with the sweat of their parents.
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Behind every bear child
Both have a pair of unqualified parents
In life, we are most afraid of encountering bear children, three major fears about bear children: traveling by car and flying to meet bear children, watching movies to meet bear children, and bear children to play at your home.
How powerful are bear children?
A flight in Nanning was rebooked due to a typhoon, and many parents let their children make a big fuss at the airport
● When a woman watched the movie, she reminded her child not to make noise, but she was injured by the other mother
● The bear child plane trouble, the whole family was expelled from the United States
● During rush hour, elementary school students ride shared bicycles in the South Lake Tunnel.
● Bear Child stopped running 3 subway escalators in 5 minutes
Through these events, we can find that behind the rampant madness of every bear child is the connivance of the bear parents.
When the bear child made a big noise in a public place, the bear parent said, "He is still a child." ”
When the bear child wreaked havoc in someone else's home, the bear parent said, "He's still a child." ”
When the bear child beat people and took things randomly, the bear parent said, "He is still a child." ”
"Noisy" is indeed the nature of children, they are lively, restless, and at the same time full of curiosity, but all protection is limited, and all tolerance must have boundaries.
Children can not be children all their lives, children are still young, do not understand things, can not become a child's eternal shield, and when his age walks in front of the mind, the world will no longer tolerate them.
First-class parents cultivate their children's virtues, and third-rate parents cultivate their children's stinky virtues.
There are never born bear children, only unqualified bear parents.
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Behind every good kid
Both are successful parents
Mo Yan once said: The excellence of children is soaked with the sweat of parents.
Harvard Doctor He Jiang told his own growth experience in the program "Children Walk a Thousand Miles".
He was born in a peasant family in Hunan, and his parents were not highly educated, but they firmly believed that knowledge changed their destiny, and encouraged their brothers to study from an early age.
In rural areas, most young workers will choose to go out to work, leaving only the elderly and children at home.
Although He Jiang's family is very poor, in order not to let the children become "left-behind children", the parents did not go out to work, but guarded the adobe house to accompany the two children.
No matter how tired the work is every day, parents will insist on telling their children some inspirational bedtime stories to encourage their children to study well.
The mother also often accompanied the two children to study together, she asked the two sons to tell themselves the knowledge of the class, and when they did not understand, they would discuss with the two children.
My father also made a rule that he insisted on reading every day.
He Jiang said that it is the family that is subtly nourished in the process of his own growth, and he can always stick to his dreams.
Otherwise, he would probably be like his friends in the village now, a wandering migrant worker.
An outstanding child never produces an effect through the preaching of his parents, but through the actions of his parents into the flesh and blood of the child.
On the road of children's education, compared with the cultural level of parents, what has a greater impact on children is their parents' cognition of culture, and what children pay more attention to is whether you are a competent parent than the occupation and status of parents.
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Truly visionary parents
Children are never expected to be self-conscious
In the popular TV series "Little Joy" some time ago, there is such a scene.
Fang Yifan because of the poor grades, was suggested by the teacher to repeat the grade for a year, Tong Wenjie was angry at his son a scolding, and then anxious to find a good girlfriend Song Qian, hoping that she could help her son analyze the grades and tutor the homework.
Song Qian said that she didn't know to worry about it for a long time, and now she began to worry.
Tong Wenjie said, why didn't I worry? If his grades are not good, I will spend money to enroll him in the class, which is still called not worrying?
Contrary to Tong Wenjie is Yingzi's mother Song Qian, although Song Qian's control over Yingzi is too strong, but in Yingzi's learning, Song Qian has always been conscientious.
She personally tutored her daughter's homework, used big data to analyze the changes in her daughter's grades, Yingzi's good grades, and how much Song Qian's painstaking efforts there were.
In life, many parents are tong Wenjie, always thinking that when the child is not learning well, they will enroll their children in a class, and teach their children a lesson when the child's exam is poor.
Always bitterly ask the child to study well, let the child be self-conscious, they think that this is the child's learning is very attentive.
In fact, no, children are children, their self-discipline is very poor, few children can control themselves, do not expect children to be self-conscious, more is the need for parental restraint.
Children who have never been born self-conscious, only parents who have long-term supervision.
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Behind every excellent child
They are inseparable from the "fierce heart" of their parents
Every parent wants their child to grow up happily, but the biggest scam of education is called "child, you just have to be happy."
No knowledge or skill needs to be acquired through long-term tedious practice and perseverance.
When the child does not want to write homework; when the child does not want to practice; when the child does not want to stick to good habits.
What parents have to do is to actively guide and encourage, and even force the child to do it, so that the child understands the meaning of learning and persistence, rather than resigning to it and saying that the child is happy.
Parents' intolerance in their children's education is actually evading responsibility.
And every responsibility that parents evade in their children's education may face the risk of doubling down in the future; and every effort parents put in raising their children may be doubly compensated in the future.
When the TV series "Tiger Mother and Cat Father" was popular, Bi Shengnan, played by Zhao Wei, had a line that I still remember.
She said:
"No one in this world will condone you except your family, will not accommodate you because you are pitiful, will not accommodate you because you are beautiful."
This world is very cruel, you must have real ability, otherwise no one can help you. ”
Society is very realistic and cruel, and in a society where the weak eat the strong, it is more often not the survival of the fittest, but the survival of the strong.
We can't protect our children for a lifetime. Now that we do not force our children to learn "72 changes", who will help him block the "81 difficulties" in the future?
If you want your child not to be eliminated by reality, you must teach your child how to become a strong person, and when you grow up, they must be grateful for all the "desperate feelings" you have had.
Education is to make children become better people, let children live a more ideal life, and let children have more choices in the future.
May every child have the courage to conquer the sea of stars in the future.
May every child have the feelings to count the stars in the future.
Source: The picture and text come from the network, invaded and deleted.
EDIT: Xiao Huang
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