Looking forward to jackie chan and hoping for a daughter to become a phoenix is not only the expectation of parental love, but also a chronic poison that poisons the child's splendid childhood.
Remember that Oxford international student Zhang Yide?
An all-rounder, admitted to a top school, and then committed suicide.
After Zhang Yide was pushed onto the altar, it was cold in the high place; behind the attention of his father, there was nowhere to vent his depression.
I saw a child with severe depression on the Internet who said that he was overwhelmed by the doting of his family.
There are comments on the Internet that Zhang Yide's father has done his father's love to the extreme, but "extreme" is not a good word at any time and anywhere.
For example, the love of parents is the same, and it will be suffocating after it.
Many things, to the extreme, are the beginning of the opposite.
In recent years, there have been too many tragedies about the psychological problems of adolescents.
Those who jump off buildings and commit suicide because of unsatisfactory grades; those who cannot complete their homework and choose to die; those who are under too much pressure to bid farewell to the world, and so on.
The anxiety of parents and the childlike heart of the child have long been overwhelmed, and countless tragedies have to make parents reflect.
Many parents are winning for their children at the starting line, doing a thousand calculations before and after, thinking that everything is for the good of their children, and often ignoring the huge crisis behind the results.
Pulling seedlings to help us understand the truth that things must be reversed, and the growth of children also makes us vigilant, if we use too much force, we will eventually regurgitate.
We always give our children what we think is the best, never thinking about whether the child can afford it.
If a child doesn't meet our expectations, it can leave us feeling anxious, worried, disappointed, and depressed.
The emotions of parents seriously affect the mental health of children, and they face the disappointment and anxiety of their parents, which will produce unconfidence, depression and self-denial, and even lead to tragedy.
Therefore, in recent years, books on the psychology of parents and adolescent psychology have sprung up everywhere, and healthy parenting has become the most concerned issue at present.
The book "Miss Koala's Psychological Healing Class" is a healing psychology picture book that can help you effectively alleviate negative emotions such as anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, loneliness, depression, and self-denial, and reduce personal stress.
The author, Kate Allen, is a popular Illustrator and Designer in the United States who specializes in writing and painting content that heals people's hearts.
With a number of heart-warming illustrations and warm suggestions drawn by the author himself, this book guides you to explore the path to your heart and fully accept your true self.
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Miss Koala's Psychotherapy Lesson is suitable for readers at any stage, whether you are an anxious parent, or a depressed, rebellious child under excessive stress, you can heal yourself through the book.
As the author says, "You don't need to deliberately strive for perfection in order to get the love of others; please don't be so harsh on yourself, you've done a great job." ”
So, no matter how bad a difficult situation you are facing, this healing psychology picture book will help you find the strength hidden in your heart and let you regain the confidence to face everything.
If you really love your child, don't just pay attention to the child's grades, and don't consider the size of the child's psychological endurance.
Let the child be his own way, instead of living the "you want" look,
If you really love yourself, please embrace your imperfections in order to truly heal and grow.
There are no perfect parents in the world, and there are no perfect children, only the best of themselves.