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The newborn baby comes from a warm, comfortable and safe uterine environment to a strange and noisy world, and naturally the heart is extremely uneasy. Therefore, the baby is always easy to be "scared", even if it is a little noise, it may scare the baby a lot.
After the child is frightened, the most direct reaction is to cry, how to coax has no effect, at this time, the old man in the family said that the child's "soul" was scared off and needed to "scream".
Baby is "scared of the soul", the old man to help call a call?
Colleague Wen Jing took her son Liu Liu back to her mother's house last week, and at night, due to the lack of light in the countryside, Liu Liu and his brother-in-law did not pay attention when playing hide-and-seek, and they were startled by the little uncle who pounced in front of them.
Liu Liu was frightened and screamed loudly at that time, and then he cried even more, Wen Jing and the child's grandmother rushed to hear the sound, but no matter how the two adults comforted, Liu Liu was crying non-stop, until finally tired, he lay down in his mother's arms and fell asleep.
However, in the middle of the night, the child began to have a high fever, and his breathing became very urgent, which suddenly frightened Wen Jing not lightly, and he was anxious to take the child to the hospital. However, the child's grandmother said: Liu Liu is "scared of the soul" and has to be "called".
For such a statement as "calling the soul", Wen Jing naturally rejected it from the bottom of her heart, but there was no way at present, so she operated according to the method of the child's grandmother, and sure enough, the six or six slept very steadily after that, as if the "soul" was really called back.
After the baby is frightened, does he really need to "shout the soul" to the baby?
I still remember when Tuanzi's mother was just promoted to be a mother, because she didn't have much experience in parenting, and many nursing details still needed to rely on the elderly at home to help, and even the elderly at home listened to what they said.
During the period, the child also had the problem of frequent crying, which really made me very broken, and the old man in the family saw this situation, and he was very sure that the child was frightened and lost the "soul", and then taught me some methods to help the child "call the soul".
Although I have little experience in parenting, when I hear words like "calling the soul child", as a woman in the new era, I still reject it in my heart, and I feel that such a method is unreliable, and it is appropriate to be the feudal superstitious ideas of the past.
However, at that time, the baby was still "called" according to the method taught by the old man, and sure enough, the baby's crying mood eased a lot. In fact, now that I think about it, although the old man's statement seems to be a bit superstitious, in fact, there is still some scientific basis.
A doctor once explained the situation of children "scaring the soul":
"The so-called scare away the soul is due to the child's nervous system development is not yet mature, after being frightened, the body has some stress responses, such as fever, body convulsions and so on."
Therefore, when the child is frightened, the so-called "soul calling" of the old man may not be very scientific, but it cannot be said to be useless.
In life, what behaviors are easy for children to "scare off the soul"?
1) Take the child on the night walk
The elderly are best not to take the child out at night, because the child's "eyes are not closed", will see the "dirty things" that adults can't see, and it is very easy to provoke.
But in fact, children are better off not walking at night, in fact, because they are too imaginative. Children's imagination is too rich, seeing some blurry objects or shadows at night, their stress response will amplify this imagination, making the heart infinite fear.
And this highly nervous emotion, will let the child have a series of physiological stress reactions, such as high fever, sluggishness, convulsions, etc., in the eyes of the elderly, it will be considered that the child is "scared of the soul".
2) Bring your child to the funeral
Funerals are taboo, so parents generally don't bring their children to attend. In addition to this reason, the environment and atmosphere around the funeral will also make the child feel very uncomfortable, and it is easy for the child to be afraid, and there will also be a situation of "scaring the soul".
3) Pretending to be mysterious to scare children
For those naughty children, many old people like to use "scare" to discipline, such as "big horse monkey", "big monster" and other plots, often appear in the words of adults.
And these words involving scaring children, it is easy for children to fall into the infinite brain supplement picture in the middle of the night, which will not only "scare the soul", but even affect the child for a lifetime.
Tuanzi Mama wants to say:
I have to say that there is a reason why the ancient parenting method can be passed down for a long time, although this method of "shouting the soul" is not scientific, but it is still very useful, and parents still have to look at it rationally.