"Procrastination" is a common disease of children, many parents are deeply disturbed, and in general, the more parents feel that their children are rubbing, the more they are "acute", and the two can be called "excellent match".
It is precisely for this reason that we often hear parents complaining, "I do things so neatly, how can the child not be like me at all"? Even when he can't stand it, he often gets angry at his children, which can be described as a broken heart.
In fact, many times the child procrastination is not intentional, parents blindly force the child, vent emotions is difficult to play an educational significance, and in order to fundamentally solve the problem, we must first understand, why do children love procrastination so much?
Children often procrastinate, there may be these 5 reasons
1. The physiological structure is immature
In the human body, the brain's prefrontal cortex function is related to cognition, emotion, behavior management, etc., the child's brain prefrontal region is not mature, such a physiological structure, determines the child's cognitive ability, behavior management ability are worse than adults, so it is often difficult to quickly respond to parental instructions, easy to drag.
2. There is a fear of difficulties
Sometimes the reason why children procrastinate may also be because there is a fear of difficulties and excessive psychological pressure on the next task.
For example, many parents have such an experience, sending their children to school is comparable to "going to the knife mountain and down the sea of fire", you can take your children to buy the toys you want, and the kung fu children can clean up in the blink of an eye, which is because in the hearts of children, there is a certain psychological burden on school.
3. Parents are overly urged
The more parents urge, the easier it is to cause children to be bored, and even to arouse the heart of rebellion, especially when the number of times is more, the child's urging of parents will only be regarded as "ear wind".
It can be said that sometimes children procrastinate, the problem is not in the children, but in the parents say too much, too much urging the child, will only be counterproductive.
4. The child has feelings of dependence
Seeing that children wear clothes and spend a lot of effort, many parents can't help but be anxious, three times five divided by two to help children put on their clothes.
But the next time you wear clothes, the child is still the same, parents can only help again, into a vicious circle, so that the child has a dependence on emotions, procrastination has become the norm.
5. Lack of concept of time
In fact, many children do things, in the final analysis, there is no concept of time, they do not know what is the difference between half an hour and 1 hour, nor do they know when to do what, there is no sense of urgency, so do things naturally "slowly and leisurely", so that parents are in a hurry.
Avoid procrastination and use "little tricks"
1. Decompose the task and solve the child's fear of difficulties
When the children of the niece Kobayashi family do homework, because they think it is too much and too difficult, they refuse to write every time, which makes Kobayashi once annoyed.
To this end, I suggested to Kobayashi that she could decompose the child's homework, on the one hand, from simple to difficult, on the other hand, after completing each part, give some small rewards, such as allowing the child to play with the toys he likes for a while, eat a little snack, by decomposing the homework a little bit, to reduce the child's fear of difficulties, over time, and then encourage the child to gradually increase the difficulty.
In fact, when the child is afraid of difficulties and drags, most of the emotions are just psychologically thinking that they cannot complete the task, as long as the task is decomposed and their enthusiasm is enhanced through rewards, the child's self-consciousness will naturally become stronger and stronger.
2. Teach children to recognize time
Children are not sensitive enough to time, we can use some small skills to make children aware of the existence of time and appreciate the value of time.
For example, specify a "24-hour schedule" with your child, get up at 7 o'clock until go to bed at 9:30 p.m., segment the time of day, let the child know what to do at a certain time of the day, gradually form a habit, and develop a sense of time for the child.
In addition, we can also put a small alarm clock in the child's room, set time reminders for getting up, doing homework, rest, etc., or usually play some games with the child to understand the time, such as letting the child guess what time it is now, asking the child how much time it takes to do a specific thing, etc., to strengthen the child's sensitivity to time.
All in all, we must integrate the understanding of time into the child's life, so that the child gradually has a clear concept of time.
3. Improve your child's ability and avoid urging
When the child is procrastinating due to poor ability, we must not repeatedly urge, but should be encouraged, and the child's ability should be targeted to improve.
For example, some children may have poor fine movement ability, we can guide children to do more games to exercise fine action ability, such as paper cutting, puzzles, building blocks, etc., some children may not concentrate, we can let children try to play balance beams, swings and other games, and gradually guide children to quiet down and improve their concentration ability.
Old Miao Conclusion:
Solving the problem of children's procrastination is not an overnight thing, we must have enough patience, only to find the real reason for the child's procrastination, take targeted solutions, and give them enough time to fundamentally solve the problem.
Today's topic: Does your child like to procrastinate?
I am Lao Miao, a super grandfather after the 80s, and the most eye-catching male head nurse in the hospital, welcome to discuss the issue of pregnancy together, and please pay attention to Lao Miao.