In the relationship, there are always some people who worry about whether the other party really loves themselves all day long, and often rack their brains to test, but the result is not satisfactory.
Some people say that whether the other party loves you or not depends on how he treats you; some people say that the other party loves you or not, just pay more attention to details.
For example, if a person is very intimate with you and takes into account you in everything, that is, he loves you, and he is very cold to you and does not care about your emotions.
As the saying goes: Love can't stand the temptation"
In fact, love does not need to be tempted, just look at whether the other party has given these 4 things, it is clear at a glance.
01, accompany your time
As the saying goes: "Companionship is the longest confession of affection"
Truly loving a person does not need sweet words, but a little time, will accompany the loved one, in the eyes of some people, accompany the loved one, more than all the flowery rhetoric and luxury materials.
The night does not feel lonely because of the appearance of the dawn; the flowers and trees do not feel lonely, it is because of the company of the sun; the lover does not feel lonely, because of our true feelings.
When I was in college, my roommate Zhang Fang (pseudonym) had a boyfriend when she first entered her sophomore year, and she could hardly be seen at school except in class, and she was not seen until bedtime every day.
Later, I learned that the time she disappeared was with her boyfriend, who studied, read famous books, played games, and ran. I used to tease her with the other two girls in the dormitory: "Sticking together all day, won't it be greasy?" ”
Whenever Zhang Fang heard our ridicule, she smiled and did not answer. In fact, they were not sticky before, until Zhang Fang was sick once, more serious, Zhang Fang's boyfriend was frightened, which caused them to stay together all day.
After a long time together, the relationship between the two is getting better and better, and there is a common concept in each other's hearts: "Today's companionship, tomorrow may not be, so cherish every day's time."
Therefore, as long as they have time, they will accompany each other, no matter what they do, as long as they accompany each other, even if they do not speak, they will stare at each other stupidly, which is also very happy.
It has been 8 years since the university period, and Zhang Fang and her boyfriend have also entered marriage for many years, and after marriage, they still follow the company of the student era.
In fact, truly loving a person is like this, always thinking that the time spent with each other is too short, so they always spare no effort to leave more time for the person they love.
As this online adage says: "I just want to walk with you in the rain, hold an umbrella together, and if you want to ask me what I want, that is, I hope the rain does not stop".
02, enough patience with you
People who really love you will try their best to enlighten you in the face of your nagging and emotions, and they will not tire of saying that you are "how you are always like this".
People who really love you will live a "nice life with you" instead of seeing it as boring.
In his eyes, you are good and important, and you often tell yourself to know how to cherish, so at any time, you have enough patience.
If you're in a bad mood, he'll try to make you happy, rather than blaming you for being too pretentious; if you're not doing well, he'll go back to the source and help you solve the problem.
I have a reader who once told me the story of her and her husband
Yang Lan (pseudonym) said that her happiest time of the day is the time when she returns home with her husband after a busy day. Yang Lan and her husband prepare dinner together every day, do housework, talk about work chores, and talk about future planning.
Yang Lan told me that she is a talkative lord, and if she is not allowed to speak, it will be very uncomfortable, while his husband is more taciturn and not good at words. Many times, Yang Lan kept talking non-stop, while her husband just nodded or said a few short words.
Yang Lan also said that every day when I talk about it, it is nothing more than some sesame green bean things, although there are some things I have said repeatedly, and my husband is not bored, it is precisely because he has such patience with me that I think I have not married the wrong person.
In fact, if you really love someone, as long as the other party is happy and happy, you are willing to do anything. Some things will take a lot of time, and the person who loves you will not complain from beginning to end, and will treat this process of accommodating you as a kind of happiness.
03, only you in the eyes
I once heard a saying: "When a person falls in love with another person, her eyes are filled with each other, and others are good to her, she turns a blind eye, she only needs the good of the person in front of her."
In fact, the heart will become larger because of the love of a person, the big can tolerate everything of the other party, and the same heart will become very small because of the love of a person, and the small can only accommodate him alone.
My husband is such a man, and since meeting him, he has only had me in his eyes. I remember when I first met him, there were many girls who pursued him, but he rejected all the suitors for me.
Once, by chance, I learned from my husband's friend that a beautiful-looking female colleague asked her husband to dinner, but his husband refused because he was afraid that I would misunderstand.
Not only that, as long as the opposite sex asks her husband, the husband will politely refuse, and replace the avatar and wallpaper with my photo, just to prove that he already has me.
I guess there's nothing more to love than to love someone, right? No matter how many beautiful people appear, they will reject others for your sake, which may be "the only love" or "some love is only for you".
04, I care about you very much
In your feelings, whether you have such an experience, you can't control yourself not to think about each other, you can't control yourself to love each other, over time, the other party's smile, every move, you will care very much.
Sometimes, when you get angry, the other person will wonder if they are doing something wrong or not good enough. Sometimes, you lose your temper, and the other party does not say that you are unreasonable, but chooses to comfort you.
In this life, we will meet many people, or become friends, or become lovers. However, most of them only care about what we can bring them, really care about us, understand our mood, there are only a few, and there are very few people who really want us to live well.
Truly love a person, no matter how we can't control our hearts, we can't control our hearts, we always want to love each other more, express our love to each other more, so at any time, we will love each other, let each other feel our love.
——Edn——
My words can't change your life
When I like you morning, middle and night are safe
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