There is a question: How much money does a pair of parents have to make every month to support a family?
A high-scoring answer is: "The key word to support a home is not money, the key word to support a home is love." ”
It makes sense that when people reach middle age, no matter how busy they are, remember to set aside a certain amount of time for their families, less than one party with friends, less than one socializing, but the child needs you to accompany. There are no tickets that must be earned, only children who grow up in the blink of an eye. If you have enough money, you will always be happy, but your child will not wait for you to be free when you grow up.
Xu Mama's daughter-in-law Tian Jing understands this truth, she is a doctor, her side job is to do live broadcasting with goods, or a housewife, there is very little time, even so, she still tries to take time out of the children Qi Qi Yue Yue to be together, teach children to write, draw and memorize Tang poems.
On this day, Tian Jing taught Qiqi to read picture books, and Qiqi said, "It's too simple for bunches of grapes to fly up into the sky like balloons."
Tian Jing's caption is like this: "Develop a good habit of reading every night, companionship is very important, but many times we are very busy, too busy to accompany the child to eat and sleep with the child, but reality tells us that companionship is more important than everything." ”
Many netizens resonated deeply with Tian Jing's short article and praised Tian Jing and Qiqi:
"Quiet has taken care of it well."
"Quiet awesome career family two mistakes, the two babies education is awesome."
"It's not too simple, it's Qibao is too clever!"
"The little fried hair stick is great."
"Proud Odd General, it's too simple!"
Whether it is Xu Mama or Tian Jing, this road is not easy, only they themselves know best, there is little real empathy in the world, everyone spends the winter in their own world, and the cure depends on themselves.
Tian Jing also mentioned an important issue, that is, working mothers should make time to accompany their children. It is not necessary or realistic to be like a child all the time, but it is possible to consider high-quality companionship and cherish the precious time spent with your child. It should be noted that companionship does not equal companionship. Many times the parents are human and the heart is absent, which greatly affects the quality of companionship. If possible, it is still necessary to accompany the child well.
As Gilbert, a Harvard psychology professor, said, "Ten years from now, you won't regret doing one less project, but you'll regret not spending an extra hour with your child." ”
High-quality company of your children is the best investment in the second half of your life. Nourished by the patience and love of their parents, children will grow up to be full of vitality, health, self-confidence, become a better person, and become a more optimistic person for the future.
So how to specifically accompany high-quality companionship, there is an authoritative document on the "relationship between parental companionship and children's brain development", mentioning the six major guidelines for high-quality companionship, namely:
1. Warmth: Hug the child or have intimate physical contact for 5 minutes and maintain a warm and gentle attitude;
2. Emotion: Do not stingy to express love for children, love should be frank;
3. Verbal response: Talk to your child happily at least twice, respond positively, and don't be impatient;
4. Acceptance: No matter what the child does, do not get angry, do not criticize casually, and remain restrained;
5. Encouragement: Encourage children to try some tasks independently, rather than replacing children to do them;
6. Father's participation: Father actively participates in the company of children and also strives to achieve the above five points.
These six points do not sound difficult, the key is still the ability to act, form a subtle habit, and form the cornerstone of a harmonious family atmosphere.
Tian Jing did not necessarily know these terms, but quietly practiced these points. Tian Jing and her husband Yao Wei carefully supported their small family, cared for their two children, gave Qi Qi Yueyue the best possible growth environment, and saw the child's bright smile and clear verbal expression, they knew the degree of care that Tian Jing and his wife cared for their children.
Finally, I would like to say that all love in the world is born for the sake of being together, and only the love of parents is born for separation. When separating, the best gift for children is: those high-quality companionship time brings children inner certainty, high sense of self-worth, and self-confidence.