The opening of the two-child policy makes many families want to have a second child, if young people choose to have a second child, it is still easy to understand. If you say that you are already very old and choose to have a second child, it is difficult to understand, after all, there are some people who can be grandparents, and they have to desperately have a second child, which is obviously unreasonable.
Xiao Wang is 24 years old and is a very good woman. It's just that Xiao Wang has not reached the point of talking about marriage at all, but recently he wants to find a boyfriend and then consider getting married and having children. Unexpectedly, at this time, Xiao Wang's parents gave her a surprise. That is, Xiao Wang's mother actually desperately gave birth to a second child when she was 58 years old, so it was not long before this child came into this world.
When Xiao Wang saw all this in front of him, he felt particularly speechless. In particular, Xiao Wang's mother said a series of words, which made Xiao Wang feel angry, and even made Xiao Wang feel that this was a big joke in itself. Because Xiao Wang's mother said to Xiao Wang, "When I am old, you can take care of your brother, after all, my body is not as good as before." ”
When Xiao Wang heard these words, he suddenly said, "Are you mistaken?" Why should I raise your child? What right do you have to let me raise it? What you want to do in the future is your business, and I don't have time to raise this child anyway. Xiao Wang's mother was instantly silent after hearing these words, because she did not know how to reply to her daughter.
Therefore, the birth of a second child still needs to be well considered, if this matter is not so fully considered, then the final result will definitely be bad. Especially if an elderly woman is preparing to have a second child, there are many places to pay attention to.
What factors do advanced mothers need to pay attention to when giving birth to a second child?
First of all, if an elderly woman wants to have a second child, the most important factor to pay attention to is to see if her family's treasure agrees with this matter. Sometimes it is precisely because the parents do not take into account the feelings of Dabao, so the situation of the whole family will become very embarrassing, and even the relationship between the parents and Dabao will become worse and worse.
So before having the second child, you need to discuss with Dabao to see if Dabao minds about it. If he cares about these things, then let's discuss them with him. Let them clearly understand a truth, that is, even if there is a second treasure, we will still love him as much, which will make the big treasure lower the psychological defense line, so as not to dwell on this aspect of things.
The next question to consider is their own energy, the biggest problem for elderly women is that they are getting older, do they have the energy to take care of their children? In fact, there are many elderly mothers who can't do this, so they can only take care of their children through free range.
And this kind of care is not helpful for the growth of children. Therefore, elderly women must consider this matter before giving birth to a second child, of course, if the people around them can take care of the child, then there is no need to dwell on this problem.
Then there is the economic problem, when the family has two children, the part of the expenditure becomes particularly large. There are some ordinary people who simply can't afford it, so once the second child is born, the family will become a mess. Therefore, when facing this matter, we must first look at whether our own funds are sufficient, if there is no shortage of money, then there will not be too much of a problem in having a second child.
Is it necessary for the elderly to have a second child?
In fact, different people have different views on this issue, but from a medical point of view, they are better off not having a second child. Because for advanced mothers, giving birth to a child itself carries a lot of dangers, and it is not a good thing for her own body. Even if children come into this world, they are likely to be affected a lot because of their poor constitution, so these children may not be as healthy as ordinary children.
Moreover, if you choose to have a second child at an advanced age, it is easy to affect the happiness of the child. After all, when some elderly people give birth to a second child, the first child has already reached the time to start a family, so some elderly people will hope that Dabao can take care of the second treasure. However, Dabao has no responsibility to take care of Erbao at all, which will make the relationship between the family particularly complicated, and even Dabao will feel that the family does not have any warmth, and eventually it will become unhappy.
Therefore, the need to consider the matter of having a second child at an advanced age is relatively comprehensive, and if there is a slight thing that cannot be considered, then the final impact is also very large. So in the face of this problem, we need to think twice.