Text/Wei Chen
When life comes to a certain stage, people will be extra mature. Through past experience, they can easily see through the truth of things.
It's just that everyone's life pursuits are different. Some people roar when they see the uneven road, and some people choose to see through and not say it thoroughly.
Different choices are different ways of living, and the lives they create will naturally not be the same.
Straightness and sleekness have never been superior or inferior.
How to deal with the world is only a personal choice, and we do not have to force others to adjust their forward course according to their own ideas in the name of being good for each other.
Truly permeable people don't take care of things, they understand that there is never the exact same thought in this world.
Understanding is the identification after inquiry, and inclusion is unconditional trust. If you want to get along with others, you must learn to be tolerant.
Since ancient times, it is difficult for officials to judge family affairs, and all disputes related to emotions cannot be thoroughly sorted out with great truth.
Therefore, the ancients gave the "rare and confused" philosophy of life.
Some people's "confusion" is soberness, and some people's "confusion" is confusion.
Of course, to be a person of integrity, a kind person. But some kindness cannot be given too simply, and some integrity cannot come too directly.
When life reaches a certain stage, you must learn to judge. Some things don't have to be taken care of, and they can't be managed.
No matter how kind and enthusiastic you are, don't help others with housework.
There is no standard answer to housework. We can give comfort to the other person when he is unwilling, but we cannot make decisions for him.
When people reach middle age, they should already know how to predict risks. Those things that are beyond the scope of personal ability must not be left alone.
As the saying goes, there is no diamond diamond to do porcelain work. The same is true of people.
Be self-aware and don't take yourself too seriously at any time.
Only by constantly reflecting on the heart and constantly improving and correcting can we avoid the things that frequently appear in trouble in life to the greatest extent.
People with self-knowledge often reflect on themselves. They understand the principle of "not knowing the whole picture, not commenting".
Whether you're well-intentioned or not, don't make decisions for others unless you can take responsibility to the end.
The core of the ferryman is to guide, not to spur the way forward.
From ancient times to the present, there are not a few things that cause trouble for themselves because of their nosy work.
Life has never been absolutely just, after all, everyone's cognition is different, and their feelings about the world are different.
No one can change the development of society, so some idle things must be avoided.
In addition to other people's family affairs, there are also neighborhood disputes. And the life plans of others, and even marriage.
Only by maintaining a certain distance between people can they produce beauty. If you get too close, it is easy to have contradictions.
It's not a good habit to join in the fun. Since some things have nothing to do with you, don't be too curious and ask around.
For example, how much money someone else makes, and the depth of one person's relationship with another.
There is never a phenomenon in this world without cause. In addition to the superficial consciousness, a person also has a subconscious mind.
The superficial consciousness can be deliberately changed, and the subconscious mind is usually not easily adjusted.
Therefore, if you want to spend the rest of your life in peace, you must first complete your self-cultivation.
Helpfulness was certainly good. But helpers also pay attention to art, and if they do well, they will receive heartfelt thanks, and if they do not help well, they will only be laborious and unflattering.
Everything needs to be mastered to a degree, and the same is true for helping people.
Sometimes, the other party just wants to get an affirmation from you, but you will be wrong and give the other party a comment with great fanfare.
Acting in this way will not only not bring each other closer to each other, but also greatly reduce this feeling.
A sense of boundaries is an essential part of a relationship, and even if your intention is for the good of the other person, consider whether the other person is willing to accept you.
The sense of boundaries is an indispensable goodness in the adult world.
In interpersonal communication, there are always moments that make us feel uncomfortable, but there is no way to refuse.
That is the "enthusiastic help" from friends and family, who will always guide and comment on our lives as people who come over.
And these well-intentioned reviews are always only problems, no solutions.
This situation is called nosy.
The ancients, do not do to others what they do not want.
Those objectionable or embarrassing kindnesses, if you have experienced them, you should know not to allow yourself to do so for the rest of your life.
Sometimes, you think you're crossing people, but you don't know that that "kindness" not only causes trouble for the other party, but also blocks your own way.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About author: Wei Chen, freelance writer. He loves literature and has a certain understanding of poetry and literary works.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.