I am a stay-at-home mom, a stay-at-home mom who is constantly fulfilling her self-worth. Reject anxiety, refuse "inner volume", easy parenting, rational treatment of married life, tolerant response to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I hope that some of my views can make you suddenly enlightened, can bring you positive energy, and solve your practical problems.
Xiu Jiekai and Jia Jingwen are a rare loving couple.
When Jia Jingwen divorced, the scene of crying and complaining to the camera with a haggard face is vividly remembered, of course, now the two sides have resolved the contradiction.
However, at that time, the feeling was still quite profound, a woman with amazing beauty, actually met someone unladylike, hitched a ride on her own life.
Fortunately, Jia Jingwen quickly regained her state after the divorce.
People say that whether a person has a good marriage, depending on her state, Jia Jingwen's second marriage is happy and happy, at least she must feel it this way, from her good state and smile on her face, you can feel it.
The two men have different views on "whether to continue to have children"
Xiu Jiekai and Jia Jingwen are sister-brother lovers, but this does not prevent the two from forming a happy family.
Wutong Sister, plus Wu Qi and Bo Niu, a family of five lively and lively, looks enviable.
Because Jia Jingwen gave birth to three children, Jia Jingwen said that this was enough and did not want to regenerate.
But because she gave birth to three daughters, there was always speculation that she would continue to have children.
When Xiu Jiekai participated in the program, he was asked by the host: Do you want to have another child?
Xiu Jiekai's answer was that he liked children very much and wanted to have children again.
Maybe he really likes children, not wants a son, really wants to have children all the time.
But wouldn't he really think about his wife's age?
Jia Jingwen is 47 years old, not 37 years old, not 27 years old, 37 years old is already considered an advanced maternal age, 47 years old state is even more unsuitable for having children, this age to have a child, that is, to risk life.
Of course, it may just be that the two people's views are different, and it does not affect the feelings of the two people.
However, taking one's own subjectivity as the mainstay and ignoring the objective conditions of one's wife makes people feel a little uncomfortable.
Stars are far away from us, but in fact they are also ordinary people, in real life, if the husband still wants to have children (it is the wife who works hard anyway), and ignores the age of the wife, it is a kind of irresponsible performance.
Why not have kids before the age of 35?
35 years old is the dividing line between mothers and elderly women, once the age of the mother is higher than 35 years old, it will be considered to be an elderly mother, and the implication of "elderly mothers" is that pregnancy and the delivery process face greater risks, especially during childbirth, there will be various sudden complications, and any problem may endanger the life of the mother.
Of course, the current medical conditions have developed, and it is true that the delivery process is much safer, but it still cannot eliminate the risk.
When women are young, the body's cell activity is high, the physical fitness is good, and pregnancy and childbirth are nothing to them.
However, for advanced-age mothers, the activity of cells declines, the physical fitness is much worse than before, and during pregnancy, the body is more susceptible to hormone secretion.
During childbirth, there will be more risks.
Female celebrities can still have the best medical conditions, while the medical conditions that ordinary people can enjoy are greatly reduced, and the success rate of resisting risks will decline.
Therefore, especially for ordinary people, if you want a baby, you must ask for it as soon as possible, and it is best not to wait until the physical condition becomes worse before you have a baby.
What I want to say to my fellow women:
The old man of the Chinese Hongwei family in "The Siege" said: "It is most difficult for a woman to control after reading a few books. The man is not one level taller than him and cannot be matched with her as an equal. That's why college graduates marry middle school girls, and international students marry college girls. ”
This is true, since ancient times, there are still some customs that are like this, but now there is another addition, the girl's family has two houses, then the boy's family must have at least 3 houses to match, but also depends on the specific location of the house.
Why is that? Because people who agree with such views must be mainly men.
Sadly, some of the very good independent women now, once in the family, are still willing to cling to men, at least in terms of objective choices.
Fortunately, some girls have completely freed themselves from the shackles of this kind of thinking and are completely liberated from "male power".
The husband wants his wife to have children, and completely disregards his wife's physical condition, which is the manifestation of "male power".
In a documentary, I saw a scene where a mother who had already had a caesarean section twice became pregnant again and became an elderly mother, just to give birth to a boy for her in-laws and husband, and as a result, the third caesarean section had a sudden situation and turned around at the ghost door.
Obviously you can fight for more equal rights for yourself, why do you have to obey men and the family behind men?
Women should live for themselves first and then choose to live for others, including treating their own children.
Children are two people, both sides should be responsible, but we must first firmly believe that "having children is my own business, I will give birth when I want to have children", under this firm belief, it is good for our own children.
Truly independent women are able to do just that.
At present, truly independent women do not want to surpass men, but women can make decisions for their own affairs, they can have themselves first and then have others, they can live without relying on men, and at the same time, they must fulfill more obligations while obtaining more equal rights.