The so-called "elderly who have lost their independence" refers to a specific group of people whose only children in the family have unfortunately passed away, and who are about 50 years old or over. Losing oneself means loneliness, and the psychological explanation of loneliness is an emotional experience of being alienated, abandoned, and not accepted by others.
With the aging of the population gradually serious, the number of elderly people who have lost their independence is also increasing. In order to alleviate the loneliness of the elderly, many people will choose to go to a regular welfare home to adopt a child, and only a very small number of people will choose to have another child, and the 60-year-old pregnant woman Sheng Hailin is one of them.
Sheng Hailin was the president of a hospital in Hefei, Anhui Province. Her daughter and son-in-law died of gas poisoning in 2009. This is an unbearable heavy blow for Sheng Hailin, who is nearly 60 years old. It took her a long time to come out of her grief and finally confirm that she had become an old man who had lost her independence.
In 2010, Sheng Hailin made a decision that everyone could not believe — she wanted to continue to have children. According to the convention, basically women over the age of forty who re-conceive and give birth are already called advanced mothers, and they will face great risks of childbirth, and in the process of childbirth, they may even die.
And Sheng Hailin is close to sixty years old, and can she really get pregnant again when she is old? Of course, with the development of science and technology, IVF has also emerged. Sheng Hailin and her husband decided to take a risk. After she nursed her body, the doctors successfully implanted the embryo into her body.
According to the advice of the doctor at that time, he thought that Sheng Hailin was best to implant only one embryo, and if two embryos were implanted, it would be too stressful for her body and the risk of childbirth would be higher. But how could Sheng Hailin, who had been the dean, not understand this, because she had forcibly implanted two female embryos in her body after the loss of her beloved daughter, and she hoped that she could have a daughter again, and it was still two.
In order to successfully give birth to these two children, Sheng Hailin made a lot of efforts. During this period, she suffered from pregnancy hemotoxicosis, pregnancy hypertension, gout and other diseases, but she survived one by one. On May 25, 2010, Sheng Hailin underwent a caesarean section.
At about nine o'clock, the two children were successfully delivered, and the caesarean section was very successful. After this news was spread, people were surprised, because Sheng Hailin's deeds not only represented a medical miracle, but also a typical representative of the current elderly mothers and the elderly who had lost their independence.
While praising Sheng Hailin's courage and praise, people are also thinking about the gap between Sheng Hailin and the two children, if Sheng Hailin and her husband have died before the two children are underage, then what is the future of these two children? Did Sheng Hailin think of this before choosing to do IVF? Could it be that she simply abandoned her child's future for her own selfishness?
In fact, Sheng Hailin's thinking was far more comprehensive than this. Since the birth of the child, she and her retired husband have returned to their old business and gone out to work. Sheng Hailin is a well-known local specialist, and after she and her husband retire, they can get more than 10,000 pensions every month. In addition, Sheng Hailin also gives lectures across the country and saves money by relying on her excellent professional knowledge.
She was ready to set aside a generous savings for her two daughters in case of emergency. A reporter once interviewed Sheng Hailin, who replied that since giving birth to her daughter, she has been lecturing outside, walking everywhere in the north and south, and staying at home for about three or four days a month, and this work is exactly eight years.
Sheng Hailin, who had long since retired, could have enjoyed her old age with a generous pension, but she had to devote herself to her tiring work again after resolutely giving birth to two daughters. On weekdays, both daughters are sent to boarding school for art classes, and the two children not only play the piano and play the flute, but also dance, cook, and so on.
On weekends, the tutor will teach the two children according to a fixed time, although they lack the company of their parents on weekdays, but under the rendering of the good environment, they still grow into two excellent children. According to Sheng Hailin's statement, on the eve of the outbreak, she had been working outside for seven or eight years and had saved a lot of savings, and this savings were enough to support the future life of her two children, so far, she had nothing to worry about.
When asked by the reporter whether Sheng Hailin ever regretted giving birth to these two children in a test tube, Sheng Hailin replied that if she did it again, she would think twice and would not be so impulsive. After all, Leng Nuan knows that the elderly mother Sheng Hailin has given birth to a child for so many years, and the sour and bitter experience in it is only her and her husband's personal experience, and outsiders have no way of knowing.
As far as the Sheng Hailin incident is concerned, what we see is not only her courage and perseverance, but also the pressure and hardship behind the group of elderly people who have lost their independence. For this group, the state has also formulated relevant policies and laws to protect their legitimate rights and interests.
According to Article 31 of the Mainland's Law on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly, the State grants basic living, medical care, residence or other assistance to the elderly in economic difficulties. Where the elderly are unable to work, have no means of subsistence, have no supporters and dependents, or whose dependents and dependants truly have no ability to support or support, the local people's governments at all levels are to provide support or assistance in accordance with relevant provisions. Article 41: Old-age care institutions invested and established by the government shall give priority to ensuring the service needs of the elderly, such as widows, widows, incapacitated, and elderly people with economic difficulties.
Not all elderly people who have lost their independence can reproduce like Sheng Hailin, and not all elderly people who have lost their independence have the ability to raise another child. Moreover, after the death of the only child in their family, the economic problems faced by the elderly who have lost their independence are also more acute, after all, they have no economic resources for a long time, what should they rely on to survive the rest of their lives?