What is love?
Love can be great, as big as the mountains and the sea, pouring out all its possessions, so that all things in the world can witness;
Love can also be very small, as small as a room for two people, three meals for four seasons, so that every moment is intoxicated.
What should love, marriage, and happiness look like?
Everyone has an answer in their mind that is vague but cannot be accurately described.
Love is a practice in which we lose ourselves and find ourselves again. Love also requires the joint efforts of two people, understanding each other's needs, mutual respect and consideration.
Valentine's Day is here again, today we share this book list about love, about marriage and love life, I hope you find your own answer:
"The Evolution of Love", "Love as a Passionate Love", "Love Heterotopia", "Heart and Woman", "Marriage Story in the Old Pictorial", "Letter to Yves", "Pancreatic Story", "Yokomachi Yu Words", "Massacre on the Nile", "Lover Comrade", "Street Without Roses", "Golden Powder Family", "Life Is Simple and Radiant", "Rose Bible", "Loneliness That Cannot Be Treated Slowly"
Whether your love has come, sweet or bitter now, hopefully these books will inspire and empower you. Finally, please remember that although love is beautiful, there is still a lot of beauty in this world for you to discover.
01
Good words are the light source of life, and in this book you can hear the joy of pearls and diamonds colliding in the words
"Love Heterotopia" is a collection of essays written by the well-known novelist and cultural critic Ma Xiaoyan. This book takes the topic of love as the axis and extends it with metaphorical philosophical thinking, covering multiple perspectives such as emotional philosophy, literary criticism, humanistic history, and mass culture. The text is rich in the invisible symbols of modern love aesthetics, the author Ma Xiaoyan will be many words related to love carefully read, dissect, identify, and even correct, with philosophical thinking for "cultural psychoanalysis", but also from the perspective of personal experience and psychological reality, multi-dimensional argument love, the eternal topic of human beings, the words between the lines show a profound insight into philosophy and art, emotion and life, both intriguing, but also lead people to think deeply.
02
Love has a lot in common with other mediums of communication, in that it integrates through the paradoxical mechanism and allows people to learn to adapt to the paradoxical world.
Luhmann argues that the morphological changes in the semantics of love in the West since the second half of the 16th century reflect the growing social differentiation that has created personal intimacy. The medium of love was differentiated from social systems, in which the "passion" semantics that emerged in 17th-century classical literature played a key role, the essence of which was to replace the idealization of the past as a coding path by paradoxicalization. It can be seen that the attraction of intimacy to Luhmann is that it is an interactive system with paradox as its vitality, existing in order to unfold the paradox of interpersonal action/experience. The systematic ability of the love paradox indirectly reminds people that uncertainty is not the enemy of order, but the best means of hedging uncertainty, and the existence of love order also proves that the absolute chaos proposed by some postmodern theorists does not hold.
03
The works of the British talent writer Alain De Botton, including the preface written by De Botton especially for Chinese readers, a true and delicate history of the advancement of love.
After the delicate and vivid analysis of love in the autobiographical novel "Notes on Love", after more than twenty years, the British talented writer Aland Burton has launched a more unique and profound reflection on the nature of love and marriage in the book "The Evolution of Love". De Botton takes the love story of Rabbi and Kirsten as the main axis, supplemented by philosophical and psychological thinking, from the budding of love to the sail of love, from stepping into the city to the "city" of hardship, to extramarital affairs, until finally through self-exploration, beyond the complete process of accepting marriage, the love and marriage of each stage have been calmly and wisely analyzed, their own plump, deep speculation, through the delicate situation, the fusion of figurative and real characters spread out, until people gradually realize: the essence of love, It's not so much a passion as it is a skill to learn. Only by understanding this way, we have the calmness to read thousands of sails, and after the vicissitudes of the sea and the mulberry field, we can calmly accept the marriage.
04
A collection of spiritual poems that is highly regarded by Haruki Murakami, Hirokazu Kore-eda, Hayao Miyazaki, and other poets.
"Heart and Woman" contains nearly 100 poems by Toshitaro Tanigawa, a "Japanese modern poetry master", and collects the contents of his two collections of poems, "Heart" and "To Women". "Heart" contains 60 small poems inspired by the theme of "heart". In the poet's pen, the heart is a shaking pudding, a sky open to the universe, a bottomless quagmire, an unprocessed diamond, and a lost child... "To the Woman" collects 36 "ballads of love" created by the poet for the third wife, the famous picture book writer, and the essayist Yoko Sano, recording the sweetness, innocence and sincerity of the love of the two pearl-linked souls.
The poems recorded are all exclusively licensed, first published in China, and carefully translated by the famous poet translator Tahara; the Chinese-Japanese comparison, the poetry is doubled. It also includes interview articles by poets on women, marriage and love, and creation, which are humorous, wise and warm.
05
5 categories of themes to satisfy all your curiosity about the situation of marriage and love in the Republic of China period; 60 marriage and love stories, presenting a wonderful and colorful Republic of China.
"Marriage and Love Stories in the Old Pictorial" tells 60 marriage and love stories of the Republic of China through the five major themes of marriage, engagement, marriage, divorce and love, and is accompanied by more than 50 complete and clear old pictorials, comprehensively presenting the marriage situation in the Republic of China period. The book takes a large number of modern old pictorials as resources, takes marriage and love as a unique perspective, and after the author's necessary integration, examination and supplementation, the marriage and love stories in the old paper pile are vividly presented, which to a certain extent shows the concept and values of marriage and love in the modern period of China, and reflects the conflict and fusion of modern and traditional concepts in the period of social change.
06
One of the most classic works of Agatha Christie, queen of world-class detective fiction, has been regarded by countless people as a classic reasoning textbook, and has left an "alibi" in the history of detective literature.
Lynette Richway had everything enviable—young, beautiful, brilliant," and inherited a huge fortune from his father. But to everyone's surprise, she lightning married her real estate agent, The boyfriend of her friend Jacqueline, Doyle. After the marriage, the happy two decided to go to Egypt for their honeymoon. Jacqueline, who has lost her lover and is determined to take revenge, the lawyer who secretly manipulates Lynnet's property, and several other seemingly stranger tourists board the same boat as them.
On the Nile, a tragic crime occurred, and a bullet penetrated the beautiful sleeping head...
07
The greatness of love has nothing to do with gender.
These are some of the letters written to him by Pierre Berger, a same-sex partner and business partner with whom he lived for fifty years after the death of the international fashion guru Yves Saint Laurent. It's a summary of their fifty years of life, telling you what kind of person Yves Saint Laurent is, what their love, their life is like.
This is destined to be an extraordinary story. It's not just because the couple who have experienced fifty years of passion, turmoil and storm together are of the same sex. In fact, all love—whether between the same sex or between the opposite sex—is the same truth, there is a center, there is sacrifice, there is a dazzling aura seen when meeting the "only" person, there is a deep doubt behind the aura, to oneself, to others.
08
In 2016, he won the Japan Bookstore Award; the original book was titled "I Want to Eat Your Pancreas", which sold more than 2 million copies in Japan.
A reclusive teenager living in his own world meets Sakura, a young girl who is as lively and bright as a ray of sunshine, in some strange situation. The story of the encounter between the two is like the old-fashioned TV plot, the girl is terminally ill, writes her situation in the diary, the diary is picked up by the teenager, and the lives of the two have intersected since then. However, as the plot develops, the story is no longer clichéd, and the plot changes drastically... What will be their fate? How will their story continue?
09
Naoki Prize writer Kiuchi Seung's works, in the warm daily life, peel off the cocoon to unveil a love affair that spans time and space.
In the mysterious alley, there is izumi who is skilled in female red, a strange-tempered Shuba, and a teenager Kozo who talks to the "shadow".
Whenever the rain god walks through the alley, the bell rings, and the world and the other shore seem to meet here, is it the illusion in the ancient longhouse, or the return of the deceased?
The Scythians are gone, and the living are long-lived.
During the days of the camp, the figure of someone suddenly came to mind. That memory is so deep and vivid, and thoughts slowly accumulate across time and space.
When the alleys changed seasons, she met him again.
A story of love and waiting.
10
Contemporary powerful writer Ai Wei's novels transcend the literary classics of the times; they commemorate the glory and dreams, love and pain of the 1980s.
"Comrade Lover" is a masterpiece of novels by contemporary powerful writer Ai Wei. The protagonist of the novel is a soldier who has achieved many military achievements, who was injured and disabled during a mission and can only spend the rest of his life in a wheelchair. After the war, a schoolgirl fell in love with him and married him, and because of such a legendary marriage, they were widely reported in the media. However, with the change of the times, this high-profile marriage has gradually faded from its former glory. The tightness of life and the imbalance of identity have caused the "war" to shift between the sexes and intensify...
11
I am a vine that is willing to bloom lilies for you.
"The Golden Powder Family" takes Jin Yanxi, the son of the premier of the state of Beijing, and Leng Qingqiu, a woman from the cold door, from love and marriage to anti-eye and run away from the love tragedy as the main line, depicting the rise and fall of a family family in the turbulent years, and is also a comprehensive display of the turbulent years of Chinese social history intertwined in the door, power and money. It not only has romantic and poignant love, family intrigue, cold and warm human nature, but also the mutual tilt of politics at that time, the decadent and decadent life of the rich and aristocratic, and more efforts to excavate the understanding of society and life, the novel is full of a moral ideal, and the helplessness and emotion after this ideal is shattered by reality.
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Liu Liangcheng, Shen Haobo, Zhu Yujie, Li Xiuwen, Li Ximin, Chun Shu, Yi Xiaohe, and Zheng Zaihuan are young writers who are excited.
This book is a collection of whimsical stories by young writer Li Liuyang, depicting a real and illusory "Toon Street", all kinds of floating phenomena and cold and warm in the world. It is both a worldly fantasy and a romantic fantasy, a book of the city and a book of the soul, with incredible depth and maturity in innocence. The loose and humorous brushstrokes seem to see Wang Xiaobo's literary scenes. Writer Liu Liangcheng commented: Liu Yang's novel has the breath of dreams, and the text is clear and confusing. She has the ability to make dreams come to head. Literature is the art of dreaming. This dream must be another awakening of the real world.
13
How else can you live outside of "inner volume" and "lying flat"?
Why did the chef who had presided over the nobel dinner for two years open a cheap restaurant in a small town, how does the master who has done floral design for the Nobel dinner for 14 consecutive years view "minimalism", how does the Chinese photography master establish a foothold in a foreign country, and what kind of mental journey does the painter who has been "art examination" for ten consecutive years have?
Writer Zeng Yanbing lasted 4 years, went to Sweden several times to interview, told the story of these Swedes, walked into their homes, through these different styles, both pyrotechnic and artistic home decoration, we will deeply appreciate the owner's aesthetics, human life concept and real, natural attitude to life. In addition, you can see 12 table design cases unique to table artist Catherine in different scenes, fully embodying the Nordic aesthetic of advocating natural and organic.
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The New York Public Library holds a complete set of atlases, interpreted by the World Rose Master. Decorate the painting with a rose scent and gently rub it to give off a faint floral scent. Zhang Chenliang strongly recommends!
The Rose Bible was created over 20 years by the master plant painter Pierre-Joseph Reddood. Most of the 169 rare roses included in the book come from Queen Josephine's Rose Garden. The roses in his paintings not only have the composition of the early Renaissance still life, but also the rendering of subtle morphological features, and the restoration of brilliant colors, so the Rose Bible is also praised as "the most elegant academic and the most beautiful study", and has become a unique rose atlas recognized by later generations.
This book was written by Wang Guoliang, the only winner of the "World Rose Master Award" in China so far and vice president of the Monthly Quarter Branch of the China Flower Association, for more than ten years. The author selects 85 representative classic rose varieties from the Rose Bible, examines and explains them in detail, corrects the outdated and inaccurate names in the original version, explains the origin, naming, characteristics, classification, etc. of roses in a simple and simple way, and adds high-definition rose photos he found from all over the world, comparing them with the atlas, helping readers to clearly identify the roses in the paintings across time and space, and appreciating each rose in the spirit of naturalism.
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If I like a woman, I will definitely give her this book.
"Loneliness That Cannot Be Slowed Down" focuses on the real problems of women's growth, parent-child relationships and gender emotions. The desire for understanding, the confusion about self, the attachment to meaning, the anger at ignorance, the cherishing of value, the intransigence of mediocrity, the problems that make her feel lonely, one by one, run into her articles, full of philosophical thinking and full of powerful brushstrokes that make it difficult to release.