Dating software I'm afraid
After my divorce in 2017, I calmed down for a while. I was born in 1989, and the two sisters in the same office as me, one from 1988 and one from 1987, are both older than me, and neither of them is married. Not only did I get divorced, but I also brought a. So whenever we discussed the road to the future, they would unanimously envy and yearn for me. It is said that married life is the most useless, how happy a person is free, but if you have been single, you may feel that your children are lonely when you are old. So I think I'm in the best state now, single and have children; I can be free and happy, and I don't have to worry about being old and not having anyone to accompany me.
I actually listened to such comforting words. I think I can sit back and relax, if I want to be in love, find a boyfriend, break up when I am not happy, and then find the next one.
So I started the process of finding a boyfriend.
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To be honest, it's a bit of a blind spot. Don't know where to look.
First, I registered Lily Network and Century Jiayuan, but did not open a membership. Hurriedly filled in a basic information, the result was a bombardment of phone calls and text messages, all kinds of red girls 24 hours a day to sell. I was really scared.
I found that I was quite resistant to the above blind date model. It is to put each person's RV situation, height and weight, academic income and what is up, give a score to each "commodity" on the shelf, and then match the product with the same score. 8 points of radish match 8 points of radish, 7 points of potatoes match 7 points of potatoes.
My mom, I'm really resistant. Even if I'm a 6-point tomato, I still want to know what the 6-point tomato that matches me likes to do, whether he smokes, doesn't play games, and has a good personality.
So I estimated that it took two days, and I didn't find an object, and directly the two blind date software were logged off and uninstalled.
Later, he followed the trend and installed Tan Tan and Momo. I haven't played it before, I've heard it's social software, but there's no shortage of people who have found true love. I want to try my luck, in case some true love doesn't have a long eye to hit me.
Stills from "Marriage"
Momo is a bit of a play, it seems that it is all "post-95" and "post-00". I don't like the design of the page very much, so I quickly uninstalled it when I went to see it. Probe, take a look, huh! It's all handsome guys! Big handsome guy! All of them are more than one meter eight, or they are investment companies, show muscle show watches show yachts. I was a little embarrassed, I felt that I couldn't hold on, where are the people of the same world. It was hard to scratch a seemingly steady, and when people heard that I was divorced, they immediately asked if there was a desire to solve it. I......
Later, I was assigned to a foreigner, talked for a long time, and asked to come out to see a movie. As a result, when he watched the movie, he put his feet on the front seat and shook his legs! Embarrassing me, it was a shame. Came out of the cinema and said "Nice to meet you today." There was no contact again.
Realistic retreat
After uninstalling the detective, there was really a person chasing me in real life. Colleagues in other departments of the unit, 4 years younger than me, are considered "little milk dogs". Very handsome and very tall, one meter eighty-two bar. Usually a WeChat friend but never spoke.
After watching the movie with the foreigner on the probe, I was quite disappointed, sent a circle of friends, and revealed some negative small emotions. The little milk dog left a message under my circle of friends and asked me what was wrong. He also said, don't be unhappy, because he likes to see me smile. Later, several times he left messages in my circle of friends.
Feel what signal you have received, there is no! Then we talked.
He started pursuing me wildly after he was sure I was single.
Stills from "Older Beauty Blind Date"
When chatting on WeChat, smash the red envelope without a word. Buy fruit, buy milk tea and send it to the office, and invite all office colleagues in my name; when he comes to my office to run errands, he will come in and deliberately chat with a few of us; send an umbrella when it rains or wait for me to take me home after work. On weekends, they also asked me to go out, watch movies, eat, take my baby to the park, and also gave me an annual pass for my baby in the children's playground and played with me patiently.
When watching movies, you will also bring an oversized box of washed cherries and eat fruit while watching movies. When I go to the park to walk the baby, I also say that I don't have to bring anything, just a baby, and he will prepare a big bag of healthy snacks, fruits, paper towels, wet paper towels, and pure water. I was given flowers on Mother's Day, and yes, you read that right, it's Mother's Day! In order to send flowers, I actually said that I am a great mother! Just after Mother's Day, I gave away a necklace on May 20th. Every week, when I was in a personal training class at the gym, I accompanied the whole class and secretly photographed me, and also sent me all kinds of ugly photos that I took secretly...
To be honest, he was very good to me and my daughter, which can be described as pampered. According to his height and appearance, I also wanted to have a vain love affair with him, but I couldn't find the feeling of boyfriend and girlfriend. I always looked at him like a "little milk dog," or a little brother. In addition, we both work in the same unit, and in the unit, his work ability and rank are slightly weaker than mine in comparison. He also behaved like a child, and I knew that the money he spent to chase me accounted for a large part of his salary. Although I was very moved, I was actually not optimistic about this, but felt that he was unplanned and irrational.
Stills from "Thirty Only"
After he had expressed it for a long time, I finally found an opportunity to reject him very clearly, and to explain my various considerations. He also reluctantly accepted.
Before rejecting him, I roughly calculated the various gifts he gave me, the cost of eating, the annual passes and red envelopes of various sizes he issued to the baby, as well as some miscellaneous actual expenses, and then bought him a watch of about the same value and wrote his address directly. He sent me a message after receiving the watch and argued for a long time, insisting that he wanted to return the watch to me, let me return it or go to idle fish to resell it. He said that all the expenses were voluntary and did not exist for me to pay back. But I still can't bear it, because he is a few years younger than me, and I know his salary. I think giving him or giving him a watch back makes me feel a little better.
Unreliable online dating
Shortly after the story of "Little Milk Dog" ended, I saw An advertisement for Soul while I was walking around Zhihu, so I downloaded it and looked at it.
When I first went up, I was also uncomfortable. Soul is also a software dominated by the "post-95s", but it can also occasionally encounter a "post-80s". This software is not a simple blind date, anyone can send dynamics on it, what singing, practicing words, spitting, sunbathing, sunbathing, sunning romance, so I am more free and casual, not with a clear purpose to blind date to label themselves. I posted a baby in my dynamics, and I also said that I was a single mother in my introduction. I worked out for a while, and I was on top of it with daily updates of fitness photos.
There was actually a child who claimed to be born in 1995 who came up to talk to me, a boy from the individual courtyard, talking to me about various fitness topics, and then slowly talking more about life.
Suddenly one day he wrote me a love poem, handwritten it on paper, took a picture and sent it to me, put my name and his name in the poem, and the last sentence said that he wanted to be my baby's little father! I was stunned. I didn't even think about falling in love with him, I probably just thought of him as a casual friend chatting on the Internet. One is because he's out of town, I can't talk about long-distance relationships; the other is because he was much younger than me in 1995. To my surprise, he showed me his ID card and student ID card, which was dated 1998. I asked him, "Didn't you say you were in 1995, and how did you get to 1998?" He sent another handwritten review letter, saying that he was worried that he would not talk to him as soon as he began to say that I would not talk to him in 1998, so he lied about 1995.
As an old mother with a baby after the "80s", I really felt that the impact was too great to accept this unrealistic child, so I resolutely refused and no longer paid attention to him.
It is also very wonderful to say that if you are a month older than others, people will think that you are big; if people are in Hankou, they will never want to find you in Wuchang, as long as they are not in a district, people will think you are far away. But looking for friends on social networking sites, you may actually find a brother who is 9 years younger than yourself as a long-distance relationship.
Bidding farewell to my brother in the sports hospital, I talked about one again, this time this time from Wuhan. It wasn't far away, and from the dynamic messages he sent, he and I both lived on the same line on the subway. He is a literary uncle who always writes beautiful words. There are also babies, about the same age as my baby.
We can talk quite well, and after half a month of chatting, we feel a little like each other. Then he confessed every three to five minutes, pulling the heartstrings of my single female middle-aged man to a huff.
I was already thinking about what I was going to wear when I met, and he suddenly told me that he still had a wife. He said he had been separated from his wife, he was in Wuhan, and his wife was in her hometown. They were on the verge of divorce and asked me if I could be a "brother who guarded me" and when I found a boyfriend, he would go offline.
I'm going to fuck the "guardian brother". Before that he didn't show a trace of his wife. I cried and felt like my trust had collapsed. Then stop sending him any more messages and make up your mind to look at the single certificate before going on a blind date in the future.
Looking for an object for more than half a year, I have not met the right person, in the end, is the path to find the object wrong, or people's requirements are too high? Or is it because I have too little patience and haven't passed the other person off before I find out that the other person is very attractive to me and can overshadow other shortcomings?
Online dating and blind date, which way is better? This is a very troubling problem for me, especially as a divorced single mother with a baby. I seem to have tried both of these roads, but neither of them worked.
The right man appeared, no matter which way he came from, it would work.