In-depth analysis: how girls should effectively protect themselves
From years ago to years later, the popularity of "Feng County giving birth to eight children" has not faded, and the official recent announcement has finally confirmed the judgment of netizens: "Xiaohuamei" (that is, the eight-child woman born in Feng County) is indeed an abducted woman.
The tragic encounter of "Little Flower Plum" makes people feel sad, the thin cotton clothes, bare feet, and the iron chain around the neck in the winter, like a knife, deeply rooted in the heart of every visitor, pierced with pain, but powerless to return to heaven.
As a woman, those pictures sneak into the mind especially heart-wrenching, as if their necks are also tied with iron chains, cold, hungry, in the moon, just like that, over the years, can not get salvation, can not see the sun, people are extremely desperate.
Therefore, girls must effectively protect themselves, only by protecting themselves in the sun, you can feel the quiet of the years, in order to enjoy the warmth and happiness of this world.
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Self article
#女孩, you must know how to love yourself
Only when girls love themselves first can someone love.
The first thing self-love does is to stay away from all unhealthy things, including people and lifestyle. The garbage people around you, please stay away. The Sang Mouyu in the Xiaohuamei case, as a pregnant woman, is covered up, but she does the shameful work of aiding and abetting abuse and mutilating women, which is a garbage person, and only when girls stay away from this garbage person can they not be affected and biased by them, and even suffer persecution.
So, the question is, how do girls identify this type of unhealthy person and thing?
In the point of knowing people, you must try your best to have a pair of fire eyes, even if you can't see clearly whether this person is good or bad for a while, but also establish a correct social outlook and values for yourself, especially the concept of right and wrong. For example, what you like can be bought with money, but the person who likes it can't.
Girls go out, don't easily believe in the sudden good. I remember watching a TV series a long time ago, female college students went alone to a strange city to find a job, met a girl of the same age as her Xiaoyun, Xiaoyun took the female college students to see their father, and then the father and daughter took the female college students to the mountains far away from the city in the name of picking herbs. When the female college student woke up, her good friend and her father were gone, surrounded by a group of strange mountain men, one of whom said that the female college student was the daughter-in-law she had bought with money.
In the decades that followed, the female college student was imprisoned in that ravine by the rural man, and she escaped countless times, but each time she was found and pulled back, and then beaten half to death by the man.
It's a story that makes people particularly desperate to watch, and the tragic story of a girl struggling in a fire pit like this is so much that we don't have the courage to look at it.
The darkness and coldness revealed from hell eat away at people's hearts somewhere in society, until the good is eaten away, leaving only emptiness, numbness, and bottomless despair.
#你不必完美, just live well in the moment.
There are many ways for a person to live, and everyone has the value of her existence, but not necessarily all of them are excellent. Compared with Xiaohuamei's inhuman life in these decades, I can better appreciate that living well and living with dignity is better than anything.
#用你的本心去影响周围, defend against damage.
Even if the world is not perfect, you must use your own heart and original intention to influence everyone around you, so that the power of the heart will build a wall to effectively resist the evils of this world.
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Family article
The love and care of the family
It is the strong backing of girls who have a strong heart.
Once, under an article about a girl being molested by a 50-year-old neighbor, I saw a mother write such a sentence, which was very short but impressive, she said: "Since giving birth to a daughter, I have seen everyone around me look like a bad person." ”
This is the anxiety of being a mother with a baby girl. In fact, not only families with female dolls, as long as they are mothers, see these negative reports, there will always be such anxiety. This is the empathy of mothers in the world.
#教她自尊自爱
As a family member behind a girl, you must teach her self-esteem and self-love.
In this world, there are no cheap feelings, and some are just people who abuse themselves. You have to pour out the love of your life to let her understand what happiness is, and you must be happy.
#教她优雅独立
As a family member behind the girl, you must teach her to be elegant and independent, and to have the ability to make independent choices.
In this society, a girl does not necessarily have to be an obedient and well-behaved girl, whether it is a princess or a witch, it is her own choice, as long as she does not do evil, you do not have to interfere.
But you must make her understand the importance of protecting herself, which is more important than studying every day, and should be ranked first in her life.
#教她成熟辨识
Another point, and the most important point, as a family member behind the girl, you must tell her that the world is not only kind and beautiful, and looking at the world with a multi-dimensional eye is a girl's necessary recognition ability.
"Innocence" is not a compliment to the girl, but a cannonball wrapped in sweet sugar, which will erode her little by little, make her lazy and tacky, and then take her to the door of the abyss of pain.
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Social
Kindness of the people around
It is the embodiment and progress of a social culture for the protection of girls.
You know, in the 60s and 70s, the society had a serious preference for sons over women, and the abduction and trafficking of women was not unique in many backward areas of the country.
According to a set of official figures, even by 2020, there will be 3,035 cases of trafficking in women that have been filed across the country.
Although compared with the 7121 cases in 2016, the data has been reduced to more than half, but if you calculate carefully, this data is evenly divided into each province, and there are also 89 cases that make people feel cold.
Some people say that this data is more terrible than the new crown virus. That still sounds unsettling.
Xiaohuamei was exposed, after the continuous attention of hundreds of millions of netizens, her inhuman life in recent decades has finally ushered in a glimmer of light, but there are other "Xiaohuamei" who are still in the depths of the water? When will their hellish lives end? Or will it end completely?
#我们的法制应该更加完善.
Why is the abduction of women and children repeatedly prohibited? Why do those traffickers hate people, but they still have to take risks to do it?
Buying a woman and child is punishable by imprisonment for up to 3 years or detention for 15 days. So some people pointed out that catching 20 toads is also a sentence of less than 3 years!
But can a woman and a child be equated with 20 toads?
The answer is obvious.
Some evil in this world, once ignored for too long, becomes taken for granted. The law should not be just a blank piece of paper for society. The tragedy of Xiaohuamei should remind us, shouldn't it?
#男女应该平等
Men and women should be equal, and the public's perception of women should not only stay on marrying and having children.
The Xiaohuamei incident highlights the neglect of women's dignity and personality in a patriarchal society. Of course, our society has been progressing, and the call for equality between men and women is getting higher and higher every year, but in Xiaohuamei's hometown and those areas as remote as Feng County, this situation of treating women as objects still exists as always.
Every place will have bad habits, bad habits are not terrible, and social civilization is not built in one day, but it is really creepy to challenge the existing social civilization with bad habits, and not to be ashamed, but to be proud.
However, I believe that with the improvement of the rule of law society, the popularization of modern education work, and the continuous benign development of the whole society, there will be fewer and fewer "small flowers and plums", and the dark side of those who cannot shine in the sun will also be less and less.
Since conscience tells us that trafficking, illegal detention and abuse of women is evil, all we can do is to keep an eye on it and do our part to pull out these evils. All of us new generations with conscience should join hands and let sin be punished as it deserves until they disappear completely!
May the world not be trafficked.