Time white colt passed the gap, inadvertently has learned from the tongue to the beard pull, along with their own growth, the times are also constantly developing, a lot of childhood memories, become the unique products of that era.
About my own growth, especially about family education, has always affected my growth, the following scenes, no matter how the times have changed, for me, its impact has been deeply rooted in the bone marrow.
Scenario 1: Etiquette and courtesy about eating
When I was a child, I remember eating, my mother often said that my grandparents had not yet served the table, and I could not pick up chopsticks to eat by myself, let alone grab the dishes in the bowl. At first, I didn't think so, and then I operated it myself, and I was viciously cleaned up by my father, and slowly I learned to watch my parents' actions to learn, and over time it became a habit.
And some other details, such as not being able to take chopsticks to turn over in the vegetable bowl, nor can you bite the chopsticks, let alone eat leftovers, saying that the clothes are at the bottom of the bowl, and they can't finish eating. Every day at dinner will say this, slowly they will form a supervisor, often look at their parents or sisters, whether they have not done what they are required, find that someone has not done it, immediately "report", highlighting that they have done it, how proud of things.
Over time, everything has become a habit, without others to say more, they do not naturally know what to do, perhaps parents did not know why to do this, but felt that it was good to do it, it needed to be taught to us.
Scene 2: About respecting the old and loving the young, treating people and things
Regarding respecting the elderly and loving children, and paying attention to polite family education, I have gained this truth with my own personal experience. I remember it was a cold winter, there was no rain or rain, just exceptionally cold, I got up early when I was a child, the only toy was the tire of a tractor, rolling around in the yard by myself, and one of the grandfathers who passed by said, "Hey, play with me." He didn't know it was just a joke, so he naturally said, "You're not my son, so I won't play with you." ”
I remember that this sentence was just heard by my mother who came out of the toilet, dragged me back without saying a word, and pulled me straight to the cornice and knelt down, I was too scared to speak, and the tears were raging.
It was very cold, my father didn't seem to see all this, he didn't speak, grandma came and pulled me several times, I didn't dare to get up, and finally my mother spoke.
Although I didn't understand my mother's behavior at that time, I didn't feel like a big deal, but from then on, whenever I wanted to say dirty words or disrespect people, I always thought of the scene of being cleaned up, and unnaturally formed a kind of constraint, and slowly, I also developed into a person who talked about etiquette.
Scenario Three: About the growth of an independent, self-reliant and self-reliant individual
When I was young, the deepest memory was nothing more than the matter of burning rice, the fire cage was not a stove, but embedded in the hall, every time I went back from school, my grandparents were old, I had mobility problems, my parents were still doing farm work, I wanted to share a little, make dinner, but the fire was the biggest difficulty.
Many times to seek grandpa's help without success, complaining to my mother, grievances, my mother just told me that I tried as much as possible, I could do it, and if I couldn't do it, I wouldn't forget it. In the end, it was also with grievances that he overcame this problem.
The early nineties were not a rich time for me, and every family lived frugally, and my family was no exception. I remember that I would have to buy a book or pay tuition and the like, and my parents never asked, just told me where the money was and went to get it myself. In this process, what I feel is trust, but also a responsibility for myself, and therefore I have repeated the cycle and developed some habits of independent thinking when things happen.
Maybe parents don't know what the big truth is, just simply feel that it is good to do this or give me these, maybe parents do not know that this is an important part of family education, but simply feel that we must fulfill the responsibility of parents, maybe parents do not want us to understand their good intentions in time, but know that one day we will understand when we grow up.
Good family education, never outdated, although the times are different, but the family is always the child's first school, parents will always be the child's first teacher, in such a special school, parents should do their own education, with their own words and deeds, to educate and affect the child's life.