wary! Maybe your child is experiencing this kind of experience at school

During the Spring Festival, I chatted with many children who were going to school about their learning. At first it was very interesting, the more I listened to it, the more frightened I became, and finally I felt speechless, I don't know how to comment?!

Below, I word for word, put a few paragraphs and a few different children's dialogue collation, there are children who are going to school friends, you can comment and discuss together.

To avoid unnecessary trouble, the names of the people in the following conversations are pseudonyms.

One

The child of my friend Little R, who attends a private school in the city, is very obedient and tutored, and his academic performance has always been quite good, and he has always been the pride of his parents.

But all this was completely broken by an ordinary thing that could no longer be ordinary, and after this incident, this child suddenly changed his personality overnight, always learning excellent top students, and completely lost any interest in learning to go to school overnight. Later, under the repeated persuasion of his parents, he gradually regained a little interest in going to school, but he did not want to go back to the original school.

Once, in the child's words, he bought a snack at school.

Kids, it's normal to like to buy snacks. But the problem is that after buying it, the child found that this thing has already passed the shelf life.

Children have the most instinctive conscience and sense of justice in human nature, simple thinking, and the impulse of newborn calves not to be afraid of tigers. Therefore, the children with simple thinking and good nature and justice directly found the telephone of the quality inspection department on the Internet to report.

For children, it feels like a good thing to do. But what he didn't expect was that the incident brought him unimaginable trouble and fear.

Because small shops selling snacks are open on campus, and schools are private schools. The essential difference between private schools and public schools should be somewhat understood by parents who have children who go to school at home.

A few days later, the place that sold snacks on campus was patronized by the quality inspection department and fined.

Originally, for the school that teaches and educates people, at this point, the matter has passed, and then praise the child's righteous behavior, and set an example for other children, this matter is over.

But what followed was a little weird.

First of all, after the child was fined at school, he was called by the school to lecture at the first time. Before the lecture, the principal asked the child's parents and all the children's relatives in great detail what work they were doing.

When the details of the child's family were asked clearly, it was probably the school's preliminary judgment that the child's parents did not have too strong government relations and strong social relations in the local area and above, so they taught the child a lesson extremely harshly.

After returning on the same day, the child's temperament has completely and completely changed. No longer as agile and active as before, he suddenly became taciturn and evasive. The child's parents repeatedly inquired, and the child simply said that the school had taught the school to report expired food. But how to teach, the school called him over to train something, the child never dared to say a word, nor did he say a word.

Immediately after, the child's parents received a message from the school, simple and clear: the school first told the child's parents directly, because the school found the leader of the education bureau at the top of the matter, and it was not easy to put this matter to rest, it was not seized, but a symbolic penalty of some money. Since this matter is caused by your child's report, so this money should not be paid by the school, so that the parents of the child will pay the fine of the quality inspection department to the school immediately.

The child's parents are worried that the child will be expelled from the school because of this matter, and the school has all kinds of good discussions, all kinds of good words, and the attitude of the school is extremely barbaric and rude, which means that this money, since it is because your child's report has been punished, then you should return the money that has been fined to the school.

After the child's parents have been communicating and communicating with the school authorities for several consecutive days in order for their children to continue to go to school, the tone of the school has eased slightly, and perhaps the school is also worried that such persecution will make things bigger and difficult to clean up, and for the matter of fines, there is no further urging.

As for saying that this child can't go back to school, the attitude of the school is also very clear, if you want to come back to school, then pay money to continue to go, you don't come back to school, they just went down the donkey, think that such a child with a sense of justice stays in school, they think it is a time bomb, I am not sure when I will report them, of course, it is better to go.

Because of this, the child's parents are also quite distressed, or go back to school, teenage children are still young, re-find the school, the child is too far away and does not want to go. But go back, the child's parents are really worried, and in the next few days, the school will find various reasons and excuses to put small shoes on the child. Because it is obvious that this school is only for the sake of making money, and there is no slightest bit of justice and conscience that the school should have, if the child does not wear small shoes after he returns, it is a strange thing. The worries of children's parents are not unreasonable.

So they are very distressed now, where should the children go?

Two

Child A is enrolled in an ordinary junior high school in the city, with medium academic performance, not bad or bad, sunny and kind, no bad habits.

When I met this child, the child happened to be playing with several of his other classmates. Talking about their learning in school, several children scrambled as if they had a lot of bitter water to pour out.

What several children say about their situation at school can be summed up as follows:

First, teachers often ask them to pay money and buy a lot of books and materials that even the teacher himself can't understand. Sometimes there will be people from the education bureau in the school who come down to check, and every time they encounter this situation, the teacher will threaten these children in advance, and no one can tell the people in the education bureau about buying these useless books and materials, and if they are quick to say that they have leaked their mouths, they will threaten who will be careful in the future.

Second, the teacher likes to scold people very much, and the words of scolding the children are much dirtier than the shrews in the village. The following are often scolded:

Your father and your mother should all die if they don't have money, they shouldn't live in this world, and they shouldn't make you...

It's a mistake your parents made you...

If your parents had a culture and upbringing like 1/100 of mine, your academic performance would not be so bad...

Or it's a simple and crude scolding: how do you all die, or why don't you all die?

What's more, they will also scold some shrews in the village who can only scold the male and female genitalia, or the ancestors of the children.

Of course, scolding is scolding, and the hand still has to move. There are often children who are beaten by the teacher, the teacher especially likes to punch the face, and the teacher is also very smart, the face punch always chooses the beginning of a week, because when the child goes back on the weekend, the face is just gone, and it is not easy to be found by the parents.

Every time after this, the teacher still has to say something such as: Who dares to go back and tell your parents, be careful what happens in the future...

After all, the child is a child, there are many things like this in the school, after going back, I dare not tell my family, don't say, careless parents can't find out, even if careful parents find that something is wrong, the child does not say, the parents do not know.

The key to the problem is that the school always has to hold a parent-teacher conference every semester, and every time the parent-teacher conference is held, the teacher is always like a sudden change of person, and suddenly becomes very, very kind, very loving and very patient in front of the parents. Therefore, every time the parent-teacher conference is held, it will always attract the applause of all parents. Then, even if the child goes back and complains about something, the parent will believe that seeing is believing, not believing what the child is complaining about.

Over time, many children began to lose more and more interest and confidence in learning, and gradually more like to infect some social habits, such as girls began to like to draw eyebrows and lipstick, some boys and girls began to like to smoke, drink and fight, and even some children are not suitable. And the school and the teacher for these behaviors of the child, naturally no one will reflect on their own educational mistakes as a school, and basically blame the child's naughtiness, so they will involuntarily scold the above those dirty words that should never be spoken out of the teacher's mouth.

As a result, a vicious circle is formed.

Several other children talked to me about their schooling, and each of them was shocking to me. To avoid triggering anxiety, I won't list them all. Sometimes I just think, now some teachers in some schools are a bunch of moral things, their own bad conduct, misleading people's children, staying in this environment of teaching and educating people every day to mix money and mix up their days, isn't it painful to have a conscience?! Thankfully, I don't have children yet. If in the future, my children also meet such schools and such teachers, I feel that with my personality and my social relations, it is really difficult for me to control myself, not to ruin the reputation of this group of Wang Ba, it is better to live than to die, and it is difficult to solve the hatred in my heart.

After all, even the ancients of the underdeveloped period of society thousands of years ago said:

The child's tutoring is not strict, which is the fault of the parents.

However, any things and problems that arise after the child enters the school is absolutely related to the teacher's poor teaching and the school's lax discipline.

so-called:

It is the fault of the Father not to teach,

But

Teaching is not strict, the teacher is lazy!!

Since the school is a place for teaching and educating people, it is inevitable that the teaching staff of the school are cultured, literate, conscientious, and nurturing people, and absolutely cannot allow any social scum who does not learn and has bad conduct to indiscriminately fill the numbers, shoddy, corrupt the atmosphere, and mislead people' children.

But unfortunately, in reality, there are more and more problems in education, and even now in reality, children's psychological problems are becoming more and more serious, people are inherently good, every child is born a good child who can be made, so why is there such a problem when entering the school? Who is to blame for this?

It's chilling to think about!

Parents who have children in school at home, you also come to talk about it, why is this?