In family education, the father is the child's role model, and the father's pattern often determines the height that the child can reach in the future. Children who grow up in the father's love have a strong sense of security, self-confidence in the sunshine, dare to try, dare to break through, and often have a higher upper limit.
The father's pattern determines how high a child can fly
Psychologists have pointed out that before the child is 12 years old, he often regards his father as his idol. Children often have a strong admiration for their fathers, using them as a symbol of wisdom and strength. Children will subconsciously imitate the father's behavior. After the mind matures, it will strive to reach or surpass the height of the father.
Zeng Jize, the son of Zeng Guofan, is an example, Zeng Jize took his father as an example, and learned from his father when he was a person and an official. He later became an official in the DPRK and showed no less ability in political affairs than his father. Zeng Guofan handled foreign affairs - "Tianjin Teaching Case", mishandled, reputation fell to the bottom, Zeng Guofan realized the importance of diplomacy, so he often warned Zeng Jize to open his eyes to the world. Zeng Jize learned a foreign language and was bound to get up where his father fell. Sure enough, Zeng Jize played an outstanding role in later foreign affairs, defending national interests in the territorial dispute in Xinjiang, and becoming China's most famous diplomat at that time.
And relative to mothers, fathers generally do not spoil their children, they often point out a direction for their children to reach with their own strength. Children have more space to play, but also exercise the ability to stand on their own.
Therefore, the best education given by fathers to their children is not considerate care of everything, but a determined education that guides the direction. A good father must set a good example for his children in terms of pattern and determination, which will determine the upper limit of what children can reach in the future.
The abundance of fatherly love ensures the child's sense of security
With the increase in the cost of education today, fathers, as the economic pillar of the family, often bear huge financial pressure, in order to work, often have little time to accompany the family, which has caused a huge lack of education for children.
Children who lack father's love in their early years often lack a sense of security, saying that fatherly love is like a mountain, and when the child does not have a solid dependence around him, he will become inferior and anxious. When you grow up, even if you become a strong adult, the child cannot get rid of this insecurity. Such children are easily stuck to the rules in their careers, afraid of failure, afraid of breaking through innovation, and afraid to make new attempts. This often makes his career limited, unable to break through the inherent situation and open up new horizons, which seriously restricts the height that his personal career can reach.
So no matter how busy you are, as a father, you must also take time to accompany your children, and your father's care will make your children feel that they have a strong enough backing, a sense of security, and they will be confident in doing things, rather than being afraid of their hands and feet.
The mother's cultivation determines the character of the child
In family education, the mother is also a pivotal role, and the mother's unique gentleness and tolerance can make the child develop a generous character. The mother's own cultivation often affects the child's character and personality throughout life.
The Austrian Association for Caring Girls has a very famous question: If a family has a pair of children, but only one education fund, who do you invest in? Their answer: vote for the girl.
Because you educate a boy, you educate only one individual, and if you educate a girl you educate a family, you educate a nation, you educate a nation.
This is not a lie, in a family, the mother's cultivation determines the character of the child. In infancy, people's consciousness is extremely simple, their behavior habits are not fixed, and they have a unique attachment to their mother psychologically. Mothers' behavior, ideological character, and morality are easy to leave a deep imprint on the hearts of their children, and gradually form the initial concepts of good and evil, true and false, good and bad, right and wrong, and how well the foundation of this period is played will determine what kind of person they become.
As the famous educator Sukhomlinsky said in the book "Family Pedagogy": "The source of the moral development of the child lies in the wisdom, emotion and passion of the mother, and how man becomes in his own moral development determines what kind of mother there is." ”
How a person's character determines whether he can gain a foothold in society. Whether we can get along well with people and whether we can avoid making mistakes of principle in the face of major issues of right and wrong. Such a person may not have a very amazing performance, but the victory lies in solid stability, long endurance, and the road of life can naturally go further.
Mother's love is as gentle and generous as water
We often say that strict fathers and mothers, mothers tend to be more gentle and generous to their children, fathers are often more severe, and feminine characteristics determine that mothers are often more tolerant and understanding and more patient in education. Therefore, children who grow up in single-parent families, if they are brought up by their fathers, girls are generally more like boys, and their temper is often more direct. Boys brought up by their mothers are generally gentler, more inclusive, and do not like to be aggressive.
Lao Tzu said that soft energy can overcome rigidity, and understanding tolerance is often more powerful than blindly being strong. The mother's unique gentleness and tolerance can allow children to develop a generous way of dealing with others, such children are not sharp, and after stepping into society, they often have a strong ability to adapt. Children affected by mothers, the degree of mental health after adulthood is also much higher than the average, career development, interpersonal relationships are relatively stable, not easy to appear violent changes.
Write at the end
In today's children's education, school education alone is not enough, father and mother are the ones who affect the child's life. In family education, both the father and the mother are indispensable, and which side is missing may cause an imbalance in the development of the child. Therefore, every father and mother must give full play to their own strengths and give their children the best education where they are good at. Only in this way can children develop in an all-round way, so that children can fly high or far, and have a successful and happy life.