My daughter's name is Nannan, she is 12 years old, in a closed school in elementary school, is about to go to the beginning of the exam, when there is no holiday, the school organized a holiday for everyone. Because my daughter is full-time, I will also equip her with a mobile phone to facilitate contacting me and her dad at any time.
But this time my daughter came back, I found that he always stared at the phone to eat, but also to look at the phone, when the family got together to chat, he also had to look at the phone, I always felt how wrong for such a small child, that night, the daughter was still writing homework at 11 o'clock, I went to her desk and sat down, she was seriously writing homework, at this time I saw her mobile phone charged on the side.
I was confused and wanted to see why my daughter was so wrong. I opened my daughter's phone, which was locked, and I entered his usual password, and sure enough, it was turned on.
I first clicked on my daughter's WeChat, and found that many contacts in the WeChat chat box are seven aunts and eight aunts, there is nothing special, the chat interface is also some homework, learning and the like there is nothing abnormal.
I quit WeChat, clicked into QQ, found that QQ is also locked, the same I also entered my daughter's common password, tried to unlock several times, I was very nervous at the time, I crossed my daughter's chat history, found that there is nothing abnormal.
But just as I was scratching the last chat history, I found that it was a chat with a boy, and the chat content was very ambiguous.
According to the content of their chat, they are not boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, and the boy seems to be only recognized by him on the dating software.
The content of the chat is extremely indecent, not the boy is talking about how intimate he and his girlfriend are, or asking the daughter a variety of private parts, and even asking the daughter a photo of the private part, but from the chat content, you can feel that the daughter's words are still very shy.
I slid up their chat history and was surprised to find that several times my daughter actually sent photos of the boy's private parts, and even the boy sent photos of his own private parts and videos of being intimate with his girlfriend.
I don't know if it is difficult for you to understand how broken a mother was when she found out that her 12-year-old daughter had such indecent chat content with a strange man!
At this time, my heart collapsed to the extreme, "Is it so faceless at such a young age?" "Her so-called boy either asked him about his private parts or if she had a boyfriend? Even sent a few photos that I thought was very handsome, in order to seduce my daughter, as can be seen from the chat record, the second daughter is also happy in it, at this time I saw the chat record, I even want to give my daughter a few slaps.
As parents, we do not fully understand the growth rate of our children
Many parents think that children reach the age of twelve or thirteen, especially girls, in the face of adolescence, in the face of their own psychological and physiological changes, will only be ashamed to express, for others to say their own changes, will also feel panicked, the same see those boys in the class with good academic performance, will also can't help but spring heart buddy fawn.
But we have overlooked the important point, in such an information-developed society, although the Network has brought us a lot of convenient places, but also brought negative harm to children, such as some pop-up windows that pop up when you play games, pop-up windows when you search for homework, it is so indecent not to look, but all this is taken in by children.
At this time, I was overwhelmed by anger, and even wanted to slap my daughter a few times, but I thought deeply about the child, after all, I was also twelve or thirteen years old, and I also had my own way of thinking, we can no longer use brute force to solve, but should carry out ideological counseling. Just when I almost lost my mind, I remembered something that an expert had told us. The expert also had a conflict with his daughter and finally eased their mother-son relationship by writing letters to communicate.
Slowly, I calmed down, calmly finished my homework with my child, so I went back to my room to rest, but it was a sleepless night.
Adolescent children are eager to make friends, eager to be concerned, at the same time, in such a developed space of information, the actions and behaviors of those so-called celebrity Internet celebrities are the imitation objects of these children, and at this time, they happen to lack the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and they do not have the correct world view.
At the same time, these books also tell parents that first of all, they must correctly understand the child's adolescent rebellion, and secondly, when the child makes mistakes, we must communicate with the child seriously and attentively, do not blindly use violence to solve the problem to reprimand the child, and the children who are so educated will not only not stop the wrong ideas in their hearts and correctly face the faults they are currently facing, but they are also extremely unconvinced by the parents.
As parents, we should also guide our children to analyze these interests in sexual issues when the children are so young.
It is also these books that tell girls to be a thorny rose, not to be a silly white sweet, to face strangers which behaviors should be more vigilant, but also to tell girls how to face their own adolescent budding, how to face early love, but also to tell girls, to believe in themselves, self-esteem, self-love.
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It is inappropriate to peek at the chat history, please do not learn