The Spring Festival holiday is over, but the winter vacation is still long.
The pain of tutoring children to write homework is unified all over the world.
A while ago, brushed to an American father who pursues a happy education,
Because of tutoring children to write homework, they are angry and run wild
——The child wrote a line of Chinese characters for three hours!
The child's mother sighed next to her:
Now I finally realized the pain of my tutoring homework.
The atmosphere of tutoring children is not only international, but also sweeps through all levels of education.
A former mother of a doctoral student was forced to cry by her daughter writing homework.
After a doctor's mother tutored homework out of cerebral infarction.
This year, it is really not easy to be a parent.
On this warm spring blossom,
Specially presented with the "Science Tutoring Homework Guide",
Help everyone to spend this winter vacation safely and healthily
Pre-job preparation
One of the biggest pain points in the writing of homework for primary school students in the country is the grinding of foreign workers.
It was hard to wait for them to slowly move to the desk, adjust the chair N times, and arrange all the stationery neatly with a sense of ceremony.
Then there is:
"Mom, the pencil isn't sharp enough."
"Mom, where's the eraser?"
"Mom, what page is the homework?"
"Mom, I want to take a sip."
"Mom, I want to pee."
...
As parents, we can only prejudge the child's prejudgment, do a good job in the following four points of pre-post work, and turn the follow-up grinding time into preparation time, so that the child can focus more on the follow-up formal homework work.
Pre-job preparation should include:
1. Go to the toilet first
2, in advance to beat the water well
3. Cut the scratch paper and pencil well
4. Prepare the compass and calculator.
After you're ready, ask your child to estimate when they'll be able to complete their homework and take control of it.
Don't underestimate this step, you can create a sense of urgency for your child.
Create a learning atmosphere for your child
You know, in the primary school stage, we give children homework, in fact, it is not a tutoring knowledge point, but focuses on cultivating children's independent learning habits.
Not to mention children, even when we go to college, we have to go to the quiet library to calm down and study.
Therefore, it is very important to maintain a serious learning atmosphere.
There have been countless times when parents have been seen watching their children write their homework while brushing their mobile phones.
This is to exercise the child as a Tang monk
Who can resist this temptation?
Since I decided to accompany my child to write homework,
The phone must be held back and not brushed first.
If you have a dedicated study, be sure to go to the study.
If not, at least keep the writing process environment quiet.
When formally writing homework, parents and children must strictly abide by the three no's principles: do not brush the mobile phone, do not disturb, and do not stop.
Children should boast more
In fact, most of the children procrastinate, grind, in the final analysis or too much pursuit of perfection.
The more potential awareness is that it is a bit difficult to control these knowledge points, and there is no positive feedback.
So when it's time to praise a child, be sure to boast.
American psychologists Richard and Edward have proposed a theory called self-determinism.
Self-determinism holds that in order for a person to do something, then the thing needs to arouse his intrinsic motivation.
People's intrinsic motivation is divided into: sense of competence, sense of connection and sense of autonomy.
These three feelings are the psychological needs that children want to meet most when they grow up.
For children, it makes much more sense to do it than to do it.
Subdivide the homework to be written into several goals, and after each goal is achieved,
What your child will feel is:
I was done very quickly and I was able to do very well.
Constantly let children experience a sense of competence, it is difficult not to wow! After the self-confidence explodes, the child feels that he can do anything!
Find abnormalities and flee the scene in time
Say a thousand ways and ten thousand,
No matter how nurturing parents are,
It is still possible to encounter various moments of collapse.
According to the survey report jointly released by The Fruit Shell and an institution in 2019,
More than 90% of parents have collapsed due to tutoring homework.
The top ten crash scenes are as follows:
For the safety of parents' lives, it is recommended that parents follow the following principles for tutoring homework:
Who is in good health counseling;
Who has insurance who counsels;
Whoever has a high sum insured is tutored.
In this regard, our further advice to the warriors who are tutoring homework is that if in the process of tutoring children, they find that their sanity is on the verge of getting out of control, their bodies are unwell, and the power of the flood in their bodies is about to gush out, please stay away from the scene of the incident immediately.
Let go of the child and let go of yourself.
If you don't hold back and hit your child, don't indulge in self-blame.
Actively participate in post-disaster reconstruction, so as not to fall into a situation where the parent-child relationship and even the family relationship will fall into a situation of no recovery.
Bao Mama shattered thoughts
My favorite writer Liu Yu said: Good education is not necessary to cultivate a small grass into a big tree in the sky, but to cultivate a small grass into a beautiful grass, a healthy grass.
What we parents can do is to recognize reality and accept reality.
Finally, touch your conscience and give a word of advice:
Cherish the years of accompanying children to write homework, which will become a rare and precious memory of each other.
Soon, he grew up!
You don't need to accompany it either.