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After Li Ming gave birth to the child, she began to take the child at home full-time, and she was very concerned about the child's eating, drinking, sleeping and education!
In fact, Li Ming's mother-in-law has time to help with the child, but she feels that the elderly have more problems with children, and finally decided to bring their own.
Since she brought it herself, Li Ming read a lot of books, how to give it to her children to eat? How to sleep for your child? How to do early education for children? She bought different books to read.
She saw from a book that a child's sense of self can be obtained by looking in the mirror, so when the child is about two months old, she begins to hold the child and look in the mirror.
When the child was two months old, she found that holding the child and looking in the mirror, the child did not react, and he would not look at the things in the mirror.
Slowly, when the child is nearly 4 months old, she finds that when the child looks in the mirror, she especially likes to dance with her mother in the mirror, looking very happy.
She felt very strange, why does the child not see herself, but see the mother?
Li Ming also thought that her child had a problem, and later when she turned the page, she learned that children of different months of age looked in the mirror, but in fact, they saw different things.
There are three stages in which a child looks in the mirror and sees different things, representing the development of the child's self-awareness
The first stage: the child is about 4 months old, aware of the mother
When the child is 4 months old, she begins to have a strong concept of her mother, so she will be very happy to see her mother in the mirror.
Because at this time, his eyes are full of his mother, when the mother holds the child and looks in the mirror, the child will only observe the mother, smile at the mirror of the mother, and even reach out to touch the mother's face in the mirror.
Stage 2: Around 6 months of partner awareness
When the child is about 6 months old, if you take him out to play in the community, he may look at the children of the same age, think it is fun, and want to talk to the child.
That's because the child has a little sense of companionship at this time, when the mother holds the child in the mirror, the child will slap at his own mirror, or smile and wave, or even kiss himself.
Many mothers think that the child likes his own performance, in fact, the child at this time, he does not know that the person inside is himself, he thinks that he is his own little partner.
Seeing that he reached out, the little partner also reached out, and the little partner inside his own laugh also laughed, and when he kissed the little partner, the little partner's mouth would also come over, and he felt, Alas, this little partner is really too funny, I like him, he also likes me.
So at this time, the child looks in the mirror, and the action will be much more.
The third stage: seeing yourself around one and a half years old
The child does not have the concept of subject object until he is about one and a half years old, that is, "I, you and him" are not the same, and slowly have this feeling.
So when a child of about one and a half years old looks in the mirror, he realizes that the person who looks like himself in the mirror is himself, and when the child can see clearly that he is himself in the mirror, it means that the child's self-awareness will become more mature.
After the child's self-awareness matures, he begins to become very rebellious, such as his mother asks him to eat, he says not to eat, I want to eat bread, tell him to play with blocks, he says no, I want to play with balls, he starts to rebel.
The child's rebellion is actually the awakening of self-consciousness, representing that he wants to explore the world through himself, at this time the mother does not suppress the child, but gives the child a choice.
For example, do you want to eat first or wait five minutes before eating? Are you eating or noodles today?
After the child has a choice, the child will make a choice, which is also conducive to the development of the child's self-awareness better.
Children grow up more in the mirror, can let the child germinate self-awareness, when the child's self-awareness is more rebellious, parents give the child more choices, you can avoid the child is too rebellious, the mother learned?
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