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Machiavelli has this to say in The Monarch: "Fate determines only half of our actions, and the other half is left to our own manipulation." ”
In life, many people blame everything on fate when they encounter misfortune. However, even in the midst of such misfortune, they are not willing to change their lives and their own mentality, but choose to tend to reality and accept this so-called misfortune.
If a person lives such a negative and pessimistic life, no matter how much misfortune he will encounter in the future, all this is actually already doomed.
When getting along with people, we prefer to interact with an optimistic and positive person, so that we can see more beauty and see that life is worth it. If you meet a negative person, no matter how good life is, they can only see those unfortunate parts in their eyes.
For a woman, whether it is in her career or emotionally, she will face a lot of choices. Once the choice is deviated, the ending may encounter some misfortune.
How serious this misfortune is, in fact, has little to do with the matter itself, but lies in the woman's mentality, and how the woman will face these things.
The misfortunes in life are only the things themselves. Smart women will try to change their status quo and let themselves try to find a happy side in the midst of unhappiness. Instead of blaming everything on fate, or even accepting such a fate arrangement.
On this point, Napoleon also said: "As long as you can master the mind and develop the right habits, you can control your own destiny, and everyone can do it." ”
Therefore, if a woman feels that she is not happy, please do these three things well, you can change your destiny.
01 Make a difference, not be realistic.
Jocairns said, "Habits form character, and character determines destiny." ”
Whether a woman's life is happy or not depends to a large extent on her own character. Just like when some women encounter misfortune, they will not be easily defeated by life, no matter what difficulties and obstacles they encounter, what they think in their hearts is to face it bravely and strive to solve this difficulty.
Such a woman, although she will be very hard in the period of resistance to difficulties, as long as she can persevere, she will always overcome these difficulties.
As long as something is done, something will naturally be gained. Even if life will encounter some unfortunate things, in the end, through their own courage and efforts, they can finally overcome the danger.
On the contrary, if a woman encounters some difficulties and is easily defeated, so that she will not resist and will not think of changing the status quo, then in the end, she can only accept an unfortunate ending.
All the misfortunes in life are actually determined by the woman's character, not the so-called fate.
02 Have an optimistic and positive attitude and see the beauty of life.
Everyone will encounter some difficulties and setbacks in life, and no one's life is smooth. Whether people are happy or not, in fact, lies in how they face and look at difficulties when they encounter difficulties.
For some people, they only see the happiness of others, but often ignore their own happiness.
Rich people will feel that they are troubled a lot, and will envy those who have average conditions, because they live easily. People who have no money ignore their simple happiness and only see the material basis of rich people.
We often hear the saying that happiness is not about how much you have, but about how much desire you let go. The more desires a person has in his heart, the lower his sense of happiness naturally becomes.
The same is true for women, when a woman feels that she is not living a happy life, it is often because they ask too much and ignore what they have.
For such a situation, if a woman wants to change her destiny, she must have an optimistic and positive attitude and know how to observe those beautiful parts of life.
03 Develop some good habits and improve your abilities. When the heart is strong, life is happy.
Thackeray said, "The act of sowing can reap habits; the habits of sowing can reap character; the sowing of character can reap destiny." ”
Whether a woman's life is happy or not depends on the woman's habits and personality. If a woman's personality is more sensitive, it is easy to be affected by a little difficulty, and naturally she will often feel that her life is unhappy.
And for a brave and strong woman, when she encounters difficulties, she will solve them, even if it is full of thorns, she will bravely step over. Women are not afraid of encountering difficulties, and naturally do not feel how unhappy their lives are.
Therefore, if a woman feels that her life is unhappy, she may wish to learn to examine her own habits and personality, and analyze whether it is her own state that is wrong, or whether she has really encountered too many unfortunate things in life that cannot be solved.
Instead of complaining about their own lives and complaining about their fate, women may wish to change their own ways and spend their time on themselves to change some bad habits and improve their abilities. When your heart is stronger, naturally you will not feel how unfortunate your life is.
Krylov also said: "We lament too much about the vicissitudes of fate. Those who cannot get rich or who cannot be promoted to officials must complain about their bad fate. However, think about it! The fault is still in yourself. ”
If a woman puts all her energy on those unfortunate things, is not willing to change her current situation, and does not know how to examine herself, she can only accept the unfortunate fate in the end.
For every woman, who wouldn't want to be happier in their own life? It's just that some women are less likely to change their fate, unwilling to change their mentality, and finally lose to life.
Helen Keller said, "For those who are above destiny, faith is the master of destiny." ”
Women should know that when you feel that you are unhappy, please do these things well, naturally can change your destiny.