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Cao Xueqin wrote in "Good Song": "The world knows that the gods and immortals are good, but only the meritorious names cannot be forgotten; the world knows that the gods and immortals are good, and only gold and silver cannot forget." ”
Everyone likes to live thoroughly, but the actual approach is contrary to the idea.
Someone said: "In a happy life, there are only three things: there is hope, there is something to do, and you can love others." ”
It is true that people who really have the ability to understand the principle of "very little" have really achieved the principle of "few and ones".
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Friend: Small quantity, high quality.
Wenhao Su Shi once said: "I can accompany the Jade Emperor on the top, and I can accompany the beggars in the BeitianYuan, and there is no bad person in the world." ”
Making friends all over the world seems to be one of the characteristics of ancient literary heroes. No matter where you go, as long as you report your name, you can get warm hospitality and you can talk about wine.
I have seen the literary hero, and then look at the chivalrous. They all like to form gangs, just like Qiao Feng in "Tianlong Babu", with a wave of the arm, the beggars in the world can gather together, walk to any city, there is a group of people around, and they are respectful.
In fact, true friends are few. Most of your friends are "passing by your life." Many scenes full of high-level friends are also imagined.
For example, after Su Shi took office in Huzhou, he wrote the "Huzhou Xie Table" to the emperor, which was originally to express the ups and downs of life and the true mood, but was singled out by the Korean and Chinese officials with many ironic and metaphorical sentences. As a result, he was demoted to Huangzhou, a local official who was ostensibly polite to him, many of whom had an element of supervision.
"Friends are all over the world, there are a few confidants", the best way to make friends is to give up "the friendship of interests, the friendship of generality", leaving three or five confidants, it is enough.
Instead of spending a lot of time and energy to please others, it is better to often associate with one or two friends and precipitate friendships.
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Love: Fewer vows, more truth.
The writer Chen Guifang once told such a thing: when she passed by the flower shop, she took one more look at the yellow roses, and her husband noticed it and bought a large bouquet of yellow roses the next day to go home.
However, she did not think how beautiful the flower was, and what she could not forget in her mind was the yellow rose.
"In fact, as long as he says a word of 'love', I am satisfied, but he not only says 'love', but also says a lot of reasons, I am absent-minded, do not want to listen..." The writer suddenly understood that it is not that love is not good enough, but that it is too good, too much.
From the love stories that have been handed down, we can capture such sentences: looking back at a smile and a hundred beautiful lives; a glance at a thousand years; a promise of a thousand gold; a turn is a lifetime.
There is no suspense, true love, is the touch and beauty of a certain moment, is the eternity of a certain picture.
Most of the fragrances that can be smelled by us are "a touch of light incense", and the fragrance that is too strong will be pungent, uncomfortable, and even not smellable.
Love is love, don't swear every day. Put love in trivial days, and it will naturally last. Too many words, but it becomes the annoyance of rhetoric, and the true ability to love is lost.
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Life: Spend less money and less stress.
I've seen the idea that after living a minimalist life, you're financially free.
In order to make money, we go to great lengths. Expand your network, climb to a certain position, beg for someone, try to expand the platform for making money... As long as you can make money, you can do whatever you want.
However, many people make a lot of money, but the quality of life has not improved, and even fell into the embarrassing situation of "not making ends meet".
The philosopher Erasmus wrote in the Collection of Dialogues: "'Savings' equals a considerable sum of income. ”
When a person blocks the source of spending money, the daily expenditure is completely reduced, so that he has less money to earn.
It will be difficult to find a job with a monthly income of 10,000 yuan, but a job with a monthly income of 1,000 yuan is very easy. Not only is it easy to find a job, there is very little time to work, and there is little stress.
Diligence and frugality are traditional virtues. If hard-working people do not get rich, it means that they have not achieved the two words of frugality.
Give up the desire to buy, spend the least amount of money, buy the most practical things, try to buy discounted things... Life is like walking a tightrope, income and expenditure are the two ends of the balance lever, if you are not sure, you have to fall on your head.
Get used to frugality, the quality of life has improved, and the heart is also rich, but the pressure to make money is less, and it is more than one fell swoop. Knowing how to make money is the skill, and spending money is also.
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Career: few choices, excellent quality.
Straws, we've all seen and used, but rarely studied, what material it's made of, where it came from.
However, Lou Zhongping regarded it as his life's work. From ordinary straws to "double child straws"; from research to mass production, he has taken root for more than twenty years.
Lou Zhongping said: "We have done the right thing in the past ten years with objective laws and scientific means. ”
When we envy successful people, we should see their persistence and see their original choices. One decision, never give up for the rest of your life, this is the most rare spirit.
Whether in the workplace or in the place of entrepreneurship, we must not only innovate, but also promote excellence.
People who frequently jump jobs, it is difficult to find a suitable job in society, in any unit, are new people; entrepreneurs who are constantly turning, they are destined to take more detours, or even take the wrong road, at a certain intersection, get lost.
People who have the ability, do a line, love a line; throw themselves down and deeply cultivate deep learning. Refuse the temptation to get rich overnight, and don't lose your way.
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There is a saying that goes well: "The most beautiful thing in life is 'leaving blank'." ”
The classic point of calligraphy and painting is "counting white when black", when the music is surrounded by aftersound, it is "here is more silent than sound", and the fascinating places of the article are mostly "a stroke". The same is true of life. Complicated things can be confusing. For example, every day when you think wildly, your mind is chaotic.
Life is like grass and trees, one withers and one glory. I want everything, I hope to have it for a long time, it becomes a burden, only to give it up, I have less things, but I live better.
People with ability do not care about "good and many", but care about "less and fine".
For a while, the quiet is the scenery; for a lifetime, plain and plain is the truth.
The rest of life is not long, and you don't have to bring too many things into your life.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.