Today, on the second day of the Chinese New Year, according to the tradition, everyone should go out to visit the New Year, relatives and friends get together, it is inevitable that they will joke with children, and they think that making children cry and laugh can increase the festive atmosphere.
But many times, these adults lack educational common sense and safety awareness, and they have no weight to start, and if they are not careful, they will cause tragedies.
Today, I would like to talk to you about the "teases" that can hurt children, and the effective "anti-tease" guidelines.
Tease the child to drink
If you want to talk about the Spring Festival, it must be wine.
This wine is a "good wine" for adults, but the harm to children is irreversible!
There have been news reports before that a 5-year-old boy in Zhengzhou was "teased" by his next door neighbor, and as a result, the child was alcohol poisoned, unconscious and kept vomiting coffee-colored gastric juice.
Fortunately, the child was rescued in time and was out of danger of life.
Anti-tease guide:
■ When encountering this kind of thing, as a parent, you must protect the baby, do not have to be polite to these bears, and it does not matter if you directly go back;
■ Parents should also teach their children to cope in advance and tell him not to smoke or drink alcohol. You can teach your child a "harsh word" on the back, such as "My dad knows to break your leg", which absolutely shocks the four seats.
Tease your child to smoke
In addition to alcohol, the damage from cigarettes is also very large!
"Cigarettes" this kind of thing, it is easy to affect the development of children's salivary glands, reduce the production and effectiveness of saliva, resulting in child tooth decay;
More serious and easily addictive!
Once addicted, it can cause damage to your child's lungs and even develop lung cancer.
"Anti-tease" guidelines:
■ When the child is teased to smoke, the parents need to firmly refuse;
■ It is best to take the child away from the scene of smoking, so as not to inhale too much second-hand smoke;
Language provocative
"Your parents have a brother, so they don't want you."
"You're not your parents' own child"
"Do you love Daddy or Mommy"...
To tease children, language provocation is definitely the top 3.
These jokes, which seem insignificant to adults, can be extremely lethal to children.
Because children's cognitive ability is limited, they can't distinguish the "jokes" said by adults, and it is easy to believe them to be true, and then self-doubt, or make some extreme behaviors!
There was a news story about a 6-year-old girl who secretly threw her two-month-old brother from the eighth floor while the family was asleep.
That's because her neighbors always teased her: "Your parents have a brother, they don't love you!" I don't want you! ”
Coincidentally, the same 6-year-old little girl, because of a joke from others: "Mother will not want you in the future!" ”
As a result, the little girl believed it! When everyone was eating, he secretly carried his brother to the balcony and pushed him directly down from the 6th floor, and his brother died on the spot.
The two tragedies mentioned above are caused by the so-called "jokes" of adults to tease children!
At the age of 6, it is impossible to distinguish between true and false, and when the same words are repeatedly emphasized, it is easy for children to believe the truth and remember it in their hearts.
With that comes the great fear of "Mom and Dad don't love me" and "Mom and Dad don't want me anymore" comes.
At this point, the only thing they can do is to solve this "fear."
Anyway, every time I hear these words, the sense of substitution is very strong, and I really want to go back directly to my face!
But it doesn't matter, we can outsmart it!
These guides, everyone's small book is good ~
■ Rehearse with your child in advance
Because the child is too young to deal with this problem. Therefore, this requires parents to guide and exercise in advance to strengthen their children's sense of security!
1) "Your parents want a brother, they don't want you anymore"
When choosing a second child, you must tell Dabao: "You and your brother/sister are the beloved children of your parents and your parents will always love you."
2) "Like Dad or Mom"
Tell the child that you can answer: Mom and Dad love me the same, so my love for them is the same.
■ Parents do not provoke, the front is hard
In the face of some relatives who "can't be human", parents must not be instigated! Make your position clear: "Please don't say these things to my children! ”
Here, teach everyone a few more golden sentences, teach you "yin and yang weird qi" to go back!
1) The uncle may have picked it up, so he thought that everyone else had picked it up.
2) If your uncle's mother and wife fall into the water, who do you think your uncle will save?
3) Where are the parents who do not love their children, and if they are born without love, it is a beast, right? Uncle, you say yes or no?
Finally, I implore those who love to "joke" with children, really accumulate virtue!
Make rude requests
I often see that many people like to "grab" their children's toys, or use snacks to tease children to say something against their hearts.
For example, the following scenes, everyone should be familiar with
Call me Daddy and I'll give it to you
Tell your mom to slap your dad and I'll give it back to you
Sing a song well, I'll give it to you...
For these "unreasonable demands", I suggest:
■ You can teach your child to be tough.
1) This is my thing, how can my uncle even grab the child's things?
2) You call me Daddy, I also have sugar, you called you sugar.
■ Parents are witty to break the siege: the baby wants to sing a song, do not want to sing it, do not sing, please uncle to be an example, first sing a song for us.
Kiss your child mouth to mouth
You should have seen a lot of similar news before, such as one case: a baby who was only 7 days old was infected with herpes simplex virus because of a kiss, which then caused viral meningitis.
After 11 days, she was only 18 days old, and she finally left this world because of multiple organ failures.
Therefore, whether it is grandparents, grandparents, grandparents, or seven aunts and eight aunts, they all do not kiss the child by mouth, because no one can guarantee whether this kiss is safe for the child.
■ Teach children in advance: "Only father and mother " married " can kiss mouth to mouth " " Adults and children can not kiss mouth to mouth " ;
■ When others want to kiss the child, the parents stop it in time: "Mouth-to-mouth kissing is not safe for the child, and the baby hugs the grandmother." ”
Dangerous actions such as throwing and shaking children
Before a father imitated the vibrato video of "pulling up the child and flipping it 180 degrees", the result was a missing hand, the child was planted on the ground, and finally the child's spinal cord was seriously damaged, and the upper body could not move.
The medical staff who received the treatment at that time said: Our hospital has received more than 10 cases of difficult baby movements in half a month, which finally led to the child's fall and dislocation.
In addition to the difficult movements on TikTok, there are several common dangerous movements that can also cause children to be injured or even killed.
1) Throw the child into the air
Some adults throw their children into the sky as soon as they are happy.
Don't look, adults and children will laugh very happily, but not afraid of ten thousand, only afraid of just in case!
If not caught, the baby could be seriously injured or even killed.
2) Have your child ride on your neck
"Riding a horse" and "sitting high" are common ways to tease children.
But if the baby is still small and he sits unsteadily, it is likely that he did not pay attention to it, and his parents did not stabilize it, and he was injured by planting it.
3) Shake the child vigorously
For small months old babies, violent shaking will cause damage to the baby's brain, which is very detrimental to children's intellectual development!
If severe, it can also lead to "baby shaking syndrome", causing intracranial hemorrhage, leaving sequelae such as hemiplegia, epilepsy, and blindness, and even life-threatening.
"Anti-tease" guidelines:
■ Resolutely stay away from these dangerous behaviors!
Pinch your baby's face
This little doll's face, chubby and soft, is that everyone will not be able to control their hands and knead it!
However, here is a warm reminder: kneading is addictive, and you need to be cautious before pinching!
Because under the skin of the baby's cheeks, there is a special adipose tissue - buccal fat pad, which plays a role in coordinating the palate, cheeks, lips and tongue when the baby sucks and chews.
If you often pinch a child's face, the fragile "buccal fat pad" will be injured, and then secrete too much saliva, resulting in a saliva rash and skin inflammation.
In addition, frequent pinching of the baby's face will also affect the development of the "left and right cheek bones", and the situation of "face asymmetry" will occur.
■ Once you find someone who is ready to move and is ready to get started, your parents must stop it in time.
Playing the child's "chick"
Playing a child's chick, teaching a child to play with his own chick, to amuse everyone, to seek pleasure, this is a very bad behavior.
Not only vulgar, but also children will play chicken chicken to amuse adults, over time, will play chicken addiction, and finally prematurely trigger the child's masturbation habit.
Therefore, mom and dad must protect their children!
■ Sex education is required from the age of 3, and through picture books, tell the baby that this is a private part of the body and that others cannot touch it casually.
■ Don't wear open crotch pants for your baby! The bear can't always take off the baby's pants and bounce it.
In the name of liking children, making children overwhelmed is not called teasing, it is called teasing. Children are not a toy for bo adults to laugh at, and adults should learn to respect children.
In the face of children being "teased", parents must firmly stand on the side of the child and protect the child from harm, which is your responsibility.
Finally, I hope you all have a happy year!
I hope that the little babies will not be invaded by all diseases, and the new year will be healthy and safe!
Have you ever encountered a situation where the bear relatives "messed with the baby"? Welcome to share it together in the comments section
*The above pictures are from the network