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In the "Augmentation of the Sages", it is written: "People are good and are deceived, and horses are good to be ridden." ”
Is being a good person a good thing or a bad thing? It never seems to be conclusive.
In fact, kindness is not only a quality, but also a kind of wisdom. When you meet someone who is very vicious to yourself and poisons society, you have to turn your face to him and blindly indulge others, which is to hurt yourself and to aid and abett.
Reality tells you that no matter how kind you are, you must take the sharp edge, turn your face when you should turn your face, and don't be afraid of offending people. Some people, offended is a good thing.
But have you thought about it? But anyone who turns face with you will later become an enemy, and it is possible to "avenge the wrongs" and bring hatred to the next generation or to the relatives around you.
"Turning the other cheek" is to take into account the consequences, do not consider its "extremes".
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During the Spring and Autumn Period, Wu Zixu's family originally made a living in the Chu State, and his father Wu Hao was the Prince taifu of the Chu State. Because the prince was framed, Wu Hao was implicated and brought disaster.
Wu Zixu tried his best to escape to the state of Wu, and helped the state of Wu attack the state of Chu, gaining a lot of land. When there was a war between the State of Wu and the State of Yue, Wu Zixu offered a plan, and the war was a great success, and the King of Yue surrendered.
It is reasonable to say that Wu Zixu was a great hero of the State of Wu, who should be rewarded and provided for all his life.
However, Wu Zixu was a man of integrity and had the overall situation in mind, so he offended the bo zhao who was an official of the same dynasty, and the fate of the people once again took a huge turn.
Originally, both of them were from the Chu state, and their father had served as an official in the Chu state, which was considered a fellow countryman and a family friend; they were both abused in the Chu country, and they turned a big circle before they turned to the State of Wu. Together, help Wu Guo become bigger and stronger.
Since Fu Cha became the king of the State of Wu, the views of Wu Zixu and Bo Yao have diverged, and his character has also gone to two extremes. Wu Zixu advocated destroying the Yue in one breath and not being soft-hearted; Bo Yao believed that it was necessary to unite with the State of Qi and eliminate the Yue together.
For the sake of personal interests, Bo Yao tried his best to slander Wu Zixu: "For people who are violent, less benevolent, guessing thieves, their resentment is afraid of deep disasters." ”
In the end, Wu Zixu should confront Bo Yao to the end and get rid of his opponents, or should he avoid and hide away. He was very hesitant, because he had a sense of family and country in his heart, and finally chose to give in step by step.
Fu Sent Wu Zixu as an envoy to the State of Qi, which meant that the two countries should unite and do great things together.
Wu Zixu knew in his heart that this was more fierce and less auspicious, and Bo Zhe would trick the ghost behind his back, and the specific means were not very clear. So he took his son to the State of Qi, hoping to preserve his flesh and bones.
When Wu Zixu returned to the Kingdom of Wu, the wicked man first complained: "The husband is a subject of man, he is unhappy on the inside, he relies on the princes on the outside, and he thinks that he is the counselor of the previous king, but now he is useless, and he often complains about the martingale." ”
That is to say, a minister who sent his son to another country and talked about loyalty, perhaps he secretly colluded with the State of Qi to do something harmful to nature and reason.
In this regard, Wu Zixu was given the title of "self-deprecation".
British Prime Minister Palmerston said: "There are no eternal friends, only eternal interests." ”
Kind people, after turning their faces with people, should learn to "clean up the aftermath" and do not leave behind troubles. Because your opponents, driven by interests, will not be too polite to you, if you are hesitant and indecisive, you will lose the "initiative".
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There is a guaxiang in the Zhou Yi: "Ba Mao Ru, with its Hui, Zhen Ji, Heng." ”
To deal with problems, we must pull out the roots like thatch, and take away the same kind, so that we will be auspicious and prosperous. Instead of being like Wu Zixu, he forced himself to a dead end.
For those who turn the other cheek, these four points should be done to avoid the continuous arrival and escalation of evil.
First, keep your distance and let the other party "whip long".
If you are surrounded by several people who are enemies and you insist on confronting them, there will be a situation of "one punch is difficult to defeat four hands". And, the more you hold on, the more you get hurt. Leave this land to escape all this.
For example, many people who originally lived in the countryside had a deep hatred with their neighbors, but after he moved to the city, the hatred dissolved. Everyone does not live in a community, there is no conflict of interest, big things and small things, out of sight is pure.
Second, take the initiative to reconcile and turn the gang into a jade veil.
You meet a person who is not very vicious, then you are more tolerant of him, actively help him, the previous contradictions will disappear and be replaced by friendship.
Influencing a villain, which looks incredible, is actually a piece of merit.
Many villains, he saw people around him, were "cold-eyed", and he was very cold. You give him a little warmth and encouragement, and his fate, perhaps, is rewritten as a result. In the beginning, you turned your face with him, and you will also get his understanding.
Third, learn to endure and build a harmonious situation.
Wu Zixu is a wise man, but because he has made different suggestions to his husband again and again, his overly masculine behavior has not benefited him at all.
People under the eaves had to bow their heads.
If you are doomed to be unable to avoid people who may bring disaster, then take the initiative to bow your head, admit your mistake, and invite the other party to a meal. You have been wronged, but you have peace. Take a step back, it's stop loss.
Fourth, I have always been calculating, and I have not interacted with each other in old age and death.
If you are strong, then keep your posture and use your momentum to suppress others and make him dare not hurt you.
Since you have turned your face, it is better to keep turning your face. It's just that you have to have such a skill, otherwise once the other party is stronger than you, disasters may come and you need to find another way to deal with it.
"When the break is continuous, it is chaotic", and when dealing with contradictions, the most feared thing is to "drag mud and bring water", leaving hidden dangers, and the future will be endless troubles.
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The Three Character Sutra reads: "At the beginning of man, nature is good. ”
Human nature is originally good, but in order to get benefits, chasing fame, the true face of people may be lost.
You insist on kindness, there is certainly nothing wrong with it, but you have to move with the camera, take the initiative to adapt to the environment, and survive in the cracks.
Choose to regress or progress, be clean and tidy.
People with great wisdom, take one step and look at three steps. He will not turn his face to others at will, and he will not put himself in danger because of turning his face.
May you, after turning your face, still smile at each other.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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