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The Northern Song Dynasty poet Lin Kui once said: "Those who hurt people with words are good for swords and axes; those who harm people with magic are poisoned by tigers and wolves." ”
People who are really vicious are not only unforgiving in their mouths, but also secretly hurting people and making people invincible. Those who "knife mouth tofu heart" just say things that are not good, and they will not deliberately hurt you.
Usually, when a person is hurt by someone, he will instinctively fight back and resist the words and deeds of the other party.
However, blindly confronting others and "treating others with their own way" reflects that you are very unqualified and have become as vicious as the other party.
People with real brains will never lose their "good nature", know how to prescribe the right medicine, never easily turn their faces, but use soft power to effectively dissolve the "fists and tongues" stretched out by the other party.
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"Know yourself and know the other, win every battle", learn to observe the color, and understand the characteristics of people with vicious hearts.
In the case of a very large disparity in strength, as soon as you shoot, you lose; in the case of similar strength, you have to use your ingenuity to have a chance of winning.
There is a passage in the I Ching: "Heaven created man, the ear can hear, if not to learn, it is not as good as the deaf; the human eye can see, if not to study, it is not as good as the blind; the mouth can speak, if not to study, it is not as good as dumb; the human heart can understand the truth, if not to study, it is not as good as a madman without heart and lungs." ”
Thus, we deduce that vicious people, with good facial features and a sound heart, but do not love to learn, or use wisdom in places that "deviate" from morality and law.
Observe his ears: hear anyone's words clearly, misinterpret the meaning, and find the mistakes of others. Take some words that should not be heard, find a way to inquire clearly, and may move out at any time, as a chip to blackmail others.
For example, in the unit, he remembers the wrong words said by the boss, and if the work arranged by the boss makes him dissatisfied, he will connect the "two things".
Observe his eyes: staring at the mistakes and pains of others. At any time, he is silently observing people, but wherever his eyes pass, he can pick out many thorns.
Observe his mouth: As soon as he opens his mouth, he stirs up dissension and suggests that others are going in the wrong direction. Even children who do not understand the world will be instigated by him. Nine out of ten of his words were hypocritical and demagogic.
Observe his mind: always thinking of crooked ideas. Usually in communication, he likes to lay sets for others, dig pits, and let well-meaning people drill into them.
To understand a man's characteristics, it is necessary to compare him with a real gentleman, to see what abnormalities are in his words and deeds; to observe the people around him and discover the mistakes of the group; to investigate his past and see the degree of remorse he has after making mistakes.
As the saying goes, "A paper bag can't hold a fire." "A vicious person will always show his horse's feet, especially some details, and he can see the truth the most."
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"With a soft kegang, four or two strokes of a thousand pounds", turning the face is not as good as smiling, calculating is not as generous, confrontation is not as good as reconciliation.
Learn the following three methods to make people with vicious hearts do nothing to you.
First, open your mind and accept reality.
When the person in front of you has made a mistake, you should not die, but turn the past things upside down. In the past time, you just desperately want to go back, and you can't go back.
Only by accepting reality can we change.
Let's say that on the unit, someone destroys your computer program, resulting in a lot of data loss. Don't be too angry, calm down and copy out what's left. Then talk to each other and find the crux of the contradiction. In the future, everyone will look down and not look up, hindered by love, and the other party will also leave you a way back.
Your tolerance will awaken a person's conscience. Once you succeed, you have one more friend and accumulate merit.
Second, knock on the side and break its arm.
Generally speaking, vicious people have "minions" around them. You alone cannot make him and his minions submit. But you can disintegrate them and turn them into a mess.
There is a sentence in the "Theory of Friends and Parties": "When they share the same interests, the temporary party regards them as friends, and the pseudo-party; and they compete for the first place when they see the benefits, or if the benefits are exhausted and they are neglected, they will harm each other, although their brothers and relatives cannot be guaranteed." ”
Everyone comes for profit, and you can make their interests "tiny", or use them to attract people who are not particularly vicious and use them for you.
If a vicious person likes to be alone, then you can control his "eyes, ears, mouth, and heart" one by one, so that his heart and other organs are out of sync, and the heart is very contradictory.
Second, make good use of the rules and fight villains.
In society, in the face of the most heinous villains, you should take up the legal weapon to protect yourself. In the unit, you should give full play to the power of the system and let the other party have no place to be self-contained.
Rules are used to maintain the power of the group, if someone fights against the rules, it is impossible to get by with everyone, and soon it will become the "target of everyone" - like a rat crossing the street.
We must believe that no matter how big the circle of villains is, it is no bigger than the tens of millions of people.
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Conclusion.
"At the beginning of man, nature is inherently good", any person, good and evil are between one thought, essentially good.
Therefore, to crack down on very vicious people, do not use the most extreme methods at will, but with the purpose of "curing the disease and saving people".
The Tang Dynasty Zen master Wuxiang said: "A candle ignites thousands of candles, and the brightness increases ten million times, and the candle that is initially lit does not reduce the light, so why not enjoy it?" ”
In life, no matter how vicious people you encounter, as long as you double the light, then the vicious things will seem very small. Like sunlight, it can sprinkle on open open spaces and patronize deserts that no one has set foot on.
If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself.
Forgive and forgive, and you and I are good people.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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