In the process of growing up in Sapphire, I was faced with countless moments of psychological collapse.
She had just learned to walk, and she fell down with a "poof" sound, the pain in her body, the pain in my heart, listening to her "wow" crying, reaching for her mother's help, and I could only constantly motivate her from a distance: "Get up! Get up! Practicing roller skating, she couldn't stand up on the ground for the first time, crying and begging me: "Mom, please, I'm afraid, you hold me!" yes...... Ah..." Crying tears her heart out, and what I gave her was a cold face: "You get up by yourself, and it hurts when you fall!" ”
Dear reader, as I type at this moment, I think of her longing eyes, and I am still in tears, but I can see how my heart was turning over the sea at that time. There are countless examples of this in my life, and countless times I have complained to Sapphire Dad: "I will definitely get schizophrenia." "It's not that I don't love children, I don't want my children to suffer, and I don't want my children to face so much difficulty. But I knew she had to learn to face adversity alone.
In the face of adversity, how to make children stronger? Start by clarifying what adversity is. In fact, adversity is that there are some things that make us feel very uncomfortable, and there are some big difficulties in front of us, let us deal with them.
So do parents want their children to face difficulties, or do they not want their children to face difficult problems? Before I had Sapphire, I had thought about this question countless times, and I couldn't give myself a definitive answer. Until I listened to a little story.
In a very large forest, one day, there was a very heavy snowfall, and the snow covered all the land, and it was particularly thick. The mother fox and the little fox lived in a small cave under a big tree, and at the door of the small hole, there was a small wooden door. The little fox was just over two years old, and was about to turn three.
Looking at the snow outside, the mother fox said to her child, "Today you must go outside to find food, if you can't find something to eat, don't come back!" Then Mom pushed the little fox out of the house. The little fox is still very small. But he knew that his mother was serious, and he knew that his mother must let herself find something to eat.
The little fox couldn't help it, just crawled forward little by little in the snow, little by little, his small footprints left a long, long mark on the snow, and the little fox went around looking for food in the forest. But the snow was so heavy that the little fox couldn't find anything to eat. Its little paws had just dug a small pit in the snow, and its little hands were already freezing very painfully, and the little fox said, "How can this work, on such a cold day, how can I find something to eat? The little fox ran desperately to his home, and when he ran to the door, he was frozen and shivering!
The wind was whimpering outside; the snow was thick, but it was still falling, and the little fox came to the door with hunger and hunger, and knocked desperately on the door with its little paws: "Mom, Mom, I'm back, you open the door, Mom, I'm back, you open the door." ”
However, there was no sound inside. This little fox was strange: Where did Mom go? Why wasn't she at home? The little fox knocked again for a long time, but there was still no sound inside, the little fox was very cold, and he could not open the door. At this time, the little fox said to himself, "I must find a place, first find some food, and then hide from the cold, otherwise I will be frozen to death by the wind and snow."
The little fox hurried out again, crawling to a great distance. When the little fox was left with only a small shadow left in the snow. Mother Fox pushed open the door from inside the house. She looked up, and when she saw that the little fox's shadow was only a small black dot, her mother cried, her tears kept flowing, and a voice in her heart said, "Let my child come back, call my child back, my child is too pitiful, he is too pitiful in the snow." But then another voice in his head told him, "You can't bark, you can't bark, the little fox is three years old." If he still can't learn to find food on his own, if he can't learn to find a place to hide from the cold, then if something happens to me and I can't take care of my children anymore, he will still die, and I must let my children develop the ability to live independently. ”
With tears in her eyes, Mom endured her heartache as she watched the little fox disappear into the snowstorm. The little fox had finally learned to survive on his own, he had finally survived that cold night, he had finally grown up.
Little Fox's mother, why did you do this? Because she knows: a mother's love for her child is a separate love. Mom's greatest love is to let her child leave her as soon as possible and live well in this world independently.
So dear parents, we love our children very much, but we must not stop the growth of children because we love children; we must not let children face the adversities that he should face in his life because we love children; and we should not turn ourselves into an old hen because we love children. The children educated by the eagle mother let the children face adversity and let the children fall off the cliff, and the children finally learned to fly; and the chicken mother used her wings to block her children when she encountered the wind and the sun, and the result was a chicken. He has wings, but never flies high.
So Mom and Dad, we should be confident and bold to let children do more things, give them the opportunity to face adversity, and let them learn: what to do when he faces adversity? Instead of letting the child come out of adversity, let him live in a comfortable, lazy space, and lose the best opportunity for the child to grow.
"A mother's love for her child is a separate love, and a mother's greatest love is to let her child leave herself as soon as possible!" Dear readers, do you agree with this view? Comment in the comment area, let's discuss the problems in the growth process of children!