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Blessings are like a spring breeze that blows across the face and warms the atrium of the heart.
Whether a person is blessed or not is actually easy to see. Those who desperately try to hide their blessings are nothing more than "three hundred and two silver in this place."
In the "Cai Gen Tan", it is written: "The mouth is the door of the heart, the mouth is not secret, and the real opportunity is leaked." ”
The mouth is the door of the heart, and if it is not guarded, it will leak all the secrets. Everyone understands this truth, but few people can do it well.
Subconsciously, everyone has a "desire to share." The elderly are more pronounced.
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The old man with a very bitter heart lives a very "silent" life.
Usually, the old man who thinks we are very bitter likes to nag and nag, and whoever he sees, will complain, or complain about social unfairness and accuse his relatives of disrespecting him. When you meet anyone, you will cry poor and want to ask for the sympathy of others.
In fact, most of the old people who cry poor often pretend to be poor, or are very greedy and miserly.
In the TV series "Warm Spring", Baozhu's father is weak and sickly, and his family is very poor. However, despite the objections of his son and daughter-in-law, he accepted the lonely girl Xiaohua.
The daughter-in-law wanted to send The little flower away again and again, and also scolded Baozhu Daddy and showed him his face.
Baozhu Dad, who could not even feed himself, took small flowers, started another stove, and lived by picking potatoes and receiving help from neighbors. In order to send little flowers to study, he went to cut wicker and weave baskets to sell for money.
He suffered countless hardships, but he did not complain or blame fate. Even when I was sick, I didn't cry out for days.
A famous host said: "When a person's emotions come to an end, it is silence." ”
It is true that people who are particularly bitter in their hearts will not change their fate even if they cry bitterness every day, so it is better to do something, at least not to sit still. Save some effort and go find something to eat.
On the street, we often see some old people, repeatedly turning over the garbage can. But neither of them speaks loudly or cares about their own image, they just endure in silence.
It is said that when the hard days come to an end, they will be very sweet. The reality is not so, some old people, who have stayed up for many years, have not changed their fate, but have just pinned their hopes for happiness on the next generation.
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The old man who likes to find someone to chat with lives a relatively lonely life.
It is common to see elderly people getting together.
Early in the morning, many elderly people gather somewhere to listen to some messy health lectures. After listening, the old people exchanged together and talked with relish.
Some old people are not welcome, but he likes to swear and grin and attract the attention of others. As long as someone talks to him, he will immediately get closer and speak more vigorously.
In the community garden, some elderly people are complaining to each other and enjoying themselves.
Elderly people who especially like to chat often live very lonely, and their children are not around. Or, the children don't have a good relationship with them and don't like to communicate.
Psychologist Sherry Turkle argues that we are more and more connected, but at the same time, we are also isolating ourselves.
When a person can't be alone and wants to be accompanied by someone all the time, it is actually a particularly lonely heart and loses himself.
Truly happy old people who know how to enjoy solitude. When he is alone, he also has good hobbies and does not feel idle.
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The old man who opened his mouth to say bad things about his children was very disappointed.
The ancients said: "Those who blame others, there is nothing too much in the past, then they are peaceful." ”
When a person likes to blame others, his mood will be particularly bad, and only by sincerely forgiving others will he be at peace.
In real life, many elderly people do not have any wisdom, they only need to be filial piety by their children and respected by society. As for his own virtue, he did not see it.
As the saying goes: "People are better than people, and people are angry." ”
The old man compares his own children with the children of others, and he will definitely be mentally unbalanced. At any time, the children will be blamed for not being angry.
For example, if his children give him a hundred yuan, he tells the people in the community that the children are so stingy that they only give a hundred yuan, and the children of so-and-so give a thousand yuan at a time.
The old man who degrades his children is actually losing his blessings, and his heart will never be satisfied, and he lacks education.
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The old man with "honey" smeared on his mouth lived a particularly happy life.
In "The Divine Doctor Xi Lai le", there is such a picture: Xi Lai Le and his wife quarrel, and the wife stubbornly believes that Xi Lai Le has taken a fancy to Sai Xi Shi and asked him to kneel on the washboard. Because of the long time of kneeling, the washboard was broken.
Originally, such a punishment made men very humiliated. However, Xi Laile was not angry, but whispered, "You see, the things that are commonly used in the family are not prepared more." ”
The old husband and wife fought with their mouths, but no one cared. Put away the washboard and still be able to laugh and talk.
Husband and wife quarrel, quarrel at the head of the bed, and reconcile at the end of the bed. How can you think about it every day?
In the same way, the old man should care about no one. People who have had festivals before, people who have disrespected themselves, children who are not too filial piety, grandchildren who are not big or small... As long as you accept them, there is no gossip to be said.
Often give family members praise, praise other people's children, smile at strangers, and smile at the old man's side, naturally there are no bad people.
Master Hui said, "Happiness cannot be attained, and only living happily can bring blessings." ”
"Good words and three winter warm", say a good word, you will not lose anything, but the impression of others has become better, and you will also hear the good words of others. Dialogue, but also pay attention to "courtesy and exchange", do not ignore.
You always say "hello" to people, then you will also take back a lot of "hello". The human heart is long of flesh, how can it always be iron hearted?
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Conclusion.
Life is created by oneself, and circumstances are born from the heart.
As we grow older, we should see our fate more thoroughly and drive resentment out of our lives.
Even if your life is very bitter and you don't have any money at home, don't complain, get angry, adjust your mindset, say more encouraging words, the pain will be reduced, and the sun will pour into the atrium.
Blessed old people can be happy in suffering, and they will not "be blessed in the midst of blessings."
In fact, blessings are between opening your mouth and shutting your mouth.
May we, speak well, eat well, and have a sweet mouth.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.