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Thirty and standing, forty without confusion, fifty knowing the Destiny.
Middle age is the most bitter period of life. Before, I was still a flesh-and-blood young man, full of life, even if I fell, I could quickly get up; after that, the road was getting more and more difficult to walk, but the pressure was increasing layer by layer.
At this time, you, the child is still young, the parents are old, in society, the surface is the backbone, but in fact, it is in a mezzanine - like a mouse into the bellows, both ends are angry.
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "Jiang Hai can be the king of the hundred valleys, and because of his good deeds, he can be the king of the hundred valleys." ”
In the vast land, jianghai can become "kings" because they are very low, so that the surrounding water flows continuously.
Be like water, bow your head, and be king. When people reach middle age, who is not aggrieved while gritting their teeth and insisting?
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Bow to age and know how to "tailor-made" things.
Zeng Guofan wrote in a letter to his family: "Small places do not leak, dark places do not deceive, strange roads do not slack, is a real hero." ”
To be a person, you must think big, start small, and don't let life have dark places; it does not mean that if you make earth-shattering big things, you are a big person, and if you can do small things well, you can be called a hero.
Middle-aged people, you are the pillar of the family, if you can support a blue sky for the family, you are good enough. When you do this step and think about something else, you will naturally succeed.
Only when you see your age can you recognize the situation clearly and know what kind of material you are. When we were young, we all said that when we grew up, we would become scientists. This is unrealistic and can only be laughed at.
A friend of mine, who works in a large factory but doesn't have a high income, often worries about it. One day, he suddenly remembered that when he was a child, he did it himself and made a lot of animals out of grass and leaves. If you photograph the process of making animals and post them on the platform, can you make money?
"The heart is not as good as the action", friends and sons together, found a lot of leaves and weeds, insist on being an animal every day. Soon, my friend had a side hustle — making small videos.
Believe that there are always more ways than difficulties. Comb through everything in the past, see where you have strengths, can be converted into money, and you have a way to live.
Each piece of material has its own uses, and the key is to find the right platform.
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Bowing to money, work can "move forward silently".
In Japan, there is a moon Zen master who is good at painting.
One day, a rich woman asked a Zen master to paint. The Zen master said, "Give the money first, and then talk about it." ”
The woman agreed, and then asked the Zen master to come to her house to paint.
After the painting was completed, the woman said to the guests at home, "Look, although this Zen master's painting is very good, his heart is very dirty and polluted by money." Therefore, his paintings cannot be hung in the living room, but can only be vulgar. ”
Yeah, anything that's stained with the smell of copper makes it repulsive.
Amazingly, the Zen master did not respond, just took the money and left silently. After a long time, people learned that Zen masters have been making money and helping the poor.
Middle-aged people, how can they not have money? 80% of life's problems rely on money to solve. If not, life will be in trouble.
You may wish to learn from the Moon Zen Master, although do your own thing, lock in your own life ideals, no matter what others say, as long as the money is in hand, it will be OK.
People in the workplace, criticized by others, punished by superiors, excluded by colleagues, pulled into the water by subordinates, are all possible, if you want to calculate, you really have no way to live.
When people reach middle age, there is no job that they do not want to quit. Only by realizing the sense of crisis in life and knowing the importance of money can we gradually erase all ideas. Immersing oneself in hard work is the proper posture.
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Bowing to the lover, the husband and wife can "foam at each other".
The ancients said: "Holding gold is not precious, but knowing and enjoying is worth thousands of gold." ”
When people reach middle age, if they want to make money fiercely, they must also have a lover who can understand themselves and have a good family as a backing.
When you are very tired, you can come home, eat a hot meal, and someone boos and ask for warmth, and your heart will be relaxed. Get a good night's sleep and wake up the next day still full of energy.
Therefore, smart people will bow to their lovers. Middle-aged people, divorced, can still go to find one, but to understand a truth - husband and wife are still the original match.
In "Doctor Xi Laile", Xi Lai Le is very afraid of his wife. When he made a mistake, his wife asked him to kneel on the washboard.
Once, the washboard was broken by kneeling, and he said, "This is fine, don't kneel."
Unexpectedly, the family also prepared several washboards.
Xi Laile was still not angry, and he still said good things vigorously.
A man bows his head at home, which is ugly, but he also looks up outside to be a man, which is a sign of "home and everything".
A good couple is not without contradictions, but they accommodate each other and live a noisy life. As soon as you bow your head, everything will go well and your feelings will become deep.
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Bow to emotions so that connections can be "used by me."
In the Four Precepts of the Mortals, it is written: "Those who are irritable and careless will achieve nothing; those who are peaceful in heart and temperament will be blessed with their own blessings." ”
Everyone was holding their breath and wanting to win. Even a few verbal altercations cannot be conceded. After all, to give in at will and to speak softly is to lose face.
If emotion is a sharp stone, then looking down is a pebble.
When people reach middle age, there are always some times when they have to ask for help. You don't die with a face, you really can't do it.
When you carry gifts to visit others, you will also be very embarrassed, and you are afraid of being rejected at any time; when you invite guests to dinner, you give up your life to accompany the gentleman, and your heart is very tired; when you report to your boss only, you really want to climb to a high place yourself and give others a dismount.
Actor Bruce Lee said: "We must restrain our emotions, do not be troubled by emotions, bad emotions will only hinder our learning or career development, which is also one of the steps to understand ourselves." 」 ”
If you want to achieve something, you must be calm and speak, even if others add up to your bad words, you must endure, keep silent, and do not easily respond.
Many people, looking down and not looking up, offended him, and they have no way out. Take the initiative to bow your head and say a few insincere words, others may help you, at least not to embarrass you.
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There is a saying that goes by the way: "People have no choice but to be middle-aged, soaking goji berries in the insulated cup, wolfberries are difficult to resist the urge of the years, and angelica must be put in the cup." ”
Everyone wants to be themselves and highlight their personality, but middle-aged people can't, because the pressure of life is pressed on his shoulders.
Whether it is actively bowing down or passively bowing down, it is all for a better life.
Therefore, when we see middle-aged people walking with their heads down, don't laugh at them, but understand them.
Everyone has their own difficulties, you can't understand, but you can laugh.
One bowed head is helpless, and then bowed is open-minded, and three bowed heads are winners.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.