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"Self-discipline" wrote: "The high quality of life comes from a person's inner self-discipline and great love for life itself. ”
You have to do anything and no one is stopping you. People who are good to you will give advice; people who are bad to you will give you a face. But in the final analysis, things need you to decide, and you have to grasp the implementation yourself.
Many people think that as long as they use their time efficiently through various constraints, and then make more money and get a higher position, the effect of self-discipline will be reflected.
In fact, the real high level of self-discipline is that you don't need any constraints, you can also take the initiative to do something, constantly adjust yourself, and let life gradually enter a better state.
To be a man, we must be cautious of the masses, but also cautious and independent, but also cautious. Stop all the small things that consume you, and the fragments of life will be connected together and become a bright mirror, making you more comfortable to cross.
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First, between family members: you need to put yourself in the shoes of thoughtfulness.
The vast majority of people should oppose "nest fighting."
They are all family, how can they be suspicious and calculating with each other? Parents calculate their children's money, give their son's money to their daughter, and give their daughter's money to their son. Children always think about their parents' family wealth, and they want to take it for themselves, which is the attitude of gratitude?
Also, husband and wife get along, why can't they talk well, as soon as they open their mouths, they say that they are picky and choose, and they are eager to divorce immediately. From the first day of marriage, I regretted it.
Consciously maintain the harmony of the family, think of yourself as the "lubricant" between the family, you will find that every day home is particularly comfortable, can make yourself really in a relaxed state.
I have seen a story like this: a long time ago, there was a country called "Polonai", and the Chinese people had a bad habit - after their parents were sixty years old, people let them wear broken shoes and become the guardians of the family.
There was a pair of brothers whose father had celebrated his sixtieth birthday. The brother found a pair of broken shoes and said to the younger brother, "Go and give them to father." ”
The younger brother returned to the house without a sound, found two more pairs of broken shoes, and then said to his brother, "Let's put on the broken shoes and guard the door with my father." ”
My brother was surprised.
The younger brother continued, "Sooner or later, we will also be sixty years old, and we will always have to make plans early." ”
The brother listened, bowed his head in shame, and put away his broken shoes.
The most difficult thing for a person is not to give money to the family, but to look at the family from a different perspective and think in empathy with the family.
Family conflicts are destined to exist and cannot be smoothed out. What you can do is to smooth your mood and consider the other party when you encounter anything.
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Second, being in the workplace: a proactive attitude is required.
One of my old bosses once said, "Since you have to do this, then you should not push three or four obstacles, but take the initiative to do a good job, and you can do it well in advance." ”
Do something with foresight and you'll find that productivity improves quickly and emotions disappear.
In the workplace, people can't help themselves, and it is impossible to be free of troubles. Even if you are the biggest boss in a certain unit, you will feel sincerely afraid because of the ups and downs of the unit's benefits, the docking of customers, the ability of subordinates, and other issues.
I once did this: I was given the task of making a report early in the morning, and my heart was very unhappy. Because this matter is cumbersome and the boss is very demanding, he will give a different opinion every time.
I worked with emotion all day, and in the afternoon, I found that a few data in the report were wrong, and I lost the mouse as soon as I gambled. Suddenly, the computer went black, and the report that was too late to save could not be retrieved.
That day, I had to work overtime until two o'clock in the night — paying for my emotions.
Emotions are mental attrition, and we unconsciously bring emotions into our work.
In fact, when you can consciously go to work, your performance will make your boss impressed, even if you make a mistake, you will look at the "good attitude" and get forgiven.
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Third, interpersonal communication: the need for kindness from the heart.
There was a Zen master named Jindai who was very fond of orchids.
One day, the Zen master went out and asked the young disciple to manage the orchids in the bedroom. The disciple accidentally broke the flowerpot.
When the Zen master returned, the young disciple trembled with fear and feared being punished.
The Zen master patted his disciple on the shoulder and said, "Raising flowers is for fun, if you are not happy and I am not happy, then simply don't raise them." ”
The little disciple had an epiphany, stood aside, and smiled.
As a human being, we must not forget the way we came, and we must remember the truth that "human nature is inherently good".
Kindness is something that a person is born with, and as long as you don't lose it, then you will be disciplined for such a thing all your life, which is admirable.
Be kind to everything, your heart will be open, even the villain, will be infected by you, and then thank you, become your friend.
When interpersonal communication, everything is considered to be good, even if it is calculated, but also insist on repaying grievances with virtue, you will be particularly noble, others need to look up to you.
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Fourth, lifestyle habits: the need for self-awareness without reminders.
There is a reason, called "rope sawing wood breaking". Even if it is a trivial thing, as long as you insist on doing it, it will have obvious results.
If a person wants to sleep late, it is useless to put a high-decibel alarm clock at the head of the bed. The alarm clock does not wake up a person pretending to be asleep.
A person who does not want to run is pulled by ten cows, and he only rolls smoothly, and he will not walk like a fly.
A person who likes to complain about life, just block his mouth with delicious food, and it is not okay...
Every bit of life requires self-discipline, and whoever can do it will hurt themselves less. This kind of self-discipline does not need anyone to remind, but over time, it becomes natural.
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Learn to stop "internal friction", and your level of self-discipline will be advanced.
The fundamental essence of self-discipline is to "consciously do something." Therefore, to change yourself from the depths of your heart and let yourself live without any emotions, life truly embodies the "softest to the strongest".
Writer Wang Xin said: "The slow life you see is comfortable, leisurely, unrestrained, and not troubled by money, in fact, it is the reward of self-discipline given by life, and it is a sweet moment of life, not all daily life." ”
You don't even let go of your own heart, what else do you talk about self-discipline?
A person's self-discipline is not for others to see. What really determines whether you are self-disciplined or not is whether you behave in words and deeds, whether you follow your heart, whether you accept it with your heart and eyes, and do it.
A little bit of your self-discipline every day will be particularly outstanding.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.