Parents and children should have the right amount of boundaries, do not cross each other, will naturally reduce contradictions, and the appropriate distance will increase the affection with their children. No relationship is not the six relatives do not recognize, but to establish a relationship of knowing the advance and retreat, perhaps the best relationship subtly is to look no relationship.
First, parents can manage their own affairs, the treatment of children only need to do timely care, or children in the wrong direction of life in time to correct, in addition to parents should be fully focused and go all out to manage their own things.
Do not manage the affairs of children too widely, let alone manage too widely, do not manage one thing that should be managed less, and do not manage more than one thing that should not be managed. Thus achieving peace with their children, being able to take care of each other and keeping a distance not far away. The most taboo thing about parenthood is that relying on the relationship between parents does not maintain the necessary sense of distance, and there is a great coefficient of friction when the distance is too close, and living together with a bondage situation, thus hurting feelings, far less than their own well-being.
Second, do not blindly contribute money or contribute to the children, if you blindly contribute money or contribute to the children, the children will neither be grateful nor appreciative, but will cause a burden to the children, although a lot of money or a lot of effort, but not pleased.
Parents should not be self-righteous or guess their children's needs when they give for their children, and if they do not think differently with their children, they will be in the opposite direction of what they like. Parents should not think that the relationship with their children is close to each other, otherwise the long-term effort will be inversely proportional to the harvest. The reason why it is best to have nothing to do with your children is because you need to establish a relationship with your children on a matter-of-fact basis, and when your children really need your help, or when their children ask you for help, it is not too late for you to lend a helping hand.
Third, after the children become a family, the task of parenthood is completed, and if there is no sign of crisis in the children's family, if there is no sign of crisis in the children's family, if the children's family cannot participate in the children's family, they will not participate in the children's family.
The most urgent thing to do in the later years is to plan your own life, grasp the limited time of the second half of life to enjoy life, and since the children and grandchildren have the fate of their children and grandchildren and the blessings of being late, there is no need to worry about it. In addition to the children's initiative to ask for help for the rest of their lives, directly making their bodies safe and sound is an indirect contribution to their children.
Conclusion: Parents and children should be close when they should be close, and should be far away when they should be far, so as to achieve dynamic adjustment, such as if the relationship with their children is too close or too far, or they do not grasp the fire of near and far, even if the surface looks like a relationship, it is not as good as the surface looks like it has no relationship, but there is a broken relationship inside.
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