When we don't love anyone, our hearts are often fearless.
But one day, when we are deeply involved in a person, deeply fallen, it is difficult for us to maintain that kind of sanity.
I can't say why, there is no reason, in our hearts, there will be some fear.
You will be afraid of your own likes, it is just an empty joy, you will worry that one day, you will suddenly lose each other.
Once people are careful, they will easily become guilty of gain and loss, wild thinking, less confident, not so secure, the more they care, often the more they will be so.
Because of love, we will become like this, which is understandable, but we must not let ourselves continue to be like this.
The best thing is to adjust your mindset and don't let yourself be immersed in fear all the time.
Being too scared can easily affect feelings.
Generally speaking, when we are afraid of losing, it will not only affect our mood, make ourselves cower and shrink, and fail to treat each other well, at the same time, for each other, we often make some more extreme behaviors.
For example, there will be an incomparably strong desire to control, often asking each other all kinds of questions, wanting to check the other party's whereabouts and mobile phones.
These behaviors of ours are indeed because we are too unwilling to lose, too much to love each other, but in the eyes of the other party, the other party will feel that we are restricting his freedom, and it is very scary to be with us.
When we let the other person feel this way, the other person will really start to become afraid of us and want to flee.
In this way, because of love, we will want to control each other, but the other party will not take care of it, but it will only backfire.
In any case, love is important in relationships, but freedom, being trusted, being respected, is also important.
Many people really can't stand some of the more transgressive, let themselves feel uncomfortable behavior, he will only hope that he can live more relaxed in this love, and will not always be particularly depressed.
In the end, the other party may even really choose to leave because of our behavior, and no longer want to have one with us later, just want to find another half that makes him feel more relaxed.
Just be calm and love with your heart.
No matter how much you love someone, the best way to love each other is never to become less like yourself, let yourself be lost in love, and make the other party feel very tired, but to take out your most natural state.
If you want to be good to that person, be good to that person, think of each other and tell each other directly, go to meet, what you are like, you don't have to pretend, just show what you look like, don't have so many inner dramas, although it's just real.
Of course, you don't always have to feel apprehensive, although it's like you're going to love each other as if they were bound to be together and have a good outcome.
Have a more normal mentality, do our best, when we do this, if in the end everything really goes well, each other really have a good ending, of course, it is good, it is very fortunate.
Even if we end up losing, it's not a big deal, at least we did what we had to do.
Originally, not all likes can have a beginning, and not all feelings that have a beginning can go to the day of marriage together, not to mention, even if they are married, they may not be able to continue forever.
Many things are constantly changing, and what we can do is to hold on to this moment and respond to changes without change.
Do what you should do with your heart, no matter what the result is, in fact, there is no such thing as it is, try your best, you don't have to force it.
Loss, and not so terrible.
We will be so afraid of losing, probably after having it, thinking that if we lose each other, life will no longer have color, and we will not know how to continue our lives.
Losing after getting it, it is indeed a little difficult to adapt, but no matter who you lose, it is actually not so terrible.
You know, before the other party appeared, we were just alone, and at that time, we had already experienced too much alone, one person had endured too much, and one person had a good life.
From two people to a person, even if at the beginning, we will be a little unaccustomed, but gradually, give ourselves a little more time, we will also find that everything has not changed much, the world is still wonderful, we still have unlimited possibilities.
After a period of sinking, we will really come out slowly and become vigorous again.
A lot of loss, then it really doesn't matter much, losing each other, we still have ourselves, we can also love others, and there will be other people coming to our lives and giving us a cherish.
The worst is just losing, and the loss is just that, so we can really be more relaxed.
No big deal, love is right, it is the rest of your life, no love is right, it will be a very meaningful journey.
In the face of life, we must be brave and fearless, and in the face of feelings, we should be the same.
To love someone, you don't have to be afraid of losing, you don't have to be afraid of not being able to get married, you don't have to be afraid that the ending is not as good as you think.
We don't always have to worry too much about something that hasn't happened, just feel the moment.
Always worry about the future, our worries may not happen, but we will certainly not be able to live well now, will always be worried, live not happy at all.
Don't think about it so much, just do your best, do what you have to do, and then, leave the rest to time and let nature take its course.
No matter what happens in the future, we will find a way according to the actual situation, solve the problem, and continue to move forward.
When we understand this, even if we deliberately let ourselves be like this, we ourselves, the people we love, will actually benefit from it and be able to live more comfortably.
Text/Tan Meng
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