"Looking back, it doesn't seem to solve any problems, but now I don't have to be compulsive and depressed anymore." A rehab message from a friend with cleanliness obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Many obsessive-compulsive disorders are more concerned about whether I should wash it, whether I should do it, and whether I should continue to think clearly. Even in the consultation, say: Teacher, you say! You tell me not to wash, I won't wash.
I really can't answer this question. Wanting to be at ease through confirmation, or even repeated confirmation, is the symptom of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Even if I confirmed it, the compulsion would continue: Is it really safe? What if?
At the same time, willpower cannot solve obsessive-compulsive disorder, and it is not obsessive-compulsive to be hard-hitting, otherwise it is not obsessive-compulsive disorder. You don't feel bad because you have two eyes and two ears, and you see others who are doing the same and recognize the normalization of your current situation. However, intrusive thoughts, uncontrollable thoughts, these subjective things, you have not looked at other people's minds, how do you know that others do not?
In the book "Overcoming Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder" by teacher Li Hongfu, it is repeatedly emphasized that the performance of compulsion is an illusion, and if you try to solve the compulsion and eliminate this worry and that question, it is nothing more than falling into the trap of compulsion.
In fact, everyone has strange thoughts, catastrophic thoughts, why don't they suffer? The pain of obsessive-compulsive disorder comes from the induction of habitual mind, being forced to lead the nose. The reason for compulsion, the root cause, is driven by sensitive, suspicious, uneasy psychological habits, controlled by attachment, only to change the psychological habits, to focus on the current mind, to break the wild thoughts, the compulsion will automatically stop.
Many friends with obsessive-compulsive depression also want to focus on the moment and do not want to continue to think, but they can't stop!
It's like a math problem.
You have the answer (knowing the moment to focus on),
but do not understand the solution of the problem (do not know how to "focus"),
The next time you have a similar problem (forcing another way, changing a coat, forcing it to attach to something else),
Also will not answer (as is the case with compulsion);
Or this time understand the principle of the problem (figured out this forced problem),
If you don't do it, the probability is that you will see the plenary meeting and do it all (continue to force)
Obsessive-compulsive disorder depression wants to heal itself, need to devote themselves to practical life work, through some psychological training, cultivate the ability to learn from each other (repeatedly deliberate on the solution of the problem), cultivate awareness of the present, settle in the present, enjoy the feeling of the present, and cultivate a balanced and stable heart. How?
Self-healing obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression method 1, idea (non-skill)
Before you heal yourself, you need to grasp the "idea" first, not the skill. On the one hand, skill may be a result, like solving a math problem; on the other hand, for people who are forced to blindly emphasize skill, the problem of compulsion is likely to manifest itself in the skill, but instead become trapped in the skill and evolve into another way of forcing.
The easiest way to avoid trick-or-treating is to keep acting, understanding the core of the method, and practicing patiently. Following the Earth's rotation cycle, sunrise and sunset are one day, and doing this every day during each "sunrise and sunset" period (the following two mental trainings) is the real continuous action.
Self-healing obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression method two, psychological training
The method of contemplation, with a mind of continuous concentration, is aware of the breath coming in and out of the nostrils, without distinction, without association, without judgment, what the breath is, and it is only aware of its present appearance, with the breath and inhale at this moment, without much increase or decrease, just observing truthfully. Breathing is happening all the time, and with the breath, the center of gravity is on the breath, and any impulse, without the support of strength and without attention, automatically disappears.
Also stop the Fa, the "same is true" practice essentials recorded in detail in the book "Overcoming Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder". For anything that attracts attention, describe and add "so be it" after it, making it as clear as possible what is going on in the mind, so that attention can return to the fork in the road with a choice, rather than being forced to deviate.
Friends with cleanliness obsessive-compulsive disorder, through more than two months of psychological training, although he still loves to be clean than the average person, he still washes his clothes every day when he comes home; although others will also touch his clothes, when he walks in the car, other colleagues and pedestrians will also be next to him, it seems that the problems he cares about most in reality have not been solved, but he is no longer entangled, the pain is also gone from him, and the compulsion will no longer exist.