Children's education is a long journey of heart and wisdom for parents

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Parents, is there an intrinsic drive in your child? Does the desire to "keep your child from losing" also often make you anxious?

In fact, "children are not a miniature version of adults, the unique value of childhood education is not to prepare for adulthood, but to find yourself, to know yourself", today Xiaobian shared with you the observations of a primary school principal, he told us that only parents and schools work together to provide a strong internal driving force for children!

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Every parent is a partner in home-school co-education

There are no perfect children in the world, no perfect parents, and no perfect schools and perfect teachers. From being a new parent to being a guide on the road to children's growth, parents are almost all feeling the stones to cross the river, and there are few who have cultivated "positive results", but there are many people who have failed.

Every parent should be a partner of home-school co-education, a partner with the same frequency resonance, similar magnetic field, and consistent pace.

We see education as agriculture, teachers as farmers, and students as seeds. Human beings are born with the internal drive of self-development and exploration, which is itself a biological instinct, and acquired education only accounts for about 30% of the basis of children's innate endowments.

Therefore, the education of schools and families must be based on objective and rational basis in order to talk about adults and talents.

Our educational philosophy is to let the flowers have the fragrance of flowers, let the trees have the great shores of the trees, and let the grass have the softness of the grass. All this needs to be achieved through the child's own efforts.

School education is part of the educational structure. If society is upstream of the river and the family is in the middle, then school education is the lower reaches of a river. To run a school well, if the upstream and middle reaches are polluted, it is difficult for the downstream river to be clear.

Now many parents are caught in a utilitarian misunderstanding - can not lose at the starting line. Driven by this sentence, families and schools are running forward with all their might. I think that there are now new "three mountains" pressing on children: the preschool class that rushes ahead, the school choice fever in the early years, and the "single wooden bridge" of the middle and high school entrance examinations.

At the family level, we have found many "helicopter parents" - parents are accompanied 24 hours a day, and the focus of family life is almost always on their children.

Whether it is the child's physical condition or learning situation, even a little wind and grass will lead to tension and even anxiety in the whole family.

At the school level, school education is also influenced by society and the family. Some parents pay too much attention to their children's grades. Even if there are differences in grades between students, the differences are not large. Therefore, I would like to remind parents not to spend too much energy on grades and rankings.

Some misunderstandings and the three mountains have caused many families to lack concentration in education, and the direct consequence is that the children's internal strength is insufficient. Some parents blindly rush to run, in order to pursue the so-called "not to lose at the starting line", so that the child's curiosity, imagination, concentration, inner sense of order and other most precious internal forces in life growth are consumed, lacking, and even exhausted.

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Children are not miniature adults

Curiosity and imagination, concentration and an inner sense of order are important internal forces for a child's life growth.

Autonomy, self-confidence, self-discipline, good character, good popularity, good character, these are the important driving forces for the growth of children's lives.

Endogenous force, internal drive, internal power, internal concentration, introspection and core force are the 6 aspects that our school has focused on in the past 5 years of "seed education". We believe that these are the 6 strengths that children need to develop throughout their lives.

A child has sufficient internal strength to lead to the road to the future and to the road to happiness. "Seed education" is the education of a complete person who is concerned with the growth of life. A friend asked me, where does the endogenous motivation come from?

First, it begins in childhood

Children are not a miniature version of adults, and the unique value of childhood education is not to prepare for adulthood, but to discover themselves, know themselves, and generate endogenous motivation.

Second, it starts with traits

Now many parents send their children to participate in a variety of special classes outside the classroom, "specialty" and "characteristic" is not just a word difference, every child comes to the world, they are unique, each child may become a leader in a certain field, including those whose academic performance is worrying.

Third, it begins with the mind

Enriching a child's inner world is more important than filling a child's brain. If there is a problem with the direction of the heart, nothing more in the brain will be of any use.

So, does your child have a strong inner drive?

If your child is willing to get better and better, I want to congratulate you, such a child is full of internal strength. They are easily guided and educated by teachers, rather than being rejected by new things like the so-called "super children" who rush to preschool.

In fact, parents love their children not because he learns more and does well in the test, but because he is your child. True love is unconditional. Here, I would like to give parents two points of advice.

First, rational companionship.

Rational accompaniment is not to take their own standards and ideas to demand children, let children act according to their existing ability level and upward space, give him the right to choose while cultivating children's skills, and let him learn to be responsible for his own choices.

Some parents say that children love to sleep late, and they can't get up if they don't bark in the morning. I told her that if you want to correct and correct the child's problem, tell him directly: Do you choose to let your mother call you and then go to school on time, or do you choose to get up by yourself and arrive at school at what time?

If the child chooses to wake up naturally, then let him taste the taste of being late. Because the teacher can't forgive you for being late every day.

Second, focus on growth.

Many parents are eager to raise their children to become stars or school bullies when they are young. In fact, this is a bit greedy at the elementary school level. You know, seedlings that encourage and violate the law are punishable.

Focusing on the life growth of seeds means not measuring children by a unified and single "success" standard, and not having to be complacent with the short-term advantages in intellectual education, and not hearing what other people's children will make them anxious, but to let moral education, sports, and aesthetic education all-round immersion in children's hearts.

At the same time, children should experience failure and success within the scope of their ability, so as to deepen their understanding of the world. If the lesson of "failure" is missed in elementary school, it has to be said to be a pity.

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10 things parents must know

1. Learning first is a beautiful trap

Advance learning refers to learning beyond the child's comprehension, which is characterized by speed, emphasis on results and repeated training. This may be more effective in the short term, but the disadvantage is that there is too little time for children to think and there is not enough experiential learning.

2. Grade 1 and 2 grades are extremely deceptive and false

Because children devote all their time to textbooks and homework, they naturally do not have time to read a lot, which is like losing a watermelon and picking sesame seeds.

Even if such an investment is a high score or even a full score, it is a huge loss to the child's future. So, we encourage children to be a little bookworm and encourage them to read the whole book.

3. The focus of primary school learning is on reading

6-12 years old is the golden period for children's reading ability development, during this time period, children read a lot of books, will be of great benefit to future development.

If a child has not read a good book, or even read more than 100,000 words, and spends a lot of time doing homework and attending cram school, then the child's talent and intelligence will be "starved to death" early.

4. Teach your child three things to eat

First, we must learn to eat

Disc action is our course, not picky eaters is a family lesson, do not let the child turn into sprouts and little chubby mounds.

Second, we must learn to endure hardships

Now that children generally lack this article, it is recommended that parents can often cooperate with the school to engage in some courses such as wild survival experience, so that children can suffer a little, and there is no harm to their future growth.

Third, we must correctly view children's losses

Elementary school students will inevitably bump into each other in the game, and even some accidents will occur. At this time, many young parents are very irrational and think about problems purely from the perspective of distressed children.

There is a saying that "willing to suffer losses, someone to follow". "Someone to follow" is a unique temperament that a child can become a leader and leader in the future in society. Those who refuse to suffer losses, will anyone be willing to follow?

5. About "poor support" and "rich support"

This has always been a hot topic of discussion. Now many families have entered a well-off life, and the worry-free material life makes today's children basically "rich second generation".

I recently saw an article saying that no matter what the family situation is, parents raise their children as kings and grandchildren, but they do not know that the essence of wealth is not material satisfaction, but spiritual giving and spiritual enrichment. Poor support is not to let children eat, drink and wear shabby, its essence lies in tempering the will.

Wealth is indeed enviable, but it does not necessarily bring dignity to people. Because the degree of a person's fascination with matter is often inversely proportional to his spiritual state.

6. Generational parenting requires rational thinking

Many young parents now cede the right and responsibility of parenting to their parents and in-laws, which can cause many problems. Regarding generational parenting, it is necessary to arouse the rational thinking of young parents.

7. Do not blur the boundaries between mothers and teachers, and between home and school

Teachers can't do what moms should do at school, and moms can't always be teachers to their children at home, because the love between the two is fundamentally different. Some parents even quit their jobs, gave up their careers, and were willing to be teachers for their children at home.

Family education and school education cannot be equated, and each has its own function. In my opinion, family education should be personality education, emotional education, humanistic education, and habit education, while school education should be scientific education, standardized education, and the same education.

8, the family is a photocopier, the child is a copy

In school, we can't predict some unexpected events and accidental injuries, which, in my opinion, are the touchstone of the home-school relationship.

More than once, we have seen the angry look of parents when their children scratch a piece of skin at school and have conflicts with their friends.

At this time, on the one hand, we must strengthen the safety education and management of the school, and on the other hand, we spend a lot of time to do psychological counseling for parents. The actions of relatives in the face of unexpected situations make it difficult to believe that such a family will cultivate a great personality for children.

9. Educating children is to look at the life pattern of their parents

An American justice once gave a speech at his son's college graduation ceremony, called "I wish you misfortune...": "In the years to come, I hope that you have been treated unjustly, I hope that you will suffer betrayal, and I wish you that you often feel lonely... Because only in this way, only when you feel the misfortunes of the world and have been treated unjustly, can you truly understand the value of justice; when you are betrayed, can you understand the importance of loyalty..." He used his wisdom pattern and life skills to educate his children, which is worthy of admiration.

10. Growing up > adults > success > success

The last thing I want to tell you is the order of the four words "growth", "adult", "talent" and "success": "growth" precedes "adult", "adult" precedes "success", "success" precedes "success".

Third-class parents are busy babysitting their children, second-class parents are busy sparring their children, and first-class parents are committed to being their children's life role models.

In the future society, everyone cannot succeed and stand on the top of the pyramid, but every child needs happiness in his life, because happiness is an ability that can exchange dignity for himself, gain trust, and create happiness.

Finally, let me conclude with two sentences: Dear parents, persistently cultivating yourself is the king of educating your children! Parenthood is always a journey of heart and wisdom!

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