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I like to watch strong women TV series because I can draw a kind of strength from them and find the direction of my efforts.
For example, Su Mingyu in "All Is Good", I can see from her what is called "my fate is up to me", such as Gu Jia in "Thirty Only", I can learn from her what is introspection and perseverance, such as Sheng Minglan in "Know It or Not", I can feel the strength of hard work and progress from her.
And I found that these women have a common trait, in addition to hard work, hard work, is to live very sober. They know what they want, how much they are capable of, how hard they have to work and struggle, what they should and shouldn't do.
I think that if I can live to be sober in the world, naturally I will not live too badly. So, I want to share with you the 5 truths of human nature that they tell girls, and if we can do it, I believe we can grasp the happiness we want.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="92" > keep a modest distance from anyone </h1>
There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun and the other is the human heart.
"Know It or Not" shows us the ugliness of human nature, Lin Xiaoniang killed Wei Xiaoniang and the children in her womb for her own selfish desires, and made Minglan an orphan. Lady Wang and Lady Kang poisoned the old lady of the Sheng family for personal gain, almost letting her die.
Mother Su in "All Is Good" favors sons over daughters, which makes Su Mingyu carry an unfortunate childhood, and also causes the misfortune of the sons' lives in the family.
Gu Jia in "Thirty Only" pleases the rich wives for business, but is ridiculed and deceived by them, almost plunging herself into the abyss.
Their experiences have made us understand that whether it is friendship, love or affection, we need to maintain a moderate distance and let ourselves have the ability to advance and retreat, so that we can maintain long-term comfort.
Of course, if you want to keep your distance, you must improve your ability, just like Sheng Minglan, like Su Mingyu, who never gives up.
I hope that every woman can remain alone after becoming strong, and believe that you will be happier.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="100" > all the gifts of fate are secretly priced </h1>
I think Sheng Minglan is a particularly sober woman, since Wei Xiaoniang's death, she no longer believes in anyone, only believes in her own ability.
Therefore, she kept trying, she did not let anyone see through herself, she tried to hide her strength, only to protect herself and the people she loved at the critical moment, and only wanted to avenge herself and her little bride at the right time.
Although I am a little distressed by her, but also very much admire her sobriety, women must understand that there is no free lunch in this world, the relationship between people is mostly an equal exchange of interests, do not think that you will be the lucky one, hard work is the best way.
Otherwise, like Gu Jia in "Thirty Only", he thought that he could get the benefits he wanted through the wife circle, but eventually found that he was just a clown.
At this time, she understood that in the face of sudden luck, we must open our eyes to see if we are worthy, and then decide whether to accept it.
Don't be blindly happy, because the things that make you feel surprised and surprised and tempted are often not gifts from Heaven, but the test of the devil.
I hope that every woman can have such a sober, hard work, and let herself have a more stable happiness.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="108" > financial independence is the deciding factor in your happiness </h1>
I often say that women should first make a living and then seek love, and this sentence has also been confirmed by Su Mingyu, Sheng Minglan and Gu Jia.
The love between Su Mingyu and Shi Tiandong is envied by many people, but who knows, the reason why Su Mingyu can freely choose the person she wants to love is because she has worked hard to make herself have the right to choose freely, so that she does not have to choose between bread and love.
Sheng Minglan and Gu Tingye's marriage is envied by many people, but do you understand that the reason why Sheng Minglan was so firmly chosen by Gu Tingye and spoiled her to heaven was because of her outstanding ability and super high emotional intelligence.
Although Gu Jia has experienced the betrayal of marriage, she can still fight in the state of life she wants, and the dashing ability to stand up quickly also comes from her daily efforts and accumulation.
These women have independent financial ability, they have no love brain, they don't give up on themselves because of a man, a relationship, so they deserve the best happiness.
This is the ability that all women should learn well, because we can only decide what kind of happiness we can have if we first make ourselves strong, and we must not put the decision on whether we can be happy into the hands of others, which will only plunge ourselves into the endless abyss.
Work hard first, and then cheer up happiness, this is the best truth that sober women tell us.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="116" > the only person in the world who can accompany you for a lifetime is yourself </h1>
Life is lonely, this is the truth we must understand, whether you can accept it or not, this life can only accompany yourself.
People who have not experienced loss may not know how painful it is to be reborn in Nirvana, just like Sheng Minglan, she must also want to live like Sheng Rulan, some people hurt and some people love, do not have to work hard, but she can't, she must rely on her own ability to spell out a future. Just like Su Mingyu, she must also hope that someone will spoil her and love herself, but she can't, she must work alone at the age where she should be pampered. Just like Gu Jia, she must have envied those women who were spoiled by people, but she could only bury her head and desperately in exchange for the stability and tranquility of her life.
I have always understood that those women who work hard have the helplessness behind them, if someone can give us a good time, who wants to carry the weight forward?
Just ah, I hope you understand that most people in this world must rely on themselves, and only by relying on themselves can they be the most down-to-earth and stable, don't complain, don't be sad, calmly accept this reality, and work hard for themselves.
Please believe that your life should be controlled by yourself, and only by holding the steering wheel of life in your hands will you get the happiness you want.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="122" > beautiful looks are capital, but living beautifully is the skill </h1>
From Sheng Minglan, Su Mingyu, and Gu Jia, you can see that beautiful women are fierce characters, because they are very self-disciplined, so they can have beautiful appearances and super abilities.
I think that looking beautiful must be a woman's capital, but living beautifully is the real skill. Because you only have beauty and no ability, you will be despised, just like Sheng Molan in "Know It or Not", although she married into the Earl's Court with her beauty, she was also disliked because she had no ability.
I hope that every woman can see that you look beautiful, others will look at you more, but only if you have high emotional intelligence, connotation, and ability will let others always look up to you, which is why Sheng Minglan has so many people rushing for love, but Sheng Molan will be disliked by people.
The factors that determine whether a woman can be happy in the end, beauty is one of them, but ability, IQ, pattern, character, etc. are also very important, I hope that every woman can soberly recognize this, improve her comprehensive quality, and make herself invincible.
Of course, being able to remain beautiful all the time also requires strong self-discipline, because that kind of accumulation of persistence is not something that everyone can do, and I hope that every woman can have such strong self-discipline, live beautifully, live strongly.
Good women all have common traits, sobriety, hard work, self-discipline, persistence, etc. are all important factors.
I never felt that I could become a woman like Su Mingyu, Sheng Minglan, and Gu Jia, but I knew what I should learn from them, and I think this was also the first step to make myself sober and mature.
Life is not a fairy tale, we must understand its cruelty, but life is not as bad as we think, we also have to remain positive and optimistic.
Hopefully every woman will be able to live as hard as these sober and strong women, and hopefully every woman will be able to have the happiness she wants.
I am Xi Yan, columnist, older girl who is not old and not old, likes to write warm words, do emotional programs, has published "The Rest of Your Life, Related to Me", if you have a story, remember to come to me.