No matter how old a person lives, he is a child deep inside, he longs to be loved, he longs to be cared for, he longs to be cared for.
I am an authentic rural baby, when I was a child, I was particularly sensible, I have a younger brother, a sister, I as the eldest sister, my parents always want me to let my younger siblings, slowly I feel that I should let my younger siblings. I would give it to my younger siblings first and wait for them to eat the rest, because then my parents would praise me as a sensible child, even though I was only three years older. However, I like to be praised by my parents because then I feel valued and I feel that I have a sense of existence.
Once, my mother bought a few pieces of bubble gum, at that time the family was poor, we rarely had the opportunity to eat bubble gum, I was also a child, I also wanted to eat, I ate a piece, my brothers and sisters were unwilling, told my mother that I stole their things. Later, I was murdered by my mother, saying that my younger brothers and sisters are little and you have to let them go. I remember very clearly, I ran out and secretly cried. An old grandmother in the neighbor's house saw me, took my hand and said: "The child does not cry, the grandmother has sugar here", I told the grandmother about it, the grandmother said: "Child, you are too sensible before, in the future you must first learn to love yourself, and then love your younger siblings, often too sensible children will not get the love they deserve, grandma used to be the same as you." Since then, I have had my own opinion, no longer let my younger siblings do everything, I will also reason with my parents, and my younger siblings have become less selfish.
In fact, the more sensible people are, the more likely they are to be hurt, to grievance themselves, because you think about everything for others, you have lost yourself, you want to exchange this for the love of others, as everyone knows, this is not to get love, you have to learn to love yourself first, born as a person is the first time, why should you be so wronged yourself.
People with too good tempers, everyone is looking for trouble with you, looking for your help, you help others again and again, when you don't help once, people will hate you, you have helped many times before people have long forgotten; on the contrary, those who do things and talk about principles, people who are usually not good at talking, occasionally help others, others will be grateful, this is human nature.
Mr. Yang Dai said something like this: "Later we learned that those who have a good temper are angry, those who are understanding are considerate, no one who can take care of people is taken care of, and those who cry and make trouble have sugar to eat." And those who understand things, on the contrary, no one will be distressed. ”
In the new year, no matter what kind of person you were before, remember that the person who loves you will not love you because you know things, even if you are naturally willful, the person who loves you still loves you.
In fact, you don't have to be so non-committal, everything is centered on others, you are not a supporting role, you are the protagonist of your life, you are a unique existence, you deserve to be loved.