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The marriage between Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu, in the eyes of Zhong Xiaoqin's parents, is a peace made in heaven and earth.
Zhong Xiaoqin is the couple's heart and liver baby, to say an exaggeration, she grew up in the palm of her parents' hands, she never left them from childhood to adulthood, and even the university is in the city.
Knowing that the daughter is like a mother, Mother Zhong knows the virtue of Zhong Xiaoqin, poor self-care ability, no opinion in case of trouble, a big grin, and pampering.
Mother Zhong is very satisfied with her son-in-law Chen Yu, in the original words of Mother Zhong: How good is Chen Yu, from a small place to Shanghai can still work in public institutions, what a decent job, we all know that Chen Yu is the director of the TV station! The most important thing is that Mother Zhong feels that Chen Yu has a maturity and stability that is rare at his age.
My daughter, who has not grown up, marries a "fatherly" man like Chen Yu, and I think parents under the sky will feel that this is the best choice!
Therefore, whether it is out of love for her daughter or her liking for Chen Yu, Mother Zhong always does everything she can to take care of the two of them, such as going to the home of the two children every three to five to clean up, or making them a hearty meal.
Mother Zhong thought that this was the best love for the two of them, and Zhong Xiaoqin also enjoyed the feeling of being taken care of by her parents, but Chen Yu was very disgusted by this, and he resented Mother Zhong's protection of Zhong Xiaoqin's failure to wean.
In Chen Yu's memory, his father was an incompetent person, often ten days and half a month did not see anyone, his mother wanted to earn money to support the family, the task of taking care of his brother Chen Xu fell on his head, rather than saying that he was Chen Xu's brother, in fact, for so many years, he had been playing the role of father in Chen Xu, taking care of Chen Xu's food, clothing, housing, and solving the trouble That Chen Xu caused outside.
Under such a family situation, Chen Yu will have the maturity and stability that does not match his age, Chen Yu does not say it, in fact, he has long been tired of this feeling of being breathless.
Chen Yu likes to raise fish, envies the feeling of fish being free in the water, and it is also very easy to raise fish, and there is no need to wait for the fish to eat and drink Lasa. Chen Yu just likes this cozy feeling.
Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqin met each other on a blind date, and Zhong Xiaoqin gave Chen Yu the feeling that he was well-behaved and cute, and felt that the eye edge was OK, so he and Zhong Xiaoqin got married with a license.
What Chen Yu did not expect was that a Chen Xu he had only raised, there was another Zhong Xiaoqin, Zhong Xiaoqin was kind and cute, but she did not grow up and did not fake, such as clothes and shoes thrown everywhere, such as not doing housework, such as not living independently, as long as he went on a business trip, Zhong Xiaoqin would definitely go back to her parents' house to live until Chen Yu returned.
Chen Yu, who has been independent since childhood, is very unaccustomed to Zhong Xiaoqin's appearance, and has said how many times Zhong Xiaoqin has not changed at all, so Chen Yu is too lazy to say.
When Zhong Xiaoqin told Chen Yu that she was pregnant, Chen Yu decided to give up the child without thinking, he felt that the two of them must not be able to raise the child as they were, but Zhong Xiaoqin felt in her heart that Chen Yu did not love her.
When the married women in the company talked about the concept of marriage, and said that the child is the glue between husband and wife, Zhong Xiaoqin decided to give birth to this child, she felt that her home was too cold, cold is not like a home, usually come back from work, Chen Yu is busy with his fish, she takes care of herself, raises cats, even husband and wife life is fixed once a month, she and Chen Yu's husband and wife are more and more similar to "sharing".
Just when Zhong Xiaoqin was ready for the arrival of the little life, but it was checked out that the fetus was not developing well, the fetus stopped, Zhong Xiaoqin could not accept such a reality, obviously when she was checked last time, she also clearly heard the child's powerful heartbeat, how could it be said that it was gone!
Zhong Xiaoqin was sad, but Chen Yu actively made an appointment with the doctor for the specific time of Zhong Xiaoqin's abortion surgery, and Zhong Xiaoqin saw all this in her eyes and resented it in her heart.
Zhong Xiaoqin returned home after the abortion operation, Zhong Xiaoqin's mother had prepared meals, and also brought a change of clothes, planning to live for a long time, she wanted to live in their home to take care of Zhong Xiaoqin, Chen Yu saw the situation, and her heart was very unhappy.
Chen Yu was responsible for the manuscript did not pass the review, was reprimanded by the boss, the maternity leave was also canceled, Chen Yu was full of stomach anger, returned home from work, but found that his full tank of fish were turned over, Mother Zhong quickly explained that she wanted to use the socket, so the water pump of the fish tank was taken, Chen Yu was cold and lazy to pay attention to Mother Zhong, when eating, Mother Zhong took a plate of fish again, Chen Yu angrily dropped the bowl and chopsticks and went downstairs.
Zhong Xiaoqin did not hesitate to ask Chen Yu what he meant, Chen Yu did not say angrily, it was Mother Zhong who was strange, his fish would die, Mother Zhong heard the conversation between the two of them, and left in grievance.
Chen Yu didn't have any words of apology, and Zhong Xiaoqin didn't say anything.
In the blink of an eye, Zhong Xiaoqin's birthday arrived, early in the morning she got up and dressed up carefully, she wanted to greet her thirtieth birthday beautifully, Chen Yu also prepared a surprise for her, entrusting people to set a place in that difficult to find Internet red restaurant, they want to have a romantic dinner together.
Chen Xu's lawyer called and told Zhong Xiaoqin that Chen Yu's phone could not be called, so they went to the detention center to pay Chen Xu a fine, Zhong Xiaoqin called Chen Yu again, and sent WeChat, Chen Yu never returned to her, no way, Zhong Xiaoqin only had to go to the detention center to pay the fine, after paying the fine, suddenly it rained heavily, turning Zhong Xiaoqin into a soup chicken, and the mobile phone was broken.
On the other side, Chen Yu was interrogated by his boss about the rumors of job hopping, the stakes were very high, Chen Yu had to explain to his boss all the time, and when he was busy calling Zhong Xiaoqin, Zhong Xiaoqin's mobile phone broke down and shut down.
The long-standing anger spread in the hearts of the two people, the two had a big fight, and the divorce was put on the agenda.
Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu divorced in this way.
Sometimes, things are like this, when there is a contradiction in the marriage, one does not ask, one does not say, accumulated over time, the contradiction will be more and more, when all the accumulated grievances accumulate to a point, the consequences of the outbreak will be difficult to recover.
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After the divorce, Zhong Xiaoqin felt relaxed and free, and when no one was in charge, she bought it when she wanted to buy it, and ate it when she wanted, which was very casual.
Zhong Xiaoyang, a colleague in the company, knew that Zhong Xiaoqin was divorced and pursued her little sister, who was a few years older.
Zhong Xiaoqin also tried to accept Zhong Xiaoyang, followed Zhong Xiaoyang to the bar, down the dance hall, went to camping, and she tried it again whenever she played young.
Slowly, Zhong Xiaoqin was obviously physically weak, she felt that a few years younger was really different, she realized that there was a generation gap between her and Zhong Xiaoyang, Zhong Xiaoyang was still not suitable for her!
After Chen Yu's divorce, he was not as happy and free as Zhong Xiaoqin, and the tradition in his bones made him feel that although he and Zhong Xiaoqin were divorced, in his subconscious, Zhong Xiaoqin was still his wife chen Yu, and several times he saw the picture of Zhong Xiaoyang sending Zhong Xiaoqin home, he was bitter.
The bitterness in his heart made Chen Yu break the jar and break it, and he had no motivation at work before, he didn't have anything to do, he drank at home when he had nothing to do, he was in a daze, he looked like he was doing his own thing, and he loved to drop it.
Chen Xu couldn't look down at Chen Yu's look, and ran to tell Zhong Xiaoqin about his brother's recent situation, and Zhong Xiaoqin couldn't bear to see Chen Yu's decadent look.
Finally one day, when Zhong Xiaoyang and Zhong Xiaoqin were playing outside, Chen Xu called and told Zhong Xiaoqin that his brother was going back to his hometown, and it was possible that he would never come back, Zhong Xiaoqin could not sit still, she knew that she had never forgotten Chen Yu in her heart, compared to Zhong Xiaoyang, or Chen Yu was more suitable for her, more understanding of her, she was also used to living under Chen Yu's wings, she inadvertently made a move, Chen Yu knew what she wanted? She said a little message, Chen Yu can also find her, this feeling is like the left hand and the right hand, touching there is no feeling, but familiar with each other, this familiar feeling is to make her feel solid and at ease!
The brief separation gave Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqin a taste of the pain of losing each other, and Chen Yu decided to find Zhong Xiaoqin again, and Zhong Xiaoqin was willing to give him this opportunity.
Two people driving a caravan, while walking and playing, recalling the past, the feelings of the two people gradually warmed up, Zhong Xiaoqin found out how he was in the blessing and did not know the blessing, those chickens and dogs in the family are Chen Yu alone in silent pay, he is just the one who enjoys it with peace of mind!
Chen Yu also saw that Zhong Xiaoqin was not useless, kind, filial piety, not to mention, or a potential writer, and his ability to absorb gold was also leveraged.
The two people who have discovered each other's strengths are living more and more beautifully.
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Some people say that Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu are two people who are not suitable, one is lively and one is slow and hot; one likes cats, one likes fish; one needs to be pampered, and one likes independence.
And I think that they can just complement each other, just like Mother Zhong thought, the daughter who has not grown up just has a man with good character and strong self-care ability to take care of, and Chen Yu is the best candidate.
Although Chen Yu is not good at sweet talk, but he is steady and down-to-earth, even if he is divorced, he does not go out to indulge, and he will not go around like some men, Chen Yu's quality is the most precious in today's society.
Chen Yu has a manly temperament, divorced all the things in the family at will Zhong Xiaoqin to pick, even if Zhong Xiaoqin did not ask, he resolutely gave up half of the house to Zhong Xiaoqin.
Chen Yu's Gu family will live a life, and there is no bad habit. After Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu got married, they never worried about the water, electricity, gas, etc. at home, and chen yu was handling all big and small things, and Chen Yu rarely went out to eat, drink, and have fun.
I think most parents approve of such a son-in-law!
No one is perfect, and Chen Yu's biggest problem is that there are problems, he is not good at communication, and he likes the Cold War. Fortunately, he discovered his problem in time, reflected and had the courage to admit his mistake, and regained Zhong Xiaoqin.
In fact, Zhong Xiaoqin's request is also very simple, she just hopes that Chen Yu can accompany her more, and what happy or unhappy things at work can be shared with Chen Yu, rather than when they are together, each doing their own thing, there is no mutual in sight.
In marriage, harmonious coexistence is a science, of which effective communication is crucial, communication is good, all problems are solved, communication fails, contradictions will accumulate, and then quarrels, resentment, frustration with this relationship, and finally the marriage will disintegrate.
Just like a discussion of Gu Jia in the play: two people together, 80% are bland days, 20% are ups and downs, if these 20% are well lived, they can offset the previous 80% unsatisfactory days, if they go badly, the feelings will be difficult to recover.
I think that's true of feelings, and even more so about marriage!